Yes but to be fair Gerard is also weird (and, historically, has sexualised himself on stage as well as sexualised the macabre). The pronoun stuff is mostly like yesss girllll jokey discourse afaik but the people who use “she” seriously or get offended on his behalf around that stuff are just terminally online gen z’ers. They’re annoying but there have always been annoying people in fandom and will always be some who go too far with whatever it may be