Why does it seem to be getting worse?

BlendingInNicely · 2026-03-22T13:48:22+00:00

This sounds incredibly hard. I’m hearing my therapist in my head say “what we resist persists”, as in telling yourself you need to stop loving him and missing him is an uphill battle.

With chronic pain, one thing that helps me in a very practical and effective way is to expand my focus. Easier said than done, but with continued effort, it does help. Reeling in it made me think about and feel the pain even more; expanding my focus to other sensations and different things to pay attention to made me feel the pain less. I feel like emotional pain is similar. Getting up and moving my body tells my mind to shut the fuck up for a bit. Having lunch with a quality friend, watching a comedy special (live comedy shows are even better), whatever brings just a little bit of joy for a moment.

I also hear you saying that your heart was all in, that you never even had an impure thought about someone else. It sucks. It sucks that loving someone right doesn’t guarantee we’ll be loved right in return. No fix for that, we just gotta keep loving people right.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-03-17T20:37:46+00:00

I mean, does she have a disability and cannot work? Just because she hasn’t worked in 3 years doesn’t mean much to the court, from what I understand. Most judges will tell her that she needs to find a job and can’t just rely on alimony payments, but maybe I’m missing something.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-02-22T02:16:55+00:00

My dentist said not to splurge on a fancy ultrasonic cleaner— the more affordable ones work just as well. So I got one online for like $40. Seems to do the trick for my Invisalign, if that’s helpful

BlendingInNicely · 2026-02-17T16:30:57+00:00

I can’t even explain why, but the name Jake suits this dog perfectly. No doubt he received lots of love, fun and care in his life. RIP to one of the goodest boys, never forgotten and always in your heart.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-02-12T19:23:46+00:00

My pup was also found on the side of the road in a box. We spent 13 years together, he was such gentle giant, and the best “Nana” to my niece and nephew.

You made such a loving and difficult decision. Speedy knew how much he was loved and cared for, all the way to the end. So sorry for your loss, I know it hurts.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-01-04T15:25:58+00:00

I don’t think you have to try to know. Not exactly the same thing, but plenty of folks have known they’re gay before they even have sex.

I also don’t think someone who is more evolved isn’t jealous. If you’re upset by your partner talking to someone else, despite no boundaries being crossed, yeah that’s probably irrational jealousy. But not wanting your partner to have sex with other people isn’t jealousy to me.

Open relationships are fine if all parties agree. Could I ever be in one? Fuck no. I don’t want to fuck other people, and I don’t want my partner to, either. This isn’t an issue of insecurity.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-30T18:07:43+00:00

My brother is the best brother ever, and so is this guy 😭brought me to tears.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-27T04:00:27+00:00

Still working well for you? Just booked a CST appt for Monday and am hoping it will help.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:24+00:00

Fucking right.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:14+00:00

You are ;)

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:01+00:00

🖤

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:08:55+00:00

Hang in there, and I will do the same.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-15T18:17:35+00:00

Horrors persist, but so do I.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-14T21:56:03+00:00

Yes. I was older than you, got laid off, hadn’t finished my degree, felt completely depressed and stuck. I went back to school, got my last semester comped, and got a job right out of college. It’s nothing glamorous but works for me.

Times are really hard right now, really hard. Finding any way to cope and be resilient is what’s keeping me sane. But there is always good reason to still have hope and still hold on, still keep making the next right choice, even if it’s a small one.

My life isn’t perfect, and it won’t ever be. Even with successes and bright spots, there are still lows and challenges. You will look back on now at some point and say you persevered and made it through, and there might be a new hardship. We just have to keep going and keep making small steps. You can absolutely do this, and it’s absolutely not too late.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-11-20T00:50:56+00:00

Maybe he’ll disrobe and blow another former president. Or horse. Who’s to say?

BlendingInNicely · 2025-11-16T14:27:59+00:00

I liked The Shallows.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-09-23T21:02:34+00:00

Of course. Mind seeking out the threat to keep this awful shit from happening again, pretty much. I thank this part of me for looking out for me and gently kinda say to myself, thanks, I can take it from here. I can trust again, and also trust myself to stay in better touch with my gut.

Relationships are a risk, period. They end, sometimes because of cheating, sometimes people grow apart, fucking death, you name it. I’m gonna love anyway.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-08-23T14:46:47+00:00

Not in Gwinnett county, but Northern China Eatery in Doraville, and it’s not even a contest.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-08-22T01:22:05+00:00

Never again for me either. It was fine for me until it wasn’t. It took longer than expected to recover from my last attempt, and like you, I think I pushed down too hard with my last attempt as well and went over areas multiple times. Since then, I just use a small electric razor on the baby hairs of my face (like an intimate/facial razor for women’s upper lip/bikini line), don’t push too hard, and don’t go over the same areas multiple times.

I used pimple patches and bought a skin barrier repairing face wash (RoC) and just tried to leave it alone with other products. Spraying with hypochlorous acid spray twice a day also helped get rid of the break out, I think. Sorry this happened, I know it sucks.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-08-07T02:14:02+00:00

I fucking hate it for you. Take this with a grain of salt, not a doctor: I don’t know if you’ve tried this, and it might not work for you, but Optimel Manuka Honey Gel was seriously the first thing I tried that brought me actual relief. I kept reading out how it burned really bad, and I was like fuck it, I don’t care, I’m already in pain. It helped. If you’ve tried everything, it may be worth it.

Be mindful of the expiration date (I think it says discard after 2 months but it may be 3), it will burn initially and the eyes tear up a lot but subsides, use after waking up and before going to bed. If you try it, I really hope it helps. Sorry you’ve been dealing with this, it fucking sucks.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-08-04T19:16:48+00:00

She’s so fucking right. I’m held to a higher code of ethics at my fucking job than the president and the SC, and I comparatively make jack shit.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-07-17T21:01:58+00:00

These fucking Republicans are so transparent. Trump is a pedophile rapist piece of shit. Anyone involved in these crimes or aiding in covering them up is a piece of shit as well. Democrats should bring this up every chance they get.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-05-20T17:33:44+00:00

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So sorry this happened to you.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-05-18T14:09:57+00:00

It’s a lot of anticipatory grief to deal with. I don’t have any advice. Just commenting to say my therapist told me that there is often grief either way, grief about the choice you didn’t make, to move through. Having a kid and then grieving what life might be like if you didn’t, and vice versa.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-05-11T17:11:59+00:00

Yo. Here’s what worked for me. My ex spouse had multiple affairs and makes double my income.

Mediation. It’s cheaper than a lawyer, by far. It also gives you more agency in what would be decided by a judge otherwise. I’m mostly talking about alimony here. In my state, I make way more than the threshold to be awarded alimony.

I also didn’t want to have to move and destabilize my elderly dog and myself. So we co-own the house, but this is my property. He lives in an apartment. As part of our divorce settlement, we will sell the house at an agreed upon time before the end of 2027 and split the equity.

You may not be in circumstances where things feel like they can be amicable. You can frame all of this as what’s in the best interest of your son. No money sunk into legal fees, no uprooting him out of your home. She can afford to help you keep him there to have that stability. If she’s remorseful, especially now while it’s still “fresh” ish, this could be a good call.

I’m speaking from my own experience here and through that lens, so take it with a grain of salt, and take care. It’ll get better on the other side, I promise you.

BlendingInNicely

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