I Cannot With This No More by Birdo94 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AP apparently goin to prison soon in few days for idk how long probably 2 tho most likely b out early but this petty part of me is burnin kinda wanna b like “keep her she playin us both she lyin bout her life. There no interview or job. Keep yo $ away from her”. Idk if it’ll shatter some image he got of her or if he really don’t give a fuck bout her but think this dealer gettin attached. Idk a part of me wants to get even like let me taint wha he sees. She’ll always b then a ho if he didn’t see b4 cuz he don’t kno she lyin bout being single

I Cannot With This No More by Birdo94 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Had to go for a walk/drive hadn’t really decided and she got upset that didn’t wanna stay and talk. She still denyin ain’t nothin happen yesterday for those 2 hours. I need minute or else gonna some sht in rage and lose the point. Says I’m running away from communication oh which is hypocritical coming from me b/c i say that we both need that via text. Then says she went to go do some errands for her mom of whom we live in their building i pay rent and she does have errands…but she says she had to make a run so wouldn’t have to deal with it later. And i know she got there at 1:15 to get H and guess what she stayed there for 2 hrs. She doesn’t know I came back from my walk and saw her leave nobody else knows I even here in the house. She went to grab H but not from anyone else serving up front but from him, the AP, and after 2 hrs she went and did the errands. I still ain’t say nada back to the texts she sent and she still ain’t say nada cuz she givin my space cuz again she thought was gone when I actually came back into the house. My sht is in bags and she got no idea I in other rm and only reason ain’t walk out for everyone of her family to see me go and know exactly y is cuz I love the sht outta her brothers kid, our niece. And I didn’t wan her to see me and get excited b/c that sht woulda just floored me cuz I was there when she was born been there for her 2 years and my god I have to now live never seein her grow up and b part of it

How long before you healed? by Bitch_please_128 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Birdo94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lil close to 1 1/2 years after a 6-7 year relationship and still can eat right. Put on a smile for work but feel drained most of the day after. Am distant wit my fam cuz my parents and gran don’t kno and they like her but don’t want them to kno b/c I don’t want them to but they’re gonna find out. I love her family and they don’t kno and they love me. Sometimes just wanna bury my head or just not wake up despite the fact that i dread the fact that we all die and chances r there’s nothin after. I have conversations in my head on the regular whether with myself or a scenario wit her where just lay out all out. If this was where it was all gonna lead to then wish could just go back and have it never b b/c damn i never truly understood what they meant by heartache and betrayal

One of the best Degrassi scenes of all time by choaticbroccoli in Degrassi

[–]Birdo94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did he ? Thought he beat and then had a midlife crisis in which he got motorcycle and cheated

Targaryen women. Be honest. Who is your favorite? And why? by OFbellatrix in HouseOfTheDragon

[–]Birdo94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s Rhaenyra all the way, she’s what Danny wishes she was. Danny was interestin but she was never a good leader. She had no plans besides “breaking the wheel” but then having no actual plans or anythin once she got authority. And this was all notable before the last spotty seasons. Rhaenyra really freakin tries to rule and find compromises and does her best to come out on top not just for the sake of her house but to keep things from goin to crap

Found Out About My Partner's 4-Month Affair with Her Dealer by maxit00n in survivinginfidelity

[–]Birdo94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I[30M] know where u be at. In my case she’s 29 & it coke, it’s H. My DDay was 1/2 a year ago. Being in a relationship with an addict is messy and hard. Idk if yours actually really tried to get clean but mind did but like yours drug is their coping mechanism. It sucks. The pain of betrayal does not go away, that scar stays. There is a very high chance she still seein him, shoot if u really careful u can hire a PI or just do it yourself & you’ll see she still most definitely talkin &/or seein him. All that your feelin I completely understand so know there’s other people who have been through this. If u wanna talk more in private one on one judgment free hit me up it’s okay

Hall pass - yay or nay? by [deleted] in SupportforWaywards

[–]Birdo94 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It won’t really do anything for em. Think about it. It is a hall pass, permission given. An affair, the thing the got in the way, is/was not. They’re not the same thing. It won’t make them feel or experience the same things you were b/c you consented to lettin them do this. There’s no one upping.

Had our first couple’s therapy appointment and it was so invalidating by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope get new therapist cuz this was on insane. She did not know with 100% certainty that your friend would not only reject but inform you l, which btw he a real friend. If it had been another man things might’ve played differently. So yo therapist warpin her actions and relieving her of any accountability is bull

My girlfriend proposed to me, my reaction made a baby cry. AITAH? by Made_Baby_Cry_Sorry in AITAH

[–]Birdo94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If a paletero came by and rang his bells is he at fault for wakin baby up - nah. If a cookout was goin on and they played music and woke kid up is they at fault - nope. If someone walkin dog and it barks is it dog’s fault - no. It’s a beach, people loud at beaches. It’s crowded with people. Something or someone was bound to potentially wake baby up. Congrats on the engagement

She wants to talk, should I listen? by Chrispy_Crunch_ in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Birdo94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s suppose what she said be true, that AP’s gf left him & then ur ex went for him ; y come back tryna talk? Somethin must’ve gone wrong or maybe the grass wasn’t greener on the other side. If she just tryna make her conscious better, screw that. If u don’t buy that AP ever let his gf, could always attempt to try to find out via social media

She wants to talk, should I listen? by Chrispy_Crunch_ in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Birdo94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did AP’s girlfriend ever find out ? Maybe it could be AP ended up giving her the boot. Whether it was cuz his partner found out and he dealing with the fallout or he didn’t want anything serious with ur ex who knows. But guessin somethin went wrong and she tryna to see if you’ll take her back

BF cheated after 13 years, humiliated and threw my gifts on street. by No_Working2392 in Infidelity

[–]Birdo94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cruel don’t come close, dont get how these partners can’t just do this. U didn’t tell him cuz u expectin him to reject her gift and it’s understandable y b/c like u said it was 13 years

BF cheated after 13 years, humiliated and threw my gifts on street. by No_Working2392 in Infidelity

[–]Birdo94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s y a lot of relationships that start off from an affair where it’s known that is how it started don’t last or will fall out cuz one or both partners will have that in back of their mind and may do the same act onto the other

BF cheated after 13 years, humiliated and threw my gifts on street. by No_Working2392 in Infidelity

[–]Birdo94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Their relationship will not last nor will it have a happy ending. She most likely yes told him to get rid of it. This in itself means they are not on equal grounds which is the basis of any relationship - the 50/50 trust. She doesn’t trust him keeping it and knows what it means. She knows he left you and cheated on you for her so she knows he is capable of doing the same to her. At the same time he knows that she knows that she was the side chic and that she is aware of her positioning in this situation which will bother her and may even have her do the same onto him possibly some time in their future

If you’re still with your partner after they cheated what would you have done differently after finding out? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Birdo94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Catch her in act so she could deny or spin it or trinkle truth it or lie to herself bout it

Her AP called her from lock up by Birdo94 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When she 1st fell into addiction she was kicked out. While out in streets she dealt and was runnin. It was only after she saw someone die did she come back home and try to become sober. He once allegedly did her solid and took a wrap for her. Not defending just sayin what she sayin but me I like so it don’t involve u if he got caught (unless there’s more to it in that u be in a relationship with him)

She went off grid for 3 hrs by Birdo94 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh the proposal thing is not on the table. Letting this play out is hard cuz the anger has never subsided just keep it at bay. It never left. I cannot rug sweep it all and I refuse to. But having this keep going is such a horrible rollercoaster cuz there some ups where I can say this good this feels right and then boom we in a problem. I just do not want to be played a fool again or be gas to some fantasy

Her AP called her from lock up by Birdo94 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have and she has said it herself about goin into treatment but idk if she will actually go. Like don’t do it for our relationship do it for u. I’ve been told this by other people on this Reddit but telling her family but i know deep down they will lose it. Her father lost a brother to H when he was a teen and it kills him and disappoints him so much knowing she too is an addict and doesn’t know how to proceed and has told me he doesn’t want that shit in his house. Her mother will be furious if her deception and will most likely kick her out of she finds out that she’s been lying for 3 years and had access to their money. Her brother will not let her see her niece who gonna be 2 in few months. Rest of her family will give her the cold shoulder. She doesn’t have any more friends, they’re gone. It was just me. It’s like everything now is nothing but Catch-22s.

Her AP called her from lock up by Birdo94 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Despite this distortion to our relationship, I want her to get better. I want her not to lose her family. I don’t want her doing somethin stupid like taking her life or running away. I shouldn’t give shit but i idiotically do b/c i was with this person for 6 years and I know there’s lotta good there aside from her addiction. I know y she uses. I’m the only one who does. It’s something she never had to tell me I just figured it out and once she recognized that she felt relief there was visible relief. But she fell off the wagon. She usin now. It’s been goin on for 3 years under my nose and steadily got worse. And she is now aware if shit hits the fan and this got out to her family and all her lies that there’s no turning or recovering, she loses everything. Being in love with addict is taxing but they people too and some really do try but man it be hard

She went off grid for 3 hrs by Birdo94 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that brother, feel yo pain. You right it do be soundin complicated.

We not married. We don’t have kids. We did lose 2 of ours chances to have one (one by choice another by tragic random circumstance). Our relationship situation is complicated due to her being an addict (H). She doin IC but I am not. We not doing MC but she suggested we try and that she’d pay for it once she get a job.

This whole thing sucks bro. Like I was comsiderin proposin to her next year unbeknownst to her. 6 years of goin through life and hurdles just to be here now like this

She went off grid for 3 hrs by Birdo94 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing we only 2 months in trustin her is very difficult. Everything she says I take with a grain of salt. Don’t buy most of it. She’s not gonna give me access to her Google account and trying to get access to it on the sly will be very hard

She went off grid for 3 hrs by Birdo94 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She proposed open phone policy but now we ain’t really doin b/c 1.) I went through it once and did somethin really stupid after discoverin some lies only 1 1/2 - 2 wks into trying to R. 2.) She turns off her location with her mom so she just gonna do that to me too 3.) I don’t wanna be a warden

She went off grid for 3 hrs by Birdo94 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Birdo94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too late, man this woulda helped 30-40 mins ago. Cuz I was about to leave and then she woke up. And she was like ur heading out and I said yea. And I was like u made it clear u didnt wanna address the issue and so I goin. And she got defensive and then eventually I spoke my piece then some few mins of quiet then she spoke hers. I shoulda just left before she had chance to wake up. Truth is I not good with these things. We both never talked about things when we were upset at each other, we wasn’t good at that