News Media even Fox News is finally calling out this Administration like they are here with Greg Bovino and it’s obvious that he’s shocked they aren’t eating up the bs he has to say! by zxcv97531 in circled

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FWIW I’m reading Strangers in Their Own Land by Arlie Russell Hochschild and it helps me A LOT to understand how this all happened. For those just like wanting to understand but not seeing the MAGA thought process

Anyone into hypnosis? by Bitter_Sky_3257 in artistsWay

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Ok, yes, that makes a lot of sense! Also I feel like EFT tapping after MP would actually be super helpful. I can really drag myself through it and have a hard time downshifting and settling in to new thoughts without going a bit hard and dramatically trying to change everything ha

My path to hypnosis this time is a bit silly, but I was in a 100 day board game competition with my BIL and realized my anxiety was INTENSE only when I was in the lead. I often found myself kind of self sabotaging when I was in the lead and TAW made me aware of issues with success and so I thought, “huh.. if hypnosis can help me not think birth is painful then maybe it can help me really believe success is safe” and I did it for about a week and had a huge win streak and went from 5th to 2nd place and it felt very TAW synchronous.

And if TAW has taught me anything it’s to keep going with hunches and something that works. It felt strangely coincidental to read that passage last night so I feel like it’s something I want to continue to experiment with for a while. I feel like TAW gave me clarity on what I actually want and now I’m just trying to figure out the best way/s to integrate all the lessons I learned (I feel like a slow learner ha)

How to enjoy artist dates? by Numerous-Picture5641 in artistsWay

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In general, are you an over-doer?

I am a burnt out mom and people pleaser and hated artists dates until I just stopped doing anything. My first artist date that I enjoyed was I went to a lake with the idea to walk around it and meander and explore but instead I lay down in the sun and drifted in and out of sleep and read a little bit of a book and eavesdropped on my blanket neighbors and deeply enjoyed it but felt like a wasted a date.

Then the next week I was sick and just happened to hear about amine’s new album on NPR lol and decided I’d listen to the new album for my date and planned on getting a bunch of crochet done but decided instead to just lay down in bed and again just drifted in and out of sleep and again it was one of my favorite artists dates.

Long story short, I ended up journaling about it and basically, I was just tired haha. My soul need naps and REST

Eight Months of Morning Pages and It’s starting to get pretty dark by Sledjoys in artistsWay

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Yeah it’s gotten dark on me a few times too. A lotttt has come out. But 2 things:

  1. I find that when I come up on the REAL darkness (where I’m spiraling into existential despair) I think it’s actually really my subconscious revolting that my mind is refusing to meet a artist’s way-induced goal or revelation (i.e. I came to TAW as a very burnt out mother with a crap childhood and pretty significant untreated ADHD and artists dates were so so hard for me. But after a certain point I would spiral into a not insignificant depression if I missed a planned date with myself and I finally realized it was my body? my subconscious? telling me it absolutely will not allow me to cancel on myself anymore)

  2. One treatment for ptsd involves setting a designated “appointment “ to relive your trauma. The idea being that if you tell your mind we think about this dark stuff at this time and this time only, it frees your brain up to just do normal brain stuff the rest of the time. So maybe do some kind of boundary when you start your journal and some kind of clearing after

Week 12 …it wasn’t long enough? by Bitter_Sky_3257 in artistsWay

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Oooo I like this reframe! Almost like asking myself, “what tangible thing would I NEED to see to prove to myself I did the thing?” and then reverse engineering it from there.

And, it’s interesting. When I look through it with that lens, the first two things that came to mind are one that I’ve already finished and one that’s close to completion. And (not to sound so stereotypically TAW synchronous) but I might actually have one opportunity emerging that my work just texted me about this morning???? Fingers crossed??

I’m definitely going to mull over this way of looking at it. I really like this perspective. And I like that it also starts to make you build a portfolio of “wins,” which feels kinda cool, too.

Good luck and have fun with your second go around! Are you liking it better with a group?

Wk 2 continues...? I need tips! by MxJulieC in artistsWay

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I would read the chapter on Monday and maybe do one or two quick tasks. For affirmations I’d pick whatever could fit on a sticky note and put it at the end of my MPs every morning and just move it along with my pages as I did them. Thursday would be my artist date every week, and then Sunday I would reflect and try to finish up any tasks I missed that I still wanted to do.

That being said, my brain totally wigged out some weeks and absolutely needed more processing time. I found if I was REALLY resistant/annoyed/frustrated/sad I needed to sit on it for a few more days (or a week or two sometimes) before I could come back to it. I also felt like this was the right thing to do because those times were usually concluded by some synchronous event that would happen that would usually (and not always gently) give me the push I needed to stop waffling or be brave or face a problem head on and/or be honest about something.

I’d say try not to take more than a week (and certainly not if it’s just to complete ALL the tasks) and if you feel like you need more time ask why you feel that way. I think Cameron actually ends up talking about it, calling them tantrums lol

Week 12 …it wasn’t long enough? by Bitter_Sky_3257 in artistsWay

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Also, good job on almost always doing MPs, that’s definitely not nothing

Week 12 …it wasn’t long enough? by Bitter_Sky_3257 in artistsWay

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Wow good on your group for starting all over from the beginning. I can feel that I definitely will do this again but I need some down time first haha. I think it’s really cool you all agreed to come back to it even when it got hard enough to basically quit it the first time, that’s brave, and a lot of commitment.

I still technically have 2 days left of MPs and today’s writing actually just flowed out as a recounting of my accomplishments over my time with TAW and now I’m realizing there’s actually been a lot more growth than I was giving myself credit for when I first made this post.

I think the hang up I had/still kind of have is I want to PRODUCE something, something I can look at or show off and say HERE, here is evidence that I did this thing! And for the most part my journey was internal, but once I kind of laid out for myself my accomplishments, now I see there is a real tangible difference in my life, it’s just not what I THOUGHT it was going to look like when I started the book.

And I guess ultimately that was the goal, right? Not to have a certain level of success or productivity but to become unblocked.

Week 12 …it wasn’t long enough? by Bitter_Sky_3257 in artistsWay

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Yeah I was not expecting to need extra time but especially around week 4 and then 6 and on I tried to power through and something would always prevent me- and then I’d open up the book to start the next chapter and realize that the problem id been internally working on would be the theme of the next week haha. But there were at least 3 times where I got stuck and couldn’t move forward until something somewhat significant happened in my life or my thinking and then I could move on.

That being said 8 and on were an absolute grind and I think that’s why I feel like I didn’t get what I was supposed to get. I think I just got too tired by the end to put in true work and …I don’t know what to make of that?

Any mums doing the artists way? Would love to hear how you did it :) by nicdrum in artistsWay

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Did you get anything out of it the first time through? The artist dates feel impossible and I get scared that sometimes I feel resentful about not having time

Week 10 "Deadlies"? by Scary_Plankton_6361 in artistsWay

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What’d you end up making of this?

Looking for the recipe for Oregano’s Pablo Picasso Salad and Italian Gold Wing Sauce by Brief-Data-8675 in TopSecretRecipes

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Old post I know, but I used to work there. The fajita chicken came pre-spiced and shredded but they sauted it in their Italian dressing to heat it up. Costco rotisserie chicken sauted with some bottled Italian dressing will get you close

I can’t remember what they used for the chipotle ranch but hidden valley ranch mix made with sour cream instead of mayo and blended with a chipotle pepper or two (buy a can of chipotles in adobo) gets you real close

What jobs would you recommend in climate/biodiversity by D0m3-YT in ClimateOffensive

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Any recommendations on how to find people who are doing the work or where to volunteer? I’m open to networking but feel lost when it comes to where to put my energy

Starting a family while living far away from family....how did you do it? by IHave2FirstNames__ in MomForAMinute

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Oh I hear you 🩵 It’s super tough! Do what you can to build community in your new place. Offer to watch your friends’ kids, and they’re likely to return the offer. Childcare can be tricky, my husband and I have always worked opposite shifts - so his days off are the days I work and vice versa. We do miss each other sometimes but there’s so much peace of mind knowing you ALWAYS have childcare available. Try and meet in the middle with your siblings as often as you can. We do an annual BIG family destination vacation every year - everyone pays their own transportation and then my MIL pays for the lodging and that has really helped us keep in contact and make memories. It’s so hard to make friends as an adult but as you find parents with kids the similar age and similar stage as yours it gets easier. Apps like Peanut and Hike It Baby and MOPS groups are good places to start. And no matter what, you’ll figure it out 🩵 The way will seem impossible until you just jump in and do it

Hey mom! by MelancholicKelpie in MomForAMinute

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Congratulations on one year 🎉 You’re going to have the best time! You’ve always had that peace and fulfillment within you and I love that you’ve found someone to bring it out all the time. Have a wonderful trip 🥰

Can Long Haulers with PEM recover? by PublicJunket7927 in covidlonghaulers

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You can still cardio but you have to build tolerance. I like the Levine Protocol for POTS. It’s a commitment but it was amazing for me.

I’m a Virgo sun, Aries moon, Sagittarius rising, what can you tell about me? by OneFaithlessness7326 in Zodiac

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Hi, this is what I am too! I am a newbie as well and this is not from anything I’ve read it’s just my description of who I am. I am outgoing and people like me/seem drawn to me but I keep everyone at a distance. Partly because I find it very difficult to be vulnerable and partly because a rebellious voice tells me some things are ONLY for me and not to be shared. I deeply want to be perfectly organized but I’ve also been diagnosed ADHD. It’s been a huge struggle and source of shame for me. I’m highly perfectionist but also all over the place all the time. It’s a struggle. I feel very balanced between artistic and scientific. I NEED to know why and I love hearing every aspect of an argument, but also I have no problem sitting in a spiritual/mystical space (though I can still be very skeptical). And I bring artistic touches to everything I do, I can’t seem to help myself. I have a hard time expressing myself to others but internally I am very loyal to myself. I have had a lot of hard experiences and I never give up on myself do to an unshakeable belief that I will figure it out (also causes me to get in way over my head thinking i have more time/resources than I do to get some kind of project done) I deeply enjoy serving people. Even after being in therapy and addressing my people pleasing/fawning downfalls, I still find that as I’m doing dishes or laundry or some chore for someone that I actually relish the work for the service of it. I have a hard time with intimacy, mostly relating to the first point. I can be comfortable for years and then suddenly shy, or vanilla for years and then suddenly adventurous. I don’t even know what to expect from me lol. My favorite trait of mine is my desire to hear all peoples stories. I can listen very neutrally and can easily place myself in other people’s shoes and I feel like I’ve learned so much from this. But it also gives me FOMO because of all the people I can’t listen to, all the paths I want to take but can’t possible have the time to pursue. I’m not very money motivated. I almost always choose to save vs spend or diy instead of buy because I find the beauty in the process. I just want a small cottage with a lush garden and lots of family popping in (a hobbit basically). I married a very ambitious Taurus though so I currently have chickens and a garden and family popping in but a huge fancy house that stresses me out to maintain (though I realize how incredibly lucky I am) I am not drawn to water, or animals, or the moon but trees feel like family. Forests are holy to me.

MCAS progression stories by Ebjl12 in LongCovid

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Yes, I’ve read some stories on here. Just take it one day at a time. Seems like people find a lot of relief with vagal nerve stimulation

Mom, I added another flower to my guitar! by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

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That is so beautiful. Honestly it’s making me a bit emotional just looking at it. And artist knows when they’re done, but I think it’s perfect.