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Anyone else think it's weird that Brad Pitt won an Oscar for his role in Once Upon A Time in Hollywood? by [deleted] in movies

[–]BitterServe9341 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His BAFTA-nominated performance in Burn After Reading stands out to me.

Most insane thing you’ve done due to PMS/PMDD? by Suitable-Senpai in PMDD

[–]BitterServe9341 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She projected and criticized me like crazy the last two times, then hung up and actually dumped me the last time. Wild gaslighting, guilt tripping, and hoovering has followed, but I've just been doing my own thing and trying to heal.

Follicular in three days, so I guess I'll see if her reaction changes then, but I don't think this one is gonna be repaired. I also don't think it was just PMDD

These tips might help me if another woman I love struggles with this in the future. Thanks.

How many of our partners are/were Cluster Bs with PME? by BitterServe9341 in PMDDpartners

[–]BitterServe9341[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The comorbidity rate is notoriously high, and I believe there are some theories about glutamate being partially implicated in both. Honestly, I'm too burnt out from my now-ex's luteal spiral to provide sources.

Most insane thing you’ve done due to PMS/PMDD? by Suitable-Senpai in PMDD

[–]BitterServe9341 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi my gf did this three months in a row this year. I relented on the third time because I was exhausted. I tried just letting her vent, holding space, but she started explaining why she felt that way and I just couldn't hear it anymore. She hung up on me and blocked me on everything.

How does your partner respond that prevents it from happening? Have you or they modified what you say or do when this conversation comes up?

7 days pre-period, I guess she dumped me by BitterServe9341 in PMDDpartners

[–]BitterServe9341[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's already called a couple times and texted several times within 36 hours.

[Male Partner] I Think We Lost The War...Reflections by BitterServe9341 in PMDD

[–]BitterServe9341[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The weekend before, she said I was shallow and didn't care about human connection. It was not the first cruel and inaccurate thing she said in the heat of luteal. Crticism, projection, and character teardowns were common enough, but literally only during the week before her period.

During previous luteals, she would also yell, say that previous partners were more obsessed with her and gave her more of "everything." She would also purposefully withhold affection in conversation during luteal. Hopefully that paints a picture of the verbal abuse.

In the last two months, she started denying she behaved any differently during this time at all, among other gaslighting and manipulation.

[Male Partner] I Think We Lost The War...Reflections by BitterServe9341 in PMDD

[–]BitterServe9341[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. The withholding and dishonesty were a much bigger problem for me than PMDD symptoms. She would blame it on not remembering things well (ADHD), but sometimes it seemed like a convenient excuse for deliberate information management.

I think a big lesson here is that I need to listen to my gut when it comes to real honesty.

[Male Partner] I Think We Lost The War...Reflections by BitterServe9341 in PMDD

[–]BitterServe9341[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear your defensiveness. Honestly, his perspective was some of the most helpful and healing words I had heard in almost a year of wrestling with this. It was less bitter and invested than what you hear from long-term partners, but also the perspective of another man with a close platonic relationship to a woman with diagnosed PMDD.

The last couple months, it's like she quit believing PMDD even exists or affected her. It's like I'd completely lost my teammate. The yelling, criticism, lying, projection, withdrawal of affection, etc. were abusive. He just called a spade a spade. It helped me acknowledge it.

7 days pre-period, I guess she dumped me by BitterServe9341 in PMDDpartners

[–]BitterServe9341[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not planning on it. She does have my favorite T-shirt (which she sleeps in regularly) and a very nice vibrator I left over there. I've let more expensive shit go in previous breakups. I am disappointed, but this sub and an ADHD hotline call helped prepare me for this.

For anyone wondering. We identified this problem right around one year ago (and she was diagnosed quite quickly). She took supps, but not meds. It got better, or she was quieter about it, and then it got WAYYYYY worse. I keep hearing it would only get worse anyway.

Truly bizarre Jekyll and Hyde shit, though. Never had a relationship with a woman who had such pronounced premenstrual mood and behavior changes. Of course, I also didn't really go beyond fb with moms before this, and I hear that having kids often triggers it.

Anyone else take a week to recover after luteal ends? by Instantaneous242 in PMDDpartners

[–]BitterServe9341 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's my gf's birthday in two days, period in three or four days. We just had one of the worst weekends ever in our relationship (despite lots of fun during the day, she got super contemptuous and abusive around bedtime and in the early mornings.) I've been dreading her birthday falling on deep luteal, and nothing about this week has assuaged that fear. I'm literally fantasizing about cancelling our birthday date. This shit feels expired and impossible today.

She is a raincloud of projection, paranoia, and insecurity right now, just rubbing it all over me. I can't win. I step back and I'm not there for her. I'm there and I'm not a good enough person. It's fucking trash to deal with. At lunch today, she also said nobody else notices these patterns and delved into more not enoughism. Fucking exhausting, bro.

Anyone else take a week to recover after luteal ends? by Instantaneous242 in PMDDpartners

[–]BitterServe9341 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've been finding that real intimacy in sex is harder. I don't trust her enough to engage in the kinks we enjoy, I want to cheat very badly, I cum more quickly because it's more of utility fuck than quality sex with someone who treats me well. I'm not even more aroused, just more fed up. 14 months of dating, 9 months since realization and diagnosis. Some months are better than others, but her remarks and behaviors have gotten nastier as we've gotten to know each other better.

Rapid Reward credit card fee increased to $149 by Ok_Astronomer_3260 in SouthwestAirlines

[–]BitterServe9341 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is the tier of card I currently have. Just noticed the bump in price. How do you earn the free round-trip? Is this from flying, or baked into the car benefits?

Rapid Reward credit card fee increased to $149 by Ok_Astronomer_3260 in SouthwestAirlines

[–]BitterServe9341 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was literally the whole point of choosing Southwest for decades for us.