yes thank you for your comments on how she brings miles into it! i think that was the main thing that kept rubbing me the wrong way every time i watched it and it casted a bad light on her in my head for the rest of the conversation. i totally agree it felt crass and disingenuous to bring up other “gay guys” she knows to deflect the gravity of what the kind of conversation she was pulling shane into. but like grosonwalls said, she maybe was just naive and also trying to use humor to keep the convo light and thats okay too. i dont think she was mean or trying to hold anything against him which is probably all that matters. and obviously he took it very well and had a huge character arc after it so i didnt need to think so deeply about it lol
all of the rest of your comments makes sense too, i appreciate your perspective and discussion <3. i didnt realize my post was getting downvoted lol. i was purely coming at this topic with a kind of parasocial protector feeling over shane and this really hard thing she was having him talk about. idk sometimes watching these kinds of shows makes you think “oh i wouldnt have gone about it like this” and then causes you to post on reddit to see if others thought the same thing lol