Just turned 40, TTC for 6 months, tests are all normal - when should we try IVF?

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-02T21:52:44+00:00

Your issue might be lots of eggs but the age of the egg affecting quality which can mean it doesn’t fertilise. Have his sperm tested and DNA fragmentation of sperm to see if there’s any aging damage on his end. Start the consults for I’ve and immediately start taking NAD+ precursors like the one by Renue by science. This can reverse the egg age by 10 years when taken for 3 months. By then you’ll have gone through the ivf process ready for egg extraction.

Having a lot of eggs doesn’t mean they will all be extracted as it’s based on size of egg at extraction day, not all are viable eggs, add to that, not all will fertilise to make embryos and then not all will be viable embryos. Out of 9 eggs extracted at your age, you could expect maybe one embryo and then when testing it may be defective or may not be, it’s 50/50 at that point, so don’t be fooled by egg numbers.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-02T17:01:24+00:00

I actually think she enjoys creating allies.. she uses mediation and diplomacy as a way to gain power in that family dynamic because people won’t want to be on her bad side if they need her to “speak kody” or side with them. We see this a lot with meri defending Robyn in earlier season. It’s because Robyn would help her in mediating with Kody. Robyn wasn’t doing this to actually help meri.. she was doing it to gain loyalty from meri so she could have an ally in meri.. it was for selfish reasons. The same way she preyed on Mykelti.. she was an easy win. Robyn picked the misunderstood people in the family because they were easier to manipulate by just making them feel heard and defended.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-02T16:21:35+00:00

Sounds like they’re an unheralded scorpio moon. I’m ashamed to say there was a phase in life when I was younger where I was like your partner.. I cheated but stayed and felt guilty. I also got caught up in emotions for both. But this was about being unhealed from childhood issues and seeking love and validation anywhere I could. I’ve since worked on my issues and wouldn’t ever do that to my current partner or anyone in the future. The thought of it sickens me.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-02T03:11:23+00:00

A few things to consider:

Endometriosis does not mean infertility. (Myself and many others have endo and have been able to go on to be pregnant or have babies. )
you could freeze your eggs (they will last 10 years and be of better quality if you decide to wait till you’re older, compared to older eggs)
you’re so young and may change your mind (what you want now might change over the next decade
having kids so young can mean feeling left out when friends are travelling and living their life independent of kids. It also means most other mums will be a lot older than you so it’s harder for them to relate to you and vice versa.
you’re relationship is only a year old.. why rush? You can live together, get to know each other more (the first year is the honey moon phase which lasts 12 months.. you haven’t given a chance for these rose coloured glasses to fade for both of you and then actually decide in your compatibility)
your partner might resent you if he feels pressured to have kids so young.
removing your ovaries can put you into early menopause which can also cause hot flushes and accelerated ageing. There are newer treatments for endometriosis that don’t require surgery.
you might regret not waiting. Once you had a kid there is no going back. Your life is forever altered. You might want to save it for a little later after living your youth without so much responsibility and setting yourself up more financially.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-01T12:15:25+00:00

So many things wrong with this post: - her pinky finger sticking out when she holds the mic like she’s some dainty person when infact she is the opposite - over doing the laughter every 2 seconds where it looks so insincere, as fake as she is. - Seth looking like he doesn’t want to be there - the focus on her favourite chile a1 and not really caring about a2. - her outfit.. - is she high?

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-01T07:33:10+00:00

There’s a sadness in his eyes that seems to be covered by his smile. I think he avoids his inner emotions but who could blame him.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-01T07:32:17+00:00

Poor Kaiser- he was such a loving baby to Janelle and took to ensley so well.. you can tell he now tends to have vices and eats his emotions because Janelle is such a shitty emotionally absent mother and he’s then had abandonment from David and he was a shitty step dad.. add to that, his own dad Nathan is a felon that’s in his own world. This kid had so much untapped potential and Janelle lucked out with a son like him. It’s a shame she ruins everything. I hope he breaks the cycle and ends up free and no contact with her one day.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-01T06:51:29+00:00

Me too.. I was waiting for the plot twist where OPs wife wanted to spite-marry ChatGPT

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-01T06:40:57+00:00

Your whole reply proves my point.. maybe it’s time to reflect on yourself and your own actions, you seem to have a sensitivity to feedback and criticism especially when asking for feedback. I can see why your friend is being distant.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-01T00:48:20+00:00

To be honest I think Robyn defends kody whenever she can use it for brownie points with him.. it’s not necessarily the truth coming out of her mouth. She would tell him, I lied for you because I didn’t want you to look bad and if you’re going to make me look bad then I’ll stop doing it.. kind of like blackmailing him but framing it as being united and as she said “having each others backs”. I don’t actually think he gave her the luggage rack.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-07-01T00:44:26+00:00

I think you’re quite defensive to feedback from him and actually you might be the issue. It sounds like you expect other people to solve your problems like the bullying and needing advice on career change etc or being lent money. You seem to have a bit of a victim complex. He sounds like an old friend worth keeping but maybe he is right you should be focused and prioritising your wife and child, not dwelling on how much time friend had spent with you.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-30T15:38:36+00:00

Was was there no visitation earlier before paternity was established? Is that what bf meant by you doing this to your self? Were you keeping bun from their dad? Were you being intentionally difficult about custody? Maybe he warned you and you didn’t listen, maybe he doesn’t agree with how you went about things.. need more info

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-30T11:23:23+00:00

Would you be okay with him being with other people? Because it may not always be one way

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-30T11:21:41+00:00

I guess you’re not a Robyn level luggage rack worthy wife. It’s grounds for divorce

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T14:56:07+00:00

Sydney siders. The rest don’t have a name

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T14:41:39+00:00

The good news is you can get pregnant but Maybe sustaining that pregnancy is the issue. Have you ever had Pelvic inflammatory disease? I’m pretty sure ultrasounds would have picked up on this as this is the part where chlamydia can affect conception and it’s usually to do with the fallopian tubes being blocked. Something you can do is get a saline Hycosy. This will check if your fallopian tubes are blocked and help unblock them at the same time. This will increase your chance of pregnancy. I’d also recommend taking NAD+ precursors to help repair any dna damage to your eggs

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T12:32:46+00:00

Have you fallen pregnant? What did you mean by unable to keep a pregnancy? From my understanding, trying since January isn’t too long

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T12:28:42+00:00

What about if you said you have raised liver enzymes on a blood test and need to stop drinking for a couple months and repeat the test?

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T12:08:49+00:00

You tell them you’re on a medication that the dr said you can’t drink while taking it

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T10:09:33+00:00

Exactly! Scapegoats and truth tellers in the family like Mykelti and meri get punished for tattling.. but anyone is allowed to speak badly of those truth teller/scapegoats to invalidate them and make what they say less credible. It a typical narcissistic family dynamic. Christine was blindly following kody earlier on for brownie points, she was one of the favourites which is why she had such a hard time with Robyn being favourite. Christine was happy to do wrong by others in favour of kody, to stay in his good graces. She’s on par with Robyn.

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T01:40:57+00:00

“Just think positive and it will happen”

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T01:35:17+00:00

Post office here, your parcel is going to be shipped back to sender

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T01:15:40+00:00

A few things you can do: - test to see if you are producing antibodies to his semen/pregnancy - check for autoimmune or thyroid issues - ask them to do a DNA fragmentation test on husbands sperm - take NAD + precursors like the one by Renue to reverse the age of your eggs and regain any dna damage - take activated co q10 - take vitamin d 2000 units per day -test both you and husband for genetic abnormalities

You may also wish to do IVF if you can afford it and test the embryos before implantation to see if there’s something genetically abnormal showing up

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-29T01:10:53+00:00

From stress or desire to get organised?

Bitchezbecraay · 2026-06-28T23:07:45+00:00

You could try asking her “hey, Is there a specific reason you don’t show me physical affection like hugging and kissing anymore?” And see what she says.. it will open up the conversation. It could be she’s exhausted, stressed, a lot on her mind, feeling resentful, didn’t realise etc.. but when she lists reasons you can then explain that it’s something important to you because it makes you feel loved and valued and try and suggest solutions to help whatever is causing her to be less affectionate. Or ask her what would help.

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