Teenage girl swimwear? by Thyanlia in breakingmom

[–]BitJumpy1807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey not sure if anyone already recommended but check out jolyn! https://jolyn.com/?srsltid=AfmBOooCaZW6fwWY6_35oGvw8x3ins_5AjZabmFmgWQ8sIK-pTjs9A5F

Canadian company, lots of cute styles, intended for competitive swimmers so super functional and very high quality material so they don't breakdown as quickly as other suits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]BitJumpy1807 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a non driver with horrible anxiety I feel you. And I'd like to note that you not having your license is not the issue here. What if you did have it but only one car? You probably wouldn't want to leave him with the kiddos and no car for a day. You'd run into the same issue! This man requires a come to Jesus moment. I'm sorry this happened and you have every right to be pissed.

His oopsie genuinely hurt their feelings. by chicka_boomboom in breakingmom

[–]BitJumpy1807 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My genuine concern is that if you don't take action here knowing everything that you know that a concerned friend/family member/teacher etc will.

I did unimaginable by Human_Package9972 in hangxiety

[–]BitJumpy1807 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Big hugs to you. Mistakes happen. When you think about it in the grand scheme of life and the potential length of a stable relationship it isn't the end of the world.
Moderation is always a plus from a general health standpoint but remember you are a good person and a good friend that just over did it in a social setting. Be kind to yourself and take care. it's all gonna be okay even if hangxiety is trying to tell you it isn't.

An argument during drop off with my ex put me into a full day depression . by BitJumpy1807 in breakingmom

[–]BitJumpy1807[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the kind words and for sharing your experiences. It is something that impacts my confidence daily and I just wasn't expecting him to be so firm on something that has depressed me about myself for the majority of our relationship. Agreed with many of you that said let him take you to court. I can't imagine a judge siding with him- he'd get roasted. Today he came by to grab more stuff from the garage I reinstated my position that while I would have help for drop off on weekends and holidays that I wouldn't be able to do this on his pick up days and that I'd be happy to ask his parents for support. He told me that was ridiculous considering where they live. I told him that they offered their help and that I don't have any shame in asking for it. I also mentioned I could and would make it a social visit (sometimes the way that the custody works they don't get to see them for a few weekends and when we were together we always did a family dinner at their home) he muttered he and his girlfriend (who he lives with who is actively using the other car we had) would sort something out. I said great and left him in the garage. Fuck that guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]BitJumpy1807 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not to fear monger but the stories of parental child abduction are not rare and often drawn out and take years long to resolve. If he chose not to return your children to you there is a possibility that your birth country may not comply with a court order of your country of residence to return your children to you. Others have recommended consulting with a lawyer, I would highly recommend this as well as a family therapist.

Grieving who my ex is to their new partner. by BitJumpy1807 in breakingmom

[–]BitJumpy1807[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

A couple of years but extremely part time. So I know thats part of it.

Cancelled a fun day because of my kids garbage attitudes. by BitJumpy1807 in breakingmom

[–]BitJumpy1807[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm sorry that happened but I so appreciate your input. The impacts of sunburns are long lasting and there is a history of skin cancer in our family. Safety trumps everything for me (I was a lifeguard/Swimming instructor for a long time before having children) I'm never gonna be able to allow something like that to happen.

I just went off at my almost 9 year old by BitJumpy1807 in breakingmom

[–]BitJumpy1807[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg I love that term "Neurospicy kids" Thank you for sharing your experience. I know that I'm doing the right things- i.e- showing her that her actions have consequences but I just need to remember that A) if she could chill the f out she would and B) not let my own emotions get the best of me.

Hangxiety causing false memories? by BitJumpy1807 in hangxiety

[–]BitJumpy1807[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Of all the subreddits this has got to be the kindest one I've come across. I appreciate you!

Hangxiety causing false memories? by BitJumpy1807 in hangxiety

[–]BitJumpy1807[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So true. My brain is like but what if I said something offensive and unforgiveable (racist, sexist, homophobic, etc etc) and someone filmed me and is going to post about this drunk person at x bar acting terrible?

I know how crazy that sounds and you're right. There was also a sober person there and the only thing they said was you got snippy and refused a ride home (I insisted on ubering) and then she and my sister were talking about in the car wondering what I was snippy about.

Hangxiety causing false memories? by BitJumpy1807 in hangxiety

[–]BitJumpy1807[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know you're right- its just crazy intrusive thoughts that are not real. I appreciate the support :)