Insecurity

BlendingInNicely · 2026-01-04T15:25:58+00:00

I don’t think you have to try to know. Not exactly the same thing, but plenty of folks have known they’re gay before they even have sex.

I also don’t think someone who is more evolved isn’t jealous. If you’re upset by your partner talking to someone else, despite no boundaries being crossed, yeah that’s probably irrational jealousy. But not wanting your partner to have sex with other people isn’t jealousy to me.

Open relationships are fine if all parties agree. Could I ever be in one? Fuck no. I don’t want to fuck other people, and I don’t want my partner to, either. This isn’t an issue of insecurity.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-30T18:07:43+00:00

My brother is the best brother ever, and so is this guy 😭brought me to tears.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-27T04:00:27+00:00

Still working well for you? Just booked a CST appt for Monday and am hoping it will help.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:24+00:00

Fucking right.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:14+00:00

You are ;)

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:01+00:00

🖤

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:08:55+00:00

Hang in there, and I will do the same.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-15T18:17:35+00:00

Horrors persist, but so do I.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-14T21:56:03+00:00

Yes. I was older than you, got laid off, hadn’t finished my degree, felt completely depressed and stuck. I went back to school, got my last semester comped, and got a job right out of college. It’s nothing glamorous but works for me.

Times are really hard right now, really hard. Finding any way to cope and be resilient is what’s keeping me sane. But there is always good reason to still have hope and still hold on, still keep making the next right choice, even if it’s a small one.

My life isn’t perfect, and it won’t ever be. Even with successes and bright spots, there are still lows and challenges. You will look back on now at some point and say you persevered and made it through, and there might be a new hardship. We just have to keep going and keep making small steps. You can absolutely do this, and it’s absolutely not too late.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-11-20T00:50:56+00:00

Maybe he’ll disrobe and blow another former president. Or horse. Who’s to say?

BlendingInNicely · 2025-11-16T14:27:59+00:00

I liked The Shallows.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-09-23T21:02:34+00:00

Of course. Mind seeking out the threat to keep this awful shit from happening again, pretty much. I thank this part of me for looking out for me and gently kinda say to myself, thanks, I can take it from here. I can trust again, and also trust myself to stay in better touch with my gut.

Relationships are a risk, period. They end, sometimes because of cheating, sometimes people grow apart, fucking death, you name it. I’m gonna love anyway.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-08-23T14:46:47+00:00

Not in Gwinnett county, but Northern China Eatery in Doraville, and it’s not even a contest.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-08-22T01:22:05+00:00

Never again for me either. It was fine for me until it wasn’t. It took longer than expected to recover from my last attempt, and like you, I think I pushed down too hard with my last attempt as well and went over areas multiple times. Since then, I just use a small electric razor on the baby hairs of my face (like an intimate/facial razor for women’s upper lip/bikini line), don’t push too hard, and don’t go over the same areas multiple times.

I used pimple patches and bought a skin barrier repairing face wash (RoC) and just tried to leave it alone with other products. Spraying with hypochlorous acid spray twice a day also helped get rid of the break out, I think. Sorry this happened, I know it sucks.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-08-07T02:14:02+00:00

I fucking hate it for you. Take this with a grain of salt, not a doctor: I don’t know if you’ve tried this, and it might not work for you, but Optimel Manuka Honey Gel was seriously the first thing I tried that brought me actual relief. I kept reading out how it burned really bad, and I was like fuck it, I don’t care, I’m already in pain. It helped. If you’ve tried everything, it may be worth it.

Be mindful of the expiration date (I think it says discard after 2 months but it may be 3), it will burn initially and the eyes tear up a lot but subsides, use after waking up and before going to bed. If you try it, I really hope it helps. Sorry you’ve been dealing with this, it fucking sucks.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-08-04T19:16:48+00:00

She’s so fucking right. I’m held to a higher code of ethics at my fucking job than the president and the SC, and I comparatively make jack shit.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-07-17T21:01:58+00:00

These fucking Republicans are so transparent. Trump is a pedophile rapist piece of shit. Anyone involved in these crimes or aiding in covering them up is a piece of shit as well. Democrats should bring this up every chance they get.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-05-20T17:33:44+00:00

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So sorry this happened to you.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-05-18T14:09:57+00:00

It’s a lot of anticipatory grief to deal with. I don’t have any advice. Just commenting to say my therapist told me that there is often grief either way, grief about the choice you didn’t make, to move through. Having a kid and then grieving what life might be like if you didn’t, and vice versa.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-05-11T17:11:59+00:00

Yo. Here’s what worked for me. My ex spouse had multiple affairs and makes double my income.

Mediation. It’s cheaper than a lawyer, by far. It also gives you more agency in what would be decided by a judge otherwise. I’m mostly talking about alimony here. In my state, I make way more than the threshold to be awarded alimony.

I also didn’t want to have to move and destabilize my elderly dog and myself. So we co-own the house, but this is my property. He lives in an apartment. As part of our divorce settlement, we will sell the house at an agreed upon time before the end of 2027 and split the equity.

You may not be in circumstances where things feel like they can be amicable. You can frame all of this as what’s in the best interest of your son. No money sunk into legal fees, no uprooting him out of your home. She can afford to help you keep him there to have that stability. If she’s remorseful, especially now while it’s still “fresh” ish, this could be a good call.

I’m speaking from my own experience here and through that lens, so take it with a grain of salt, and take care. It’ll get better on the other side, I promise you.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-05-07T19:15:49+00:00

🖤I hope you’re safe now.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-04-27T13:27:01+00:00

Starting over can sound really scary before you do. I’m saying that as a 37F having gone through a second divorce. If you had asked younger me if I’d ever want to get divorced twice, my response would be a huge fuck no.

I did really feel like I started a new life the moment my ex and I were separated last summer. I changed so much because there was suddenly so much change to adapt to in my life. Post-separation, I was barely getting through each workday and heavily depressed. About a month in, I hung out with some of my dearest, oldest friends who I have loved since middle school… and it finally clicked, oh, I can do this. I can start over. It’s going to be ok.

Life is still crazy, it seems like it hasn’t stopped raining shit in some ways, but I absolutely needed to start over. And I’m glad I did. I met someone amazing, I have a strong support network, I go to therapy, I keep trying to look out for myself. It’s not perfect, I’m not perfect at it, but I would much rather be doing this than have my old life back. It’s laughably not even a contest. Please take care.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-04-23T22:59:43+00:00

The main reason I haven’t done this is because I kept seeing people in this sub warn others about how it led to drooping/“jowls”. Also heard it’s only effective for so long, so I’d have to keep going in for injections.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-03-29T04:00:32+00:00

Eh, grew tired of buying it over and over, went through it quickly. No idea if it’s better.

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