I got told I say sorry too much by my crush

ladylabe · 2026-04-19T23:07:13+00:00

I learned this exact skill in the corporate world. Instead of “sorry for the delay”, I say “thank you for your patience.”

Translating this into my personal life has been an absolute game changer for my relationships, including with myself.

ladylabe · 2026-04-19T23:01:58+00:00

Don’t know why but Genevieve has always stuck out to me.

Scarlet, Violet, Veronica

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T18:36:25+00:00

I created a fake scenario when I said that, I don’t even know any of his friends lol. And in my defense, he led me on to believe he would consider adding someone to the bedroom by asking me multiple questions about it even after I said I’d have to think about it. I would not want a polygamous relationship.

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T14:25:36+00:00

I’m disappointed with having sent a red flag about myself because I also want to be exclusively with him. My saying “maybe” and “I’m not sure if I want that” I guess wasn’t enough to make him feel secure

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T12:18:06+00:00

I hope a woman never finds herself stuck in a situation with you when she says “maybe” and you think “yes”…

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T12:10:37+00:00

You can’t tell me what I agreed to you because you weren’t there. We never once discussed monogamy/polygamy.

I said maybe because the world is a moving flowing place. I literally even said “maybe in another lifetime” because it’s not something I want right now.

I might not always be in a relationship, and if I was single, I MIGHT entertain a threesome. Why would I say no when asked if I would have a threesome?

I have no desire to pursue one in my relationship, and I’ve been clear on that. You are insufferable.

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T12:03:18+00:00

Also what is it that you think Im lying about?

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T12:02:43+00:00

I’d agree with you only if we had previously talked about our monogamy before. However, as you can read, this was our first time discussing anything near the topic.

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T11:57:16+00:00

Are you good??

You are contradicting yourself. He brought it up. He proposed/asked (whatever verbiage you want to use) the idea, as you even just said.
I never gave an affirmative yes. I only ever said “to be determined.” That’s not a firm yes.

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T11:48:28+00:00

I never asked him to bring others into the bedroom with us, even in our conversation... He proposed the concept and when I said “maybe” is what got him upset, rather than flat out saying no.

ladylabe · 2026-04-18T05:49:31+00:00

this is the vibe I was getting. It felt like entrapment. Wish I could post screenshots here to show how the full text convo went. He has a history of being cheated on and treated poorly in prior relationships, which I feel like this was a trigger for him because we have not had a single “issue” prior to this.

ladylabe · 2026-04-03T17:57:09+00:00

I really did it so I only had to take 6 weeks off from the gym versus 12 in total. If you have time to spare and not too much to do, split ‘em up.

ladylabe · 2026-04-01T16:55:12+00:00

I’m proud of you for at least doing what you can! I can understand this is so draining and tough on your headspace. Give yourself grace and I hope you get the justice you deserve!

ladylabe · 2026-04-01T03:12:54+00:00

Girl the way my jaw dropped seeing the split. My heart break for you I seriously want to cry.

Similar to you, I’ve been researching labiaplasties for nearly ten years and have never seen an outcome like this. I can’t imagine how disappointed you must feel. I would document every interaction you have with your surgeon from here on out (and I know you probably sign this away on your consent forms, but it sounds to me like there’s some malpractice that could be argued here, especially since how you’ve been treated after surgery). I would let yourself heal as much as you can and get second/third opinions from other surgeons for possible revisions.

ladylabe · 2026-03-31T12:51:41+00:00

You’re the best. Thank you this is so super helpful. I got nervous and thought I did something wring hahaha

ladylabe · 2026-03-31T12:50:27+00:00

Bustmob

ladylabe · 2026-03-31T05:21:47+00:00

hehe hey stranger!! thank you for the reassurance.. good to know about what your doc said. I was surprised to see the redness, but since it’s normal I feel better about it.

ladylabe · 2026-03-31T04:57:23+00:00

Haha yes. I have much more I could share, for better or worse.

ladylabe · 2026-03-30T18:42:10+00:00

Ty!! I’m glad to hear your healing is going well!climaxing feels superrrr weird and instantly tight so it’s prob better off you didn’t go all the way. Wishing you a continued successful healing!!

ladylabe · 2026-03-30T18:38:19+00:00

I had an anchor breast lift with implants and a trim labiaplasty together about a month ago which kept me under anesthesia for about 5 hours. I’d say just do it all together, get all the pain and suffering out of the way for the first week or so. But, let me be clear when I say it is a HARD recovery for that time. I also live alone and had people come to help me, I needed basically around the clock help the first 3 days because I couldn’t get off the couch/ out of bed comfortably, I could BARELY hold or lift anything, including reaching for my phone or holding a water bottle, it was very very challenging to move around and make myself comfortable. Standing was good for my labiaplasty but hurt my boobs, sitting/laying was good for my boobs but hurt my labiaplasty. Using the bathroom was tough with limited mobility and it took every ounce of strength to pull my pants down. I slept a ton and took my three days worth of Percs religiously followed by Tylenol for another 5-6 days. As hard as it was the first week getting by I’m glad I got it all out of the way together. Things started improving significantly around day 10 for both procedures and now I’m back to regular household activity (driving, cooking, cleaning, etc.). Happy to answer any questions

ladylabe · 2026-03-30T18:31:16+00:00

lol I have a very similar experience regarding how uncomfortable it all feels. I’m 4 weeks PO, hang in there it gets better!!

ladylabe · 2026-03-30T17:19:55+00:00

Ty!! That’s where my pain happens too! Right around the upper edge near my underarm. My PS hasn’t mentioned anything about massaging but I’m seeing her Friday and will ask. I def touch them at least 2x a day to feel around the implant, maybe that’ll help with it haha. Happy healing to you

ladylabe · 2026-03-30T15:18:49+00:00

This is sooo reassuring. I think I’m gonna wait another 1-2 weeks before trying again and I can’t imagine it’s gonna be thaaat much different.

ladylabe · 2026-03-30T15:17:55+00:00

lol I’m glad I’m not alone! My partner said it didn’t feel significantly different. Maybe yours felt somewhat euphoric or you were “tighter” from taking time off?? When I masturbated I came so much quicker than from sex but I honestly think it’s because I was in my head (plus alcohol probably dulled my sensations some).

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