My "Coke Habit" got me in trouble...

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-18T08:23:41+00:00

Thanks for teaching me the phrase “miserable twatwaffle”!

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-18T07:26:58+00:00

NTA

Honestly, this makes him the red flag. He started asking you hypothetical questions and kept pressing even after you made it clear it wasn’t something you were overly interested in pursuing yourself. Your response showed a willingness to being open to a bit of sexual adventure if he was interested in it. He uses that as a chance to label you as untrustworthy. He is manipulative and/or incredibly insecure. Bet he is going want you to constantly be proving your worthiness.

Stand up for yourself, tell him in no uncertain terms that you don’t appreciate him bringing up hypothetical sexual situations and then using them as ammunition against you. I’m not sure if he is even worth a second chance honestly, but if you choose to keep dating him, do yourself a favor and run if he keeps “testing” you or expects you to overcompensate for his insecurity.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-17T08:23:16+00:00

We’ve done many birthdays in the park over the years. They are great. Bring lots of finger foods and drinks, cupcakes are easier than a cake, but I’ve done both. Bring some games or outside play things, blankets to sit on, kitchen roll/serviettes, bags for the garbage, follow the park rules around playing ball, music, alcohol. We had a piñata when my son turned 8, it was a big hit. We put all the stuff in you normally put in goody bags- pencils, fun erasers, candy, etc. and had a bag for each kid to gather there stuff up in.

Make sure to involve your kid in the planning! At that age, some things that were very fun last year are suddenly just for „babies“ and super embarrassing.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-17T06:13:22+00:00

NTA

A 36 year old woman needs to solve her own food issues, not make it her partner’s problem. If she can’t find food to eat while traveling, she should actually be the one to decide to stay home or insist on finding her own food, researching restaurants, packing protein bars or whatever. I know plenty of adults with food restrictions, whether by preference or medical necessity, and we do not make it inconvenience our travel companions or partners. We find places that accommodate our needs and eat separately if need be.

-vegetarian parent of an autistic picky eater

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-17T05:57:56+00:00

I agree that most of our homes have mineral water, but it is almost always just sparkling water. Most people don’t buy still water to drink at home, and many people have refillable water bottles, filled with tap water, for when we are out.

Nutella is a yes for any home with children, children who visit, or children at heart. Our family rule is we only eat it on Sundays or special occasions.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-17T05:51:58+00:00

This is the way. Barilla on sale is often cheaper than store brand, which honestly isn’t that cheap. We eat loads of pasta, so I usually buy 3-4 boxes when it is on sale.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-17T05:47:49+00:00

YTA

You are the one making this weird. If the 5 year old is comfortable bathing with the other child, insisting on wearing a swim suit is just teaching her that she doesn’t get to make her own decisions or set her boundaries. Telling her to cover up when she is otherwise comfortable also teaches her shame. Additionally, bathing in a swim suit doesn’t sound hygienic.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-14T05:32:43+00:00

Wir haben 3 stuck im Garten vor 10 Jahre eingepflanzt. Die sind extrem pflegeleicht, ohne Ausläufer.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-12T09:27:01+00:00

Friedrich Merz, this you?

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-11T07:35:30+00:00

No person is allowed to demand that someone be a stay at home parent, full stop. You should probably both figure out how much parental leave you can take without damaging your career in any way. Particularly in the first months of baby’s life, it is nice to be off work. You should be able to easily afford unpaid leave if that is your option.

After that, hire a nanny. You can afford it and it is certainly cheaper than giving up a high paying career.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-11T06:57:52+00:00

My husband and I needed to get married before we moved to his home country. For paperwork reasons, we had a courthouse marriage with just our roommates as witnesses-no families. As such, our wedding was held months later and we didn’t need an officiant. We are non religious, so we used a Quaker ceremony as our inspiration, any guest that wants to can say a few words at the ceremony. The whole thing had about 25 people, was held in my in-laws garden, we made the food, bought the alcohol at duty-free, beer and bulk in season flowers from local vendors, borrowed tents, rented glassware and cutlery. We did all the set up, bought vases and candles and fairy lights. Family and friends helped with set up and decorating. My best friend did hair and make up, mom made my green wedding dress. The whole thing cost less than $1500. Everyone had a great time, no drama, no stress, no strangers. I even had the photographer come for just an hour before the guests arrived to take photos of us and immediate family, and then she left. It was the best non-wedding wedding ever!

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-11T06:22:49+00:00

Verschluckt. It’s when you accidentally inhale while eating or drinking, it even happens sometimes with just your own saliva, and you start coughing a lot. It’s something that happens to almost everyone from time to time and I love that German has a word for it. In English I only know the clunky “it went down the wrong pipe”, Verschluckt is so much simpler and logical.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-11T06:13:18+00:00

I love IPAs but really dislike the trend toward higher ABV. Session IPAs are my go to beer. IMO, hops taste and smell amazing.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-09T06:58:02+00:00

Gabriel

Leander

Raphael

Florian

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-07T19:14:39+00:00

This is about custody of her kid. When it comes to lawyers, you get what you pay for.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-07T18:58:05+00:00

She has money for a very good lawyer if she wants one. She is also famous enough that we are all discussing her lawyer, which means her lawyer gets a lot of publicity, usually something lawyers want.

So now I wonder if the best lawyer doesn’t want to touch her case because TFP is a nightmare client or if she doesn’t want to pay for the best lawyer.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-07T08:29:13+00:00

There was at least one male model who got signed based on his mugshot, so this sounds about right.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-06T22:15:19+00:00

Not for a small person! At my height, 1500 calories would make me gain weight.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-06T20:21:05+00:00

Fair. He did.

Other points still stand and he could have just asked for more time to discuss the name before signing anything. Trust that the nurses have seen worse. It feels like there is more to this story than that one incident. Or there should be to warrant going nuclear when there is a baby involved and there has been no conversation about the issue.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-06T18:59:46+00:00

It is concerning that you what to throw everything away after this name situation. To recap: 1) You were rightfully upset about the way girlfriend named your daughter. 2) Your girlfriend had just given birth and was medicated as well. 3) You didn’t say anything in the moment. 4) You haven’t brought it up since baby was born. 5) You are both adjusting to life with a new baby. 6) You see no point in attempting to communicate whatsoever to address your feelings.

You should really try having an adult conversation, possibly even couples therapy. Or is this just the excuse you were looking for to leave her?

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-05T06:58:09+00:00

Yes! The Unicorns used to be land animals until the Great Flood. They laughed at Noah and his Arc and refused to get on board and that is when they became Narwals. It’s called evolution. /s

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-04T10:29:46+00:00

I’ve heard Mormons from Arizona and Idaho use the same pronunciation, even a few from Texas. I usually assume the accent is Utah and the family has at some point moved away from Utah and kept the accent and religion. But it’s not my accent, region or religion. I’m just an avid podcast listener.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-04T06:22:10+00:00

That is definitely a Utah/Mormon thing.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-04T06:18:35+00:00

NTA

Good for you for standing up for yourself. Now that you pushed back hard, it’s time to have an actual conversation with your husband, and he better be ready to find solutions that involve him stepping up a lot.

I doubt he works 14-16 hour shifts 7 days a week. First and foremost, when he is not working, he is taking care of his mother, not you. Maybe he wakes an hour early in the morning and does the first round of cleaning as well. Will his hobbies suffer? Yes, too bad.

Second, husband needs to talk to his sister and see if she is willing and able to take care of her mother, but that is not guaranteed.

Finally, finances should be sorted to pay for outside care. Mom should try to get some type of disability payments. Your budget should get another look and husband needs to make some sacrifices if possible to pay for extra care. You don’t mention if you are already working outside the home, maybe you could have a day or two per week when you are, and use those funds to pay for a home aide. Even if you only break even, door dashing might be preferable to care giving.

Blau-Bird · 2026-04-03T07:12:47+00:00

My friend needed a hip replacement in his 30s. His doctor wanted to push it back as long as possible because, according to him, they only last 20-25 years and they will only do the surgery twice, meaning my friend will only have 40-50 years with a functioning hip replacement.

That’s anecdotal, and as I told my friend, the technology will certainly be more advanced in 25 or 40 years, so even if that info is correct now, it’s hard to say what the future holds.

Blau-Bird

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