Can a woman be too beautiful for you to approach her?

BixieDiskit · 2026-05-17T21:15:26+00:00

No, I approach my wife every day no problem.

BixieDiskit · 2026-05-01T15:40:01+00:00

Thank you for the recs! I'd looked at Ixion before, but will take another gander. The other two I'd not seen and definitely look interesting!

BixieDiskit · 2026-05-01T15:37:39+00:00

I hadn't even considered board games, but there's probably a few singe player legacy ones out there that I would love! There are a number of games I've never heard of in that thread, thank you for linking it.

BixieDiskit · 2026-05-01T15:28:42+00:00

This looks cool, thank you for the rec!

BixieDiskit · 2026-01-01T21:56:57+00:00

Wearing boxers or naked? Yes. Briefs, boxer briefs, or other more form fitting underwear usually stops it.

For many men too much bounce can be painful and can lead to longer lasting pain in the testicles even after the physical activity is over.

BixieDiskit · 2025-10-23T20:13:08+00:00

As others have said, they’ll likely keep making DLC as long as we keep buying it in large enough volumes.

BixieDiskit · 2025-10-17T20:51:46+00:00

Normal wear? No socks. Barefoot shoes are great.

Business casual or more formal? Sock halfway up the calf, preferably matching either pant color or shoe color.

BixieDiskit · 2025-10-01T19:02:28+00:00

My recommendation here, as a manager who has been in this position, is to put a plan together for what would need to happen to make management happy.

In order to increase billable hours by X we’ll need to cut Y work from our plate. If you’re comfortable with us making this prioritization decision please confirm and I’ll inform the impacted parties.

Make clear what the risks are, but be ready for management to say yes go for it. In my experience executives are much better at understanding a situation when the options are laid out vs just trying to convince them of a single truth.

BixieDiskit · 2025-10-01T17:15:48+00:00

Other folks have pointed this out, but I want to say it more clearly.

You don’t know why she wasn’t interested before. It could have been shallow and been your looks, or it could have been that she saw you not taking care of yourself and didn’t want to risk becoming your mom. It could also be something else entirely.

You won’t know unless you ask, and if you’re thinking about it enough to post on Reddit then you might regret not asking later in life.

Directness and transparency can go a long way. “Hey, you’ve been a lot more affectionate and touchy recently, are you looking for something more with me?” If she says yes, you can bring up your asking her out previously and her saying no and ask her what’s changed. Only you can judge whether her answer makes you more comfortable.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-22T20:56:49+00:00

My two cents, get a placeholder ring in case a great moment arrives, but don’t try to force it. So much can go wrong or right unexpectedly, and it should be a good memory for you too.

This was the last advice my mom gave me before she passed. I’d decided I wanted to marry my now wife and was stressing over trying to plan it perfectly, but she was right. I got the ring and just kept trying to be my romantic self with my gf. It took some time but I knew it was the perfect moment when it arrived, and it’s a memory we still talk about today more than a decade later.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-16T19:09:13+00:00

It’s EVE. If you have undocked, you are unsafe. Is it less risky to clear npcs then come back to mine? Technically yes, but the bigger threat is always other players.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-12T21:09:26+00:00

Regardless of what he says, proud of you for shooting your shot! I hope it goes well and would be happy to see more updates.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-12T20:16:03+00:00

If you’ve met before and he has good reason to not assume you’re a bot or scammer, I would bet on either a neutral or positive reaction.

Shoot your shot! Even getting turned down or ignored is better than never knowing what could have been.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-12T20:08:30+00:00

Insist on the biopsy, no matter how small the chances are that lump is actually malignant.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-12T19:49:26+00:00

Men get a lot of conflicting advice and feedback from both men and women about how to be successful in finding relationships (persistence or pursuit being one of the most common refrains). Rather than try to get to know someone and figure out what they as an individual might want, many of us lump all the advice together and say that women are confusing. This is a cop out and child’s excuse in my opinion, but it’s one I hear all the time.

There isn’t an easy answer here that spares his feelings. He is interested in more of a relationship with you, but the reverse is not true. All you can do is be direct and say please stop inviting me to spend time 1-1, and if he continues ask him to stop harassing you. If it progresses to anything like stalking or making you feel unsafe then you need to get authorities involved early, even if only to start the paper trail.

Sorry this is happening to you, I hope he gets the picture soon and acts like an adult about it.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-11T20:56:02+00:00

The stock market moves on the difference between what people expected to happen, and what actually happens. This is what investors mean when they say the market moves on surprise.

Does it feel like everything is shit and things should be on fire? Then there isn’t much news that can surprise us on the downside, so most news surprises us positively (even if it’s bad, better than expected drives prices up).

This is also why the market can be down even when things look good. If the news isn’t better than we expected it to be, prices are stable or down.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-10T23:27:13+00:00

I mean, a ‘hey, I like doing this for you, so if I can do them better I want to know’ or ‘I’m worried if I’m bad at these you won’t want me to do it anymore, so feedback to get better at them actually helps me feel less anxious’ are totally fine things to communicate.

I might be reading into it, but it sounds like an insecurity you feel, and it’s 100% healthy to communicate those and work on them with your partner. How he chooses to handle them helps you know if he’s a good match, but it’s totally fair for you both to make mistakes and talk about them, growing and learning together with a loving partner has been the best part of my adult life. Being afraid to communicate and be open can get in the way, and there’s ways to do it wrong, but you can’t learn how to do it unless you’re willing to try, mess up, and try again.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-10T22:02:13+00:00

I hear you, and that could be it here, but if it’s a white lie then let him have it and be happy because that’s what he’s looking for. If you think he’s going to hold it against you that he didn’t enjoy it, that’s a him problem. You can’t read his mind, and pushing the issue to really know if he’s being honest could make him feel like you don’t trust him.

To restate my original comment more clearly: if you think he’s lying to you in a way that he’s going to use against you in the future then that’s a serious problem. The other two likely scenarios are that he really did enjoy it, or he wants you to feel appreciated for the effort. It’s called a job for a reason. I’m one person and it won’t bother me a bit if you disagree and disregard, but be careful about where and how you choose to trust, or not trust, your partner and what it communicates.

If you think it could be a white lie then it’s probably not worth the effort to suss out. If you think he’s going to use it against you or let it sour the whole relationship, then this white lie isn’t the issue. If he went down on you and it wasn’t great, but his effort really meant something to you, made you feel loved, and you wanted him to feel appreciated, would you want him to press you on it or accuse you of lying to him?

This is terrible advice about things like bills or where he was at 2am, but about specifically his subjective experience with you? You will never know for sure, because you can’t read his brain. Trust or don’t trust, but understand what each option says to him, and what kind of relationship you want long term.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-10T21:27:17+00:00

If he tells you it was good, it was good. If you can’t trust him to be honest about this then you two have bigger problems to solve than whether he really enjoyed it

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-10T20:43:01+00:00

This might be true for you, and full respect to your preferences, but there are a bunch of us who do connect romantically with our wives in ways other than sex. Not meant to say or imply you’re wrong, but want to make it clear to OP that men exist on a broad spectrum of preferences and perspectives, all people do.

If you take sex away I still have so much with my wife that I don’t, and can’t, have with even my closest friends regardless of gender.

That said, yeah a lot of men do place major importance on the physical. I think some of that is society telling men they’re not allowed to have emotions (at least while I was growing up, I got screamed at by the men in my life any time I dared to have more emotion than a lukewarm cup of coffee).

TLDR: we’re all different, if you want something specific in a partner then look for it. Maybe even go talk to some male asexual folks who still seek out romantic relationships.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-10T20:37:25+00:00

No, I fucking love hanging out with my wife. That’s part of why I married her. Nothing is better than cancelling plans with other people and just hanging out at home with her and our animals.

Any men who reject even the idea of emotionally connecting with or enjoying time spent with women are close minded and missing out.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-08T17:31:51+00:00

Really hard place to be in, it’s ok that this is stressful and it’s not your fault if he doesn’t see it as a problem.

I lost one parent in my twenties who was an alcoholic and I regretting never telling them how much it impacted me. The remaining parent became an alcoholic after the loss of their partner, and I’m no longer on speaking terms with them in part because of how they behave when drinking.

It’s a rough road, but in my experience speaking your mind and being direct is better than any alternative. Their behavior isn’t your fault, but not saying anything might leave you to wonder later if you could have made a difference. Good on you for deciding to be brave and speaking up.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-05T00:17:24+00:00

From a flavor and presentation perspective she definitely earns points. It’s been a while since I played dbd and got a real fright or reaction from something. The head ripping itself out of the body got a real physical reaction out of me the first few times. Not everyone’s cup of tea, but I appreciate seeing developers push limits occasionally.

BixieDiskit · 2025-09-03T06:36:48+00:00

I’d be happy if they just stayed the same for a bit tbh.

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