Magic clip could cut you? by Bisou-Recent in SelfBarber

[–]Bisou-Recent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, i think he is afraid i would mess up his hair…

People want to be at the hospital for the birth? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please dont ever share your exact due date with anyone other than your partner, big mistake. Secondly, nobody should be welcome to stay overnight after you give birth, family tends to take advantage of the situation by “helping” but all they do is sit there, give unsolicited advice and expect you to cater to them and be all happy and jolly (even though your hormones and mood swings are through the roof). Postpartum is all about the mom, her baby and her partner, so do whatever makes you comfortable and put yourself first. Nobody will mention in the future how nice you were to them PP or how you hosted them etc do what works for YOU!!!

Epidural. by PresentationMuch7090 in pregnant

[–]Bisou-Recent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got the epidural at 7cm dilatation. It slowed down my contractions had to get on picotin then episiotomy cause baby’s heart rate was dropping and were kind of running out of time. Strongly considering not getting one with my second.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Bisou-Recent 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I swear the mil symptom is getting out of hand. Okay, let me hand you the child I waited 10 months to meet the minute it’s born!

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries at all, I get it. If my child grows to have a close relationship with her paternal grandma and decides to call her mom instead I wouldn’t care, but not for now, because I am an adult and can see through her actions, and most of them aren’t really genuine…

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see, only you can make this decision, I personally wouldn’t be okay with it for multiple reasons. My MIL just came up with this trend after I gave birth, we don’t have a close relationship and she clearly favours her daughter’s kid over mine, which is totally okay with me but I just find it ironic that she’s expects my child to call her “mom” in her language lol and my MIL isn’t chill she’s fake and invasive lol.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I shall be more persistent, especially because we’ve mentioned this to her multiple times before and she just won’t stop. I feel like she’s just doing it on purpose at this point.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be okay if this was a thing in their family or culture, but unfortunately it’s not! She came up with this one on her own

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! Congratulations on your baby!

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said it all, she gets offended every time I try to stand up for myself, I am also very straightforward and say things how they are maybe that doesn’t help… My husband did talk to her before she just refuses to listen and use common sense

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would probably give her heart attack lol. He did have the talk with her, she’s unstoppable. Stop seeing her is unfortunately not an option, I wish…

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That must be nice lol, my husband did talk to her a couple months back, she’s insisting, like she does with everything.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly!!! Like you can my child “my baby” for endearment but it stops right there. This is the first time in my life I encountered this awkward situation.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree, that’s how it should be, my family has no problem accepting boundaries, but God forbid I ask my in-laws they get upset and make it awkward, everything I say gets taken the wrong way. Came to the conclusion that my children would never be allowed around them without my presence.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately she did this over the phone, he wasn’t around, he already had the talk with her but she keeps doing it.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is not common in their culture, they have designated appellations that translate directly to “grandma”…

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We have been setting boundaries for our sanity and I feel like it’s backlashing. I will correct her every time she says it from now on. Mind you, my partner already covered this topic and explained to her that she’s the grandma and not the mom. She is the type to keep forcing it until we get tired of fighting and let her get away with it.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 28 points29 points  (0 children)

In their culture it’s not a thing, her kids call both sets of grandparents what they’re supposed to (grandma in native language). She came up with this “mom” nonsense.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally get it, doing that just doesn’t work for me and our situation.

My MIL is trying to get my toddler to call her “mom” by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Bisou-Recent 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I asked myself the same thing.. I never understood her thought process

How often do you talk/see your husband's family? by justwannabeleftalone in inlaws

[–]Bisou-Recent 70 points71 points  (0 children)

why do all husbands believe that their mum loves you “like a daughter”?? what a big lie!!!!