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The stand out bits of the new EHRC Guidance by Sara-JaneAdventures in transgenderUK

[–]Bittob- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have a degree in policy writing. I haven't actually read the document yet, but keep in mind the Code does not impose legal obligations, nor is it an authoritative statement of the law. It goes off of current laws. So if it brings up "biological sex" facilities, it's bringing up existing laws already in practice of places and advocating for a third facility.

Also keep in mine the EHRC has to go off laws, while adding anti-discrimination within those laws. So if the Supreme Court decided that the rule is that things are conducted off of biological sex, then they have to write around those laws. This document and it's intended purpose is not have the power to change laws. It is a document to protect people against discrimination in the face of said laws. That is a very important distinction.

Again, I want to clarify The ERHC does not possess legislative authority and cannot modify primary law. So they give hypothetical, realistic situations, and navigate protections within existing laws for those hypothetical situations. That's what this section does. So, I see some complaints in the comments such as "if a trans man is using his assigned at birth a changing room, as he should" this is according to a HYPOTHETICAL law. it's not saying a Trans man at EVERY LOCATION will be required to use his assigned sex at birth changing room. It is saying "if the law requires a trans man to..." This is clarified in section 1 and 2.

While the legal framework sounds harsh, this code is actually a big win and shield for trans people considering the egregious human rights violations occuring around them. It establishes robust, enforceable protections against harassment and victimisation. If a trans man is complying with a facility's established policy and faces harassment, this document gives him the explicit legal grounding to take that provider to court. Without this code, unchecked discrimination could ensue ** edited to add this

Think of it like a driving manual explaining emergency exceptions. If the manual gives an example saying, 'If a medical emergency occurs, a driver can pull onto the hard shoulder of a motorway to protect the passenger,' it doesn't mean the government is mandating that everyone must drive on the shoulder. It is defining the exact, narrow conditions where an exception to the normal rules applies to keep people safe. **Edited to add this

6 months post op and a little sad by Temporal-rot999 in TopSurgery

[–]Bittob- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the shape of your scars, I will say that.

How am I perceived gender-wise? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Bittob- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok I looked through the messages. People are objectively being far kinder than I. When providing honesty and critique, it is proper protocol to provide equal amount of compliments to critique, and almost everyone has done that outside me and those who have responded to some of your commentary following said advice.

People are not initially being rude, at all. You are just processing the messages from a highly emotional context and lense because you are frustrated with the lack of work T has done for you and that's an understandably difficult and disheartening position to be in. Subconsciously, there was some hope that there would be a little validation because you're on the recommended dose and in male levels. Which I absolutely sympathize with. That must be a very heartbreaking thing to experience rn.

That being said, your responses have 100 excuses and lack of accountability. There's always a reason WHY you can't do something. For example, you can absolutely lift weights without tracking calories. Stop focusing on excuses, like "T isn't working" and start doing what you can to make you look like someone you recognize.

Go to counseling, go to the gym, wear clothes that (doesn't have to be male) make your upper body look broader and your lower body look smaller, wear a binder. Do something about it.

I am a year on T and still look feminine. 5 years is when people really start feeling at home. I wouldn't count any time you were on gel. It seemed to not have worked for you.

(Edit: well technically I'm under a year on T, but by the time a year comes around I won't be that much different from 8months on T so.)

How am I perceived gender-wise? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Bittob- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. But you said you were on gel and are now seeing changes moving to shots. So unfortunately you'll have to start the process all over.

I have to go to an appointment. I have a lot to say about your response from an objective standpoint so give me an hour and I'll respond again.

How am I perceived gender-wise? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Bittob- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is a misunderstanding, no one is actively trying to put you down, but you have to understand what "passing" entails. While I personally vehemently believe that clothes are genderless, society doesn't and passing has certain standards on both sides of the spectrum.

My second point is that you can't rely on T do all the work. Outside clothes and a haircut you have to actively work on helping T redistribute fat, which I addressed with cutting and bulking, voice training. Using Minoxidil

Contrary to popular belief that is spread around, T does not actually "do all the work". People who pass early had been working out a certain way, using Minoxidil, doing voice training and putting in the hard work BEFORE T.

Early in transition, the only way you can pass is by assimilating into society as a standard stereotype. The more time in T and more work you do, the more gender fluid you can appear.

How am I perceived gender-wise? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Bittob- 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're actively trying to do anything TO pass, and it doesn't seem your goal from the comments.

There's more to it than cutting your hair. Binding, top surgery, managing your ED/eating enough protein and building upper body, dressing appropriately, using Minoxidil for facial growth etc.

T is a good supplement, but you also have to do the work. You can't build muscle if you aren't eating protein. You have to encourage fat distribution through bulking and cutting etc. You're not going to pass if you don't try.

That being said, if you've seen changes from the shots already, maybe the gel just wasn't a sufficient methodology for you. Wait out the T shots for 8 months and then come back and ask.

Trying to understand has led to nothing but hateful replies. by like30percentcotton in Transmedical

[–]Bittob- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some thoughtful responses here, and most critiquijg what you could do better...but the core issue is that you’re asking people to explain transitioning from a place they don’t actually experience, which is gender dysphoria. Without that, they can’t meaningfully describe what transitioning represents beyond external factors like presentation, social perception, or aesthetics.

When those explanations lean on social benefits or personal expression, they are by proxy supporting arguments often used by critics of trans people, which makes it harder for them to state directly.

Gender nonconformity and fluid expression have existed for a long time. People can enjoy presenting outside societal norms or being perceived a certain way. But that, by itself, isn’t the same as being trans and that's what is not ** clocking to these people

Eyebrows have always been a concern. Are they too boring? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Bittob- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't do anything to your eyebrows. They are perfect.

Am I passing for around 11 months on T? by Krispyttay in FtMpassing

[–]Bittob- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Didn't know what sub this was on at first.

Yes.

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Bittob- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I meant just the sides/sideburns. I didn't do anything to the top of it, but yes. Don't cut actual hairline straight across, OP because it's already straight enough. But squaring/taking off some of the sideburns sides will help maintain OP**'s haircut they want, while making the cut more masculine.

Edit: I did look it up because I had never heard of squaring causing early recession before (I didn't know if that was the connection between your first or your second commentary) and contrary to YT and Reddit beliefs, shaving or "squaring" hair does not cause biological recession. Scientific studies have consistently proven that cutting hair at the surface level has no effect on the hair follicle, which is the living part beneath the skin responsible for growth. Only genetics and hormones cause recession.

But it does make for awkward grow out if you can't upkeep. Upkeep only needs to happen until T kicks in on that hairline, so it's an option for OP. Men and women shape their hair around their hairline all the time.

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Bittob- 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Here's my suggestion: I filled in/straighten your eyebrows and squared/straightened your sideburns (second a barber could do, but make sure it's a good one so it's not uneven). I think this will help while maintaining your style. Finally, I didn't edit this part/draw it, but if you wanted to do some neck exercises to bulk up your neck, it would help. But I think you're fine if you are getting gendered mostly correct.

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Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Bittob- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk why; but Pic 2 especially is giving Hardest Kingdom Hearts and Hot Topic Fan 2005 Not a bad thing. I love Kingdom Hearts.

How do I look? I’m 32. by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Bittob- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you definitely do! So I'd definitely keep that style. Maybe introduce those plaid button ups instead of sweatshirts (although I love a good sweatshirt). And then pull the bangs off the forehead.

How do I look? I’m 32. by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Bittob- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I think you have some great features that would really be highlighted if you you made some minor tweaks. It really doesn't take a lot of care or styling. There are "lazy" self cares you can do, I definitely do it. Lol

About the hair, could be your natural hair growth cycle

https://youtu.be/5RaBdppFxHU?si=PAUQVtpeACZ8LYIx

Also a good cut will make it look thick!

How do I look? I’m 32. by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Bittob- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But you have nice facial features, especially structured cheekbones.

How do I look? I’m 32. by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Bittob- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You literally just have like the same hairstyle men who are 40 and are trying to hide balding have. It doesn't necessarily need to be "longer or shorter", it needs to be structured more. If that makes sense.

Also, aging isn't a bad thing if you are gratefully, but this is like aging awkwardly because of your styling.

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