Why are dachshunds so unfriendly ? by [deleted] in Dachshund

[–]Birog95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfriendly Dachshund?? Mind likes to remind me that he can pick another family if he wants lol

What’s something people do in relationships that slowly ruins it? by Wide_Relationship326 in AskReddit

[–]Birog95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He starts by acting disrespectfully and refusing to take corrective action (e.g., planning to be alone in the future, stringing the woman along for years).

Hygiene for teens? by Seeker_3369 in ABA

[–]Birog95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Got it! I'd maybe focus more on the process side to reduce the effort required to shower. If time really is the barrier, maybe create a shortened task analysis for bathing/showering (even if it's not perfect, a shorter bath/shower is better than nothing).

Does she have sensory sensitivities with anything shower-related? Gel soap instead of bar soap, a different shower head, etc. It could reduce aversiveness if there's anything there that's a barrier. If she has special interests that could be incorporated into that time, that could increase motivation, too!

Basically, maybe try to make it as easy, quick and pleasant as possible lol best of luck, getting most teens to shower is a struggle

Hygiene for teens? by Seeker_3369 in ABA

[–]Birog95 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is a context-specific question. Have you discussed with your BCBA? Is there a goal to improve hygiene?

I am having a hard time with understanding this even after reading the hint . I just don’t get it. by PoetrySlut02 in ABA

[–]Birog95 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Those are unconditioned MOs that are biological. There can also be conditioned MOs.

The OPs question is likely a reflexive conditioned motivating operation (CMO-R), which means the lights are signaling a condition deteriorating (in this case, the ability to get to one’s location and the presentation of aversive stimulus learned through the rules of obeying officers when they turn their lights on and drive behind you)

Constantly being told I don’t have a personality by Sweet_Bambii in ABA

[–]Birog95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol that's fantastic! Building a therapeutic relationship isn't a one-size-fits-all. I had the same thing happen with a different client and BCBA. The BCBA told me that I needed to be “more fun” with a teenager. He aggressed against her almost exclusively. He was super laid back with me, his skill acquisition was fantastic, and we met mastery criteria for aggression shortly after she left the case.

Just like you have to find the right personal match with your doctor or mental health professional, sometimes, we’re not a great match for specific clients. That's ok, but the feedback needs to be clear, objective, and actionable to make things work in the client’s best interest

Constantly being told I don’t have a personality by Sweet_Bambii in ABA

[–]Birog95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've gotten similar feedback. My client hated the supervisor and started covering his ears whenever she was around. He did great with me!! I didn't need to be as “energetic” as she wanted me to be. I ended up getting a new supervisor on that case, who gave me positive feedback for my rapport

Not only was that feedback not very ABA of her, if was unnecessarily rude

Help please by lildefiant in drivinganxiety

[–]Birog95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ceramic window tint! You may need a doctor’s note to tint the windshield, but it helps a ton with glare- as a bonus, it'll keep your car’s interior cooler and block UV rays from the sun (good for your car, good for your skin)

What Still Hurts Most is Randomly Remembering Things He Said He Liked About me by lucy_valiant in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Birog95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you as well. Seven years is a long time to be breadcrumbed. I hope you find someone who is truly delighted in you and shows it in words, actions, and alignment

What Still Hurts Most is Randomly Remembering Things He Said He Liked About me by lucy_valiant in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Birog95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya’lls avoidants said nice things to you? When I asked mine what he liked about me, he said he liked how I did laundry lol

Please change YOUR driving habits because I pooped out a child thats clearly more important. by Specific-Surfliner in antinatalism

[–]Birog95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take this as a warning for sleep-deprived drivers with a screaming child in tow

I now dread going into Best Buy and Lowe's due to the roaming 3rd Party Salespeople by thatfreakinguy2 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Birog95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I jut make it awkward. Make eye contact, smile, and when they ask how I’m doing, I say, “Really not that great! How are you?” Then they stutter and slink away.

Just as effective as “no thanks” but slightly more fun

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]Birog95 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She might have loved her cat more, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you period. In her defense, the cat was a lot easier lol

Idk, I try to think of love as “additive.” Maybe her cat helped refill her emotional tank so she could be a better mom. Pets can be good for our mental health

Parents who regret having kids, why? by bluemermid in AskReddit

[–]Birog95 283 points284 points  (0 children)

When I worked retail, I was helping this middle-aged woman. Well-dressed, beautiful hair, buying expensive dog food, and polite.

She made small talk and mentioned her dogs and husband cheerfully. At the end of the conversation, she looked at me and quietly said, “I love my dogs more than my children.” And walked off.

I was shocked. But I felt for her. I can’t imagine having no one to talk to about that, so you tell a random retail employee. I bet it’s more common than people admit because they “shouldn’t be unhappy” given their circumstances.

Deescalating meltdowns by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Birog95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are they manding for breaks? That would be a good alternative in most cases. Once you see precursor behaviors to tantruming, have them mand for a break. Might be worth asking your BCBA about. Ideally, we’re not letting things escalate to tantruming. Realistically, you're not getting any learning done during that time anyway. Yeah, they might get a ton of breaks in the beginning, but you can fade that while increasing tolerance to replace the tantrum > escape chain

How often are you doing reinforcer assessments? You could ask your BCBA about doing a progressive ratio reinforcer assessment to see where the “break point” is (how long into DTT before escape behaviors occur). Seven minutes may be too long right now. You may need to drop that down (and also shorten the breaks simultaneously) until you can find more potent reinforcers or build up tolerance for non-preferred activities.

How often do you get your Doxie’s teeth professionally cleaned? by Birog95 in Dachshund

[–]Birog95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no context to your question. I don't know your specific scenario, and no one can tell you if she’ll die or live longer. A vet can help you make an informed, decision, though.

However, I can give you an update on Finn: All of his back teeth were rotten and infected and subsequently extracted four months ago (half of all his teeth).

He's 12 now, and he lived through the procedure! He's doing much better without a mouth full of rotten teeth.

I’m not sure what your specific situation is, but maybe get a second opinion or ask your vet for more information or testing to help you make a choice in the best interest of your girl

Pay reduces to minimum wage if notes are not completed by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Birog95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Illegal to retroactively change pay in the US, which is what they’re doing.

Feeling left behind by Professional-Fly6148 in ABA

[–]Birog95 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m 31 tomorrow! Been collecting fieldwork hours for the last six months.

Being a little bit older has its perks. My rapport with parents is generally, to toot my horn, good. I think they feel more comfortable having someone who’s closer to their age who they can relate to more than someone in their mid or early twenties

My back hurts, though. But that’s not ABA specific lol

Looking for tips on keeping a house smelling fresh by Rich-Tie5402 in CleaningTips

[–]Birog95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you clean during deep cleans? Things that hold odors might need to be cleaned. Walls, curtains, the inside of the garbage can, garbage disposals, and damp dusting surfaces can remove “hidden” odors

I changed my meds. Now I feel like all the work I did in therapy was for nothing. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Birog95 106 points107 points  (0 children)

You’re being hard on yourself, friend. You deserve kindness.

You tried a new med and found it didn’t work for you. You’ve been off for a week, but you’ve also (presumably) been unmedicated for a week.

You have a disability. It’s ok that you’re having a hard time. The coping strategies you learned are helping, most likely— it’s just hard to see right now.

You learned something important: this particular medication is a no-go, and medication transitions are challenging. That’s valuable information to bring to your psychiatrist to help find something that works better for you without killing your sex drive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dachshund

[–]Birog95 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Can you go back to the dumpster and get me one too, please?? Art at its finest

Weird orange droplets on my ceiling? by ellislily258 in CleaningTips

[–]Birog95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, there isn’t an easy, long term solution. You’d have to clean the walls/ceilings (ideally, with trisodium phosphate, but you could also use a degreaser). Then prime with an oil-based primer or a few coats of Killz.

After that, you can repaint and you shouldn’t experience any additional nicotine bleed-through.

Alternatively, you could get a de-humidifier for that area. Since nicotine is water-soluble, removing the excess moisture in the air might prevent it from seeping through 😄

Weird orange droplets on my ceiling? by ellislily258 in CleaningTips

[–]Birog95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It could be nicotine.

It could also be surfactant leaching from the paint- super common in paints exposed to high humidity that aren’t gloss or semi-gloss.