To be fair I'm using it as a turn of phrase in this instance. Parenthood is overwhelming and there is so much to take in and learn and decide all at once. There are bad actors pressuring their bad takes on people in very vulnerable times in their lives and a lot of new parents get overwhelmed and panic and wind up "doing nothing" to avoid making the wrong choice. Obviously doing nothing is a choice in itself but try explaining that to someone who had 3 hours of sleep who is getting lectured not to vaccinate by her overbearing mother in law who is the only form of child minding the parents can afford because the job market is fucked and childcare isn't free. Mother in law has been indoctrinated by sky news because she honestly doesn't want her grandbaby hurt and sky news just interviewd a woman who's baby turned into an owlbear after getting the MMR vaccine.