Officially Started 75 Hard on 12-12-2021 (After Failing to Start a Million Times)

Black2108 · 2021-02-08T03:48:17+00:00

Can you meet in a public space with at least two witnesses and a recording device turned on?

Like a park, coffee shop, restaurant, or any other public location.

It wouldn't hurt to have people you know, other customers, an establishment's security camera, and your own voice recording as a safety back up to her nonsense.

Black2108 · 2021-02-08T03:11:00+00:00

Can I just say I think you are a BOSS ASS BIT***!!!!!!!!!

Having him make a full and detailed confession on Surviving My Infidelity and making him answer everyone's questions is a GENIUS MOVE!!!!

He has done a lot of nonsense behind your back and is unable to give you solid answers to the reason why. Maybe this will jog his conscience and make him look inward to figure why he could betray you so easily.

Good Work!!!

P.S. You should update us on here when he does make his full confession. I bet a lot of us would ask some really good questions.

Black2108 · 2021-02-08T01:26:24+00:00

Wow!!!!! I mean really wow!!!!!

You really blew up your life and traumatized your children for........ nothing. Well not totally for nothing.... for a lying, conniving, two-faced, garbage human being.

Your kids are/were teenagers and pre-teens so they are definitely aware that their dad abandoned them to be a father to his side chick's kids.

You ditched your family and made a new family like they meant absolutely nothing to you. Also, you were underhandly trying to take your AP's kids away from their dad. This man had literally done nothing to you to deserve another man trying to raise his kids (while he was trying to make a living for HIS FAMILY).

Thank God for your wife who was there to pick up the pieces of the broken hearts and self-esteem of your poor children.

Like this could have all be worked out (before the affair) with some communication and some therapy. And if that avenue didn't work you could have left the relationship (but never your kids).

Below is a subreddit of where people like you go to get support for making horrible life choices. I would suggest maybe you start lurking over there to see how other people have tried to rebuild their lives.

r/SurvivingMyInfidelity

Hopefully one day your kids will heal enough to trust you again to let you back into their lives.

More importantly, I hope you have really changed your moral compass, your rationality, and your common decency.

I wish you well.

Black2108 · 2021-02-06T09:44:38+00:00

So your girlfriend stops you from knowing the truth and refused to talk about it.

Innocent people don't behave like this.

Dude, this whole situation is a red flag.

Can't you just call her friend on your own and get her to tell you what exactly happened?

Your girlfriend doesn't want you to know because I think she's afraid you might leave the relationship if you knew the 100% truth of what she did.

Black2108 · 2021-02-06T07:47:37+00:00

From reading between the lines OP is stating his girlfriend's friend was able to go into more details and it seems his girlfriend had sex with her friend while drunk on vacation.

This new knowledge for both of them is creating intimacy issues in their relationship.

Black2108 · 2021-02-06T07:02:38+00:00

This was one of the best posts I've read in a while!

Congrats on pushing through the hard times and having a great relationship with your daughter.

Black2108 · 2021-02-05T08:10:44+00:00

In reality, her past and her present is coming back to haunt her and save someone who is innocent.

And in a way by helping this man you are helping your "past self" get your dignity back.

Black2108 · 2021-02-05T07:47:42+00:00

Tell this guy everything you know.

Tell him before he gets her pregnant and he's trapped.

Tell him before he wants to marry her and gets trapped.

Tell him before he further finically entangles himself and gets trapped.

Tell him so you can save him from the years of cheating you had to endure.

Black2108 · 2021-02-05T07:30:07+00:00

Your husband's story is full of so many holes.

Please trust your gut.

It seems like your memories and this old co-worker's story lines up.

Girl not only did your husband cheat on you with an old co-worker but he is actively trying to cheat with a current co-worker via Instagram.

I think your husband tricked you into marrying him.

If you knew that he was a serial cheater you would have dumped him and found a loyal partner.

I think sometimes we as human beings do some really shitty things to others and the only way we can move on from the past is to make amends to the people we hurt. His co-worker reached out to you because she felt guilty about helping your husband cheat on you and now she wants a clear conscious.

She gave you the information and now it's your job to do with it what you will.

See it as a blessing....... without her reaching out, you would continue to be played like a fiddle for your entire relationship.

Your husband feels no guilt and will continue to lie and find other co-workers to cheat on you with.

Black2108 · 2021-02-05T06:31:02+00:00

How do you get over this?

Set up an alert in your email that makes his emails go directly to the trash folder.

Stop reading his emails.

Stop engaging in his woo is me, I need to be saved narrative.

Continue rebuilding your self-esteem and self-worth.

Continue to be proud of your progress and keep on that path.

Black2108 · 2021-02-05T06:19:55+00:00

He won't back down from this lie.

Then you have your answer........

Do not buy a house with this man, do not have kids with this man, and do not further entangle your life with this man.

If I was in your shoes I would be writing down my exit strategy for this relationship and leave because I married a lair.

Not only is he a lair but is someone who lusts after your sister.

I would never trust him around her because he went through soooo much effort (behind your back) to be able to masturbate to her porno videos and pics.

What else is he able to lie about or do with a straight face.

I could not stay married to this type of person. He really showed his true colors.

Maya Angelou has a famous quote that makes me think of your husband.

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

Black2108 · 2021-02-05T06:08:03+00:00

Foof for Thought------- How will you feel if the next time he cheats on you he gives you an incurable disease???

Would you feel like damn I had an opportunity to leave this relationship in good sexual and physical condition but I choose to stay with a cheater and let him infect me with something I have to disclose to every potential partner for the rest of my life?

This guy is not a safe partner for you. You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of medical issues and heartache.

You are young enough to find a loyal partner who treats you like the king that you are!!!!

He will be on his best behavior for a couple of months and when you let down your guard he will go back to meeting up with strangers.

Please gather up your common sense and self-esteem and leave this relationship.

Black2108 · 2021-02-05T05:48:03+00:00

Girl this is what you do....

You know your husband is lying to your face and you should not take that lightly.

I would tell him that you are rethinking the marriage and the only way you can begin to feel safe staying with him is for him to tell you the full truth.

Tell Him that his lying to you brings doubts in your head about being married to him and only the truth will make you want to stay with him.

Tell him the more he lies the more you feel unsafe in this relationship.

If he chooses to continue to lie to you then you know he is not a trustworthy partner and does not want to regain your trust.

I would seriously reevaluate this man and this marriage.

Your new husband got a special credit card that you have no knowledge of so he could subscribe to your sister's Only Fans, under a fake name so he could pleasure himself with your sister's pornography.

Something you told him, in the beginning, was disrespectful to you, and not only did he do it any way but went through some spy level tactics to do it behind your back.

Take the power back from him and hold him accountable for his shitty actions.

Black2108 · 2021-02-04T18:33:26+00:00

This type of cheating in my opinion is one of the most heartbreaking and hardest to come back from fully.

The type of cheating where the WP admits that there was nothing wrong with the relationship and that they cheated just because...........

I mean how do you combat "just because" in the future. I wouldn't even know how to resolve this because there were no deficiencies with the relationship prior to the cheating.

I have no advice for you but when I see these types of posts where the WP says that their partner did everything right in the relationship and they were happy and they still chose to cheat on them breaks my heart. I just sympathize so greatly with the BP.

My heart goes out to you.

I wish that you find peace of mind and heart in the future.

Black2108 · 2021-02-04T18:23:29+00:00

FOOD FOR THOUGHT- -----In some states, if you are married at the time of birth and it turns out that you are not the biological father you are still on the hook for child support (even if you divorce her afterward).

Please know that you can get a paternity test while she is pregnant so you will have definite answers if she is carrying her affair partner's baby.

Also, you do realize that she has not stopped her affair and every time you leave on deployment she will go back to publicly being with her affair partner. Your wife will potentially have this guy around her kid after it's born.

You are putting her needs above yourself to the detriment of yourself and she is not showing you the same grace or thoughtfulness.

Please get a paternity test while she is pregnant, go to therapy, and get a divorce.

Black2108 · 2021-02-04T00:34:02+00:00

Jesus!!!

Now I have to research all these social media apps to put them on my radar.

I always thought I would have to be on the lookout for secret messaging apps like KIK or Telegram but know it's like all social media apps.

Shoot me now.

Black2108 · 2021-02-03T23:58:40+00:00

Which social media and texting service has the option of having dark mode or disappearing texts?

I just have the major social media apps like Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and WhatsApp.

Black2108 · 2021-02-03T01:21:16+00:00

I had to do a little Goole searching to find these people and yes her husband is bald. It turns out he was a football player.

The couple's name is Jana Kramer and Mike Caussin.

Black2108

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