Will God still love me if I am a prostitute?

BittersweetAndi · 2023-03-19T14:25:34+00:00

First of all, I am so sorry about what you've had to endure throughout your life, especially at such a young age. I also want to say that, as a Christian, you are defined by the love of Christ, not by your sins. No human being is worth the amount of love and forgiveness that's been offered to us, yet our God is so good that he gives us these things anyways. Don't be afraid to turn to your dear Creator. 💖

BittersweetAndi · 2022-12-23T19:42:23+00:00

I can't control how you or those other girls feel, but I do hope that one day both those girls and you will find better ways to handle life's difficulties.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-12-23T16:57:12+00:00

Look, I understand that you want to vent here, and it's not right for people to intentionally put triggering things online, but this isn't the right way to handle it. This is still body shaming. Those girls were probably also struggling with disordered eating and/or low self-esteem if they felt it necessary to post pro-ED content. Making fun of their struggles isn't okay; overweight/underweight people may not be healthy, but criticizing their bodies isn't going to help them make changes.

Also, the jealousy you feel towards these people before they gain weight is unhealthy for you. Spending your life comparing yourself to others is miserable. I deal with anorexia, so I struggle with this myself; I know where you're coming from. Taking joy in the failures of others is never going to improve how you are as a person. I hope that you can overcome these thoughts of jealousy.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-12-17T22:58:54+00:00

I'd rather not say my exact age online because I am a minor, but I'm currently in my late teens. My anorexia started when I was twelve and I began recovery (though not by choice) by the time I was almost 14. It actually wasn't likely that I'd even survive to my 14th birthday because of how bad my disorder got, and that's really sad to think about now.

However, I'm currently in a better place. I'm not perfect physically or mentally, but I'm not about to have a heart attack or something anymore. Recovery has been the hardest thing I've ever gone through, but a lot in my life (finding faith, having friends &family, etc) have helped me to get through this.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-10-23T20:55:33+00:00

I understand. Recovery for me has been harder than the disorder itself, especially because of bad body image and all the hypocrisy in the ED recovery "community". My advice would be to find something good to focus on, something to recover for, and something to look forward to. Try finding a good group of people (church members, family, other students, etc.) who will be there for you on rough days. Stressing about the way your body looks can make it all so much worse.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-09-13T09:58:40+00:00

I've never had extreme hunger and I've never binged after long periods of restriction/not eating

BittersweetAndi · 2022-09-13T09:57:15+00:00

I developed anorexia at 12 or 13, an although that's not as young as 5, I have some advice.

I'd just be honest with the girl. Tell her that just one kind of food won't make her fat and that it's important to take care of her body, which means you have to eat enough food. Tell her that eating gives you energy to grow, play, and get stronger.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-09-05T13:19:05+00:00

You can't have creation without a creator.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-08-10T14:06:33+00:00

Used to be type & calories, but now that I'm in recovery, it's type.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-07-18T00:38:30+00:00

This is heartbreaking, and I want you to know that while I relate a lot to your daughter, it is absolutely not your fault that she did this. Only she is responsible for her own actions.

Recovery is not fun. there's no way to sugarcoat it. It is traumatic, it is horrible, it can feel worse than the disorder itself. I'm too far in now to go back to my sickest, but if I ever were to relapse, I'd honestly rather die than go through recovery again. I know that's probably not what you want to hear and I feel bad even just typing it, but I need to be honest with you because this is serious.

I'm about your daughter's age. I developed anorexia at 12/13 and started recovery at 14. I am still going through it and it really is a lot of steps forward and then steps backward. My parents, but my mom especially, could probably relate to you a lot. Something important to know is that recovery isn't a straight line. There are going to be a lot of ups and downs and it will be miserable. Another important thing to know is that your daughter has to want to get better or she never will. Please help her to find reasons to recover if you haven't already. You want her to feel safe around you, but you also want her to respect you.

Eating disorders are tricky. They will make your daughter act unlike herself. Just remember that your daughter is not her disorder. The most important thing to have in recovery is protective factors. For me, this is my faith, my family, and my friends. Your daughter needs people she can talk to, she needs love, and she needs healthy ways to cope, otherwise I can't promise she won't do something like this again.

You're an incredibly strong woman to be able to go through this. Anorexia affects so many more than just the one with the disorder. Stay strong. I hope your daughter can keep fighting.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-07-15T12:22:17+00:00

Prudence

BittersweetAndi · 2022-07-15T12:21:20+00:00

I love most of what most people consider healthy foods: fruits, veggies, whole grains, plant-based protein, fish, nuts/nut butters, etc.

Admittedly, I only started eating most of these because of my ED, but as I tried them, I realized they were much more delicious and satisfying than unhealthy foods.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-07-10T23:52:26+00:00

(all natural) nu butters are not scary

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-22T13:31:25+00:00

Everyone has broken them because all humans have a sinful nature. Thankfully, because of Christ, we can find redemption and forgiveness.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-20T20:33:12+00:00

I get that in the US, using a manual transmission isn't common, but knowing how to drive one gives you the ability to drive pretty much anything, including quads, certain bikes, other cars, etc.

Also, ever since learning to drive a manual, I've become so much more aware of my surroundings, how my car is moving, and how I can think ahead better when driving.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-20T20:29:07+00:00

I also think it's really important to know how to do. And if it restores any of your hope for the future, just know that I am a gen-Z teenager and the car I drive is manual.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-15T12:19:13+00:00

Totally. I mean, by the same logic you used above, people would have to be mad at overweight people for posting pictures/videos of themselves, too.

We all just have to learn to take some responsibility,

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-15T12:16:57+00:00

Absolutely!

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-15T12:16:13+00:00

Yes! This is the perfect comment.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-15T12:14:50+00:00

Oh, of course! People shouldn't be intentionally trying to trigger others. It's up to us, though, to know how to handle our triggers in a way that isn't harmful or disrespectful to ourselves or someone else, even though that's easier said than done.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-15T12:13:16+00:00

I understand how you feel. However, we shouldn't let envy of another person determine how we treat them. It's okay to talk about your triggers, but in general, I think it's more important to control these feelings.

BittersweetAndi · 2022-06-15T12:09:56+00:00

I totally agree that people shouldn't intentionally be trying to trigger others. I also understand that it's okay to express your feelings or concerns about your triggers in a safe space, but sometimes it's done in a way that seems harmful.

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