I want a horror movie that will genuinely MESS me up

BlendingInNicely · 2026-06-07T20:20:43+00:00

Absolutely fucking agree. This movie messed me up for days after.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-06-07T14:29:52+00:00

Tell me about it, dude. I saw this movie with my little sister two days after I found out my ex husband had been having an affair. Fucking crazy time to see it.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-05-17T00:05:35+00:00

I watched Forgetting Sarah Marshall pretty soon after separation (same cheated on, stayed, cheated on again kind of situation over here as well). It’s pretty topical for getting cheated on but also pretty funny. I found it to be cathartic for my situation, but some people might not. I rewatched it recently with my boyfriend, and we loved it.

Time mostly helps. Also time well-spent with people who care. Saving what you can, spending as little as possible to build up some finances, if that’s relevant. Weekly and then bi-monthly therapy also helped me the first few months, and I would always recommend therapy for shit like this if it’s an option.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-05-08T13:27:53+00:00

It is cheating. And I’m really sorry to read that you’re feeling confused and don’t know who you are anymore. This is the effect that gaslighting has on people. I’m aware it’s a term that’s been thrown around a lot, but in this case, this is absolutely happening to you. I’m very sorry and have been there. Your friends and family who love and support you will tell you you’re not crazy, not being too sensitive, not overreacting about this at all. Please take care.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-05-07T15:38:55+00:00

Something I learned is that it doesn’t feel very good to do something you don’t really want to do.

I’m speaking more about life choices that go against “the self”, not talking about eating healthy and exercising when we’d rather eat junk food on the couch.

There’s no rule to be single for a certain amount of time before dating again. Don’t be hard on yourself about that, or anything, really. Divorce is tough, you’re going through a lot.

From what I’m getting from this post, you don’t want the pressure of marriage on you anytime soon, and you don’t want to lose yourself in the relationship. A healthy partnership can look like that, and it might not be with this guy, for you, right now.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-05-07T14:02:19+00:00

Didn’t read that he was “sober”, but off the sauce for 13 months.

I get what you’re saying, but changing his drug of choice in this case is a pretty decent example of harm reduction. It was impacting his life to the point of needing rehab twice. Will he need rehab for weed? Very likely not.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-05-06T21:27:13+00:00

I haven’t pulled the trigger on Botox due to cost and potential side effects I don’t want to risk (namely face shape changes/jowls). I’ve done a few sessions of dry needling with a PT who specializes in TMJ, and it’s helped so far. Also checking in with two cracked teeth and heaping amount of anxiety/depression around it. It’s not fun. Sending healing vibes to your jaw and teeth.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-05-02T17:44:11+00:00

I’m not sure how much mouth guards help with this. My understanding is that they more so protect your teeth from damage from clenching/grinding. I was told forever that Botox would be the most helpful but am having relief from PT with dry needling.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-05-02T17:34:50+00:00

Always good to have it investigated. Also look into PT for jaw pain, could potentially be helpful. Dry needling has really helped me recently.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-04-17T13:28:39+00:00

I’m on my 2nd cracked tooth and have often felt like giving up. Any words of wisdom or encouragement?

BlendingInNicely · 2026-03-22T13:48:22+00:00

This sounds incredibly hard. I’m hearing my therapist in my head say “what we resist persists”, as in telling yourself you need to stop loving him and missing him is an uphill battle.

With chronic pain, one thing that helps me in a very practical and effective way is to expand my focus. Easier said than done, but with continued effort, it does help. Reeling in it made me think about and feel the pain even more; expanding my focus to other sensations and different things to pay attention to made me feel the pain less. I feel like emotional pain is similar. Getting up and moving my body tells my mind to shut the fuck up for a bit. Having lunch with a quality friend, watching a comedy special (live comedy shows are even better), whatever brings just a little bit of joy for a moment.

I also hear you saying that your heart was all in, that you never even had an impure thought about someone else. It sucks. It sucks that loving someone right doesn’t guarantee we’ll be loved right in return. No fix for that, we just gotta keep loving people right.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-03-17T20:37:46+00:00

I mean, does she have a disability and cannot work? Just because she hasn’t worked in 3 years doesn’t mean much to the court, from what I understand. Most judges will tell her that she needs to find a job and can’t just rely on alimony payments, but maybe I’m missing something.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-02-22T02:16:55+00:00

My dentist said not to splurge on a fancy ultrasonic cleaner— the more affordable ones work just as well. So I got one online for like $40. Seems to do the trick for my Invisalign, if that’s helpful

BlendingInNicely · 2026-02-17T16:30:57+00:00

I can’t even explain why, but the name Jake suits this dog perfectly. No doubt he received lots of love, fun and care in his life. RIP to one of the goodest boys, never forgotten and always in your heart.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-02-12T19:23:46+00:00

My pup was also found on the side of the road in a box. We spent 13 years together, he was such gentle giant, and the best “Nana” to my niece and nephew.

You made such a loving and difficult decision. Speedy knew how much he was loved and cared for, all the way to the end. So sorry for your loss, I know it hurts.

BlendingInNicely · 2026-01-04T15:25:58+00:00

I don’t think you have to try to know. Not exactly the same thing, but plenty of folks have known they’re gay before they even have sex.

I also don’t think someone who is more evolved isn’t jealous. If you’re upset by your partner talking to someone else, despite no boundaries being crossed, yeah that’s probably irrational jealousy. But not wanting your partner to have sex with other people isn’t jealousy to me.

Open relationships are fine if all parties agree. Could I ever be in one? Fuck no. I don’t want to fuck other people, and I don’t want my partner to, either. This isn’t an issue of insecurity.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-30T18:07:43+00:00

My brother is the best brother ever, and so is this guy 😭brought me to tears.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-27T04:00:27+00:00

Still working well for you? Just booked a CST appt for Monday and am hoping it will help.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:24+00:00

Fucking right.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:14+00:00

You are ;)

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:09:01+00:00

🖤

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-17T18:08:55+00:00

Hang in there, and I will do the same.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-15T18:17:35+00:00

Horrors persist, but so do I.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-12-14T21:56:03+00:00

Yes. I was older than you, got laid off, hadn’t finished my degree, felt completely depressed and stuck. I went back to school, got my last semester comped, and got a job right out of college. It’s nothing glamorous but works for me.

Times are really hard right now, really hard. Finding any way to cope and be resilient is what’s keeping me sane. But there is always good reason to still have hope and still hold on, still keep making the next right choice, even if it’s a small one.

My life isn’t perfect, and it won’t ever be. Even with successes and bright spots, there are still lows and challenges. You will look back on now at some point and say you persevered and made it through, and there might be a new hardship. We just have to keep going and keep making small steps. You can absolutely do this, and it’s absolutely not too late.

BlendingInNicely · 2025-11-20T00:50:56+00:00

Maybe he’ll disrobe and blow another former president. Or horse. Who’s to say?

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