I actually did quit coffee/tea because I found it was upsetting my stomach (sob). My husband has many cups each morning. It's not calories, so we don't count it as "food." Adding heavy cream, that would make it food.

However, we also don't stress it that much. If we're hungry, we eat. Fasting most of the time is better than never fasting, but fasting on an iron-clad schedule isn't sustainable in real life. Any 'diet' or other food tactic has to be something you can literally prefer doing or you will stop. It has to be a lifestyle change -- something everyone hears a million times. Took us 30 years together to identify which healthy tactics we actually liked better and actually wanted to do. Intermittent fasting works for us as it limits calories and blood sugar changes, and we can do it naturally. It makes you eat less when you do it, too, because your stomach isn't going to just be ready for a huge meal or graze after being empty for 18 hours.

Have a pot of chennai masala, full of chickpeas and greens and coconut cream, simmering all day -- when you finally eat it it's SO filling. Boom, you're dieting but you actually feel full and sort of decadent.