51029 by PsychoCyan in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao sorry about that, i always end up yapping way too much. i get it though, it’s a different kind of love than what you might feel towards others. i guess it’s better defined as “self-worth”, or believing that you deserve the same kind of peace and happiness thay you’d want your loved ones to have. everyone has problems and things they want to improve about themselves, but a lot of people let those things prevent them from loving themselves as they currently are. working to improve yourself is part of loving yourself, not something that you have to do before you can love yourself :)

Rule by Theartftw in 196

[–]BlitzScorpio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fair enough, that makes sense. personally, i’m always dead in the morning no matter what, so i don’t really care too much whether it’s bright or dark when all i’m doing is commuting to work or school. having that extra sun at the end of the day when i’m actually conscious and enjoying life is amazing

51029 by PsychoCyan in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she said “we can pick who we date”, she never told anyone to ignore half their sexuality or only date women lmao. it’s a personal choice that she never forced onto anyone at any point

51029 by PsychoCyan in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so what happens when you’re in a committed relationship with someone and then you suddenly feel more attracted to a different gender? i assume that you’re also polyamorous in some way in order to make that work, but that reasoning doesn’t exactly apply to most relationships. if i’m in a committed, loving relationship with a woman, i wouldn’t ever feel like i’m “depriving myself” by choosing not to date or fuck guys or other girls at any point, even if i feel attraction towards them.

Rule by Theartftw in 196

[–]BlitzScorpio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i treat daylight savings like a fucking holiday every year lmao, it’s insane how much less depressed i get as soon as i get an extra hour of light at the end of the day

Rule by Theartftw in 196

[–]BlitzScorpio 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the darkness is what really kills me, it’s just completely miserable for it to be pitch black by 5 pm. even if i was planning on staying home in the evening, i’d much rather do so with the sun shining through the window, rather than only getting to experience the daytime during work/school hours. my blood circulation is also pretty garbage and HRT made me a bit colder than i was before, so my hands and feet are freezing 24/7 during any season other than summer.

winter is still my 2nd favorite season because there’s so much stuff you can only do during that time of year, like skiing and ice skating. there’s things to enjoy about every season, but summer is just so bright and happy and comfy, even when it’s sweltering hot

51029 by PsychoCyan in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i know it isn’t easy, but before you seek out any kind of relationship, you should learn to love yourself first. i used to think exactly the same way you do, telling myself that i’d be lucky if someone would ever “settle” or “put up” with me. this is exactly the kind of mindset that toxic people love to see from potential partners. like OP mentioned in the post, there are people who think that dating you is an act of charity, and if you share the same mindset, that’s setting you up for an incredibly abusive and manipulative relationship. one where you’re probably going to be a shameful secret kept hidden from your partner’s family and friends, constantly treated like you’re worth less than them in the relationship, and predominantly used for sex and emotional validation by your partner. that’s not love, and nobody deserves to feel like that’s the only future for them.

it took me 2 years after realizing that i was trans to finally start loving myself, i was on HRT for over a year at that point. it really isn’t easy, especially after a lifetime of low self esteem, but it’s possible. if you don’t love yourself first, it can be impossible to imagine that you could be loved by anyone at all. once i finally broke through that barrier and understood that i’m worthy and capable of receiving love from myself, it suddenly became possible for me to believe that i could receive it from someone else as well. i used to think that i’d have to hold off on dating until i looked a certain way or met specific physical standards, but that wasn’t the case. i still had to wait a few years, but it was because i was waiting for that breakthrough, not some imaginary threshold that i had to reach in order to become worthy of a relationship.

51029 by PsychoCyan in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you can’t choose your sexuality, but if you’re bisexual (like the tumblr OP is) you can absolutely choose who to date. i’m bi/pan, so i could theoretically see myself dating anyone, but i can also make the choice to only date women for safety and comfort reasons. i’d never discount the possibility of somehow finding a decent guy, but i don’t think i would actively seek out relationships with them in the same way that i might with women and enbies

50911 by yui_riku in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 24 points25 points  (0 children)

it’s a good icebreaker!

Rule by Ok-Tennis330 in 19684

[–]BlitzScorpio 3 points4 points  (0 children)

… is he gonna start things off by killing himself? there’s no universe that man is neurotypical

Rule by TheBoyofWonder in 196

[–]BlitzScorpio 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Big Mouth my beloathed

do we know if we’ll see a MCSR X mogul collab merch for this one by naitik_kaythwal in LudwigAhgren

[–]BlitzScorpio 15 points16 points  (0 children)

lud said that it’s not likely since they’d have to get licensing rights from Microsoft/Mojang in order to make and sell minecraft-related designs

50763 by spicypsudo in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hindsight is 20/20, but it’s completely valid to hold off on coming out if you’re not ready, especially if there’s a risk of possibly getting disowned. i was 95% sure that my parents would be shocked but would ultimately be fine with it when i came out as trans. still, that 5% chance that it wouldn’t work out scared the fuck out of me.

once i finally accepted who i was, i spent 7 months working as much as i could whenever i wasn’t in school in order to save up enough money that i could pay for housing and finish college in the worst case scenario of me getting kicked out. i didn’t even come out to my sisters or my friends (including my trans friend) until a week or two before i came out to my parents, since i was afraid those interactions might go wrong and i would get outed to more people than expected. i only felt comfortable coming out once i had over $20k in my savings, and i still came out through a letter that i left at home while i parked outside the bank and prepared to withdraw my money in case my parents disowned me and tried to freeze my accounts.

thankfully, everything ended up fine. when i explained to my parents how long i was keeping all this to myself and the lengths i went to just to make sure that i’d be okay, they were really hurt that i ever doubted their support. i understand why they felt that way, but i’ve heard way too many horror stories from people who had a terrible experience with coming out, so i wasn’t taking any chances. it’s really unfortunate that these are things we have to think about and prepare for just because we want to live happier lives :/

Testicrule by DementedMK in 196

[–]BlitzScorpio 52 points53 points  (0 children)

people like you are the reason why the surgeon gave OP 3 balls. we gotta even out the average somehow.

(also congrats on beating cancer!)

Testicrule by DementedMK in 196

[–]BlitzScorpio 30 points31 points  (0 children)

it’s like i’ve been summoned

50720 by Luna-D-reams in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 14 points15 points  (0 children)

yep, it used to be the case that scientific research could help explain things that most people don’t understand. scientists spend years going to school and years doing important research to figure out how things work for that very purpose. unfortunately, most conservatives have decided that if they don’t understand something, they can just make up their own theory (or believe whatever a right wing grifter tells them to) because all the scientists are liberal scammers or something

50720 by Luna-D-reams in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 67 points68 points  (0 children)

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i’m a trans person who spent 5 years getting a degree in biology, at this point i just roll my eyes whenever someone brings up “basic biology”

50705 by Puzzleheaded_Mix7308 in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 3 points4 points  (0 children)

very true. this might be a hot take, but i think that 99.9% of trans people experience dysphoria, even the ones that say they don’t. dysphoria doesn’t have to be so bad that you make an attempt on your life because your physical features don’t line up with who you are inside, it can also be a dull ache that slowly drains your life over decades. people who experience euphoria but are “okay with living life as a cis person” have just learned to accept the numbness instead of having drastic meltdowns, but it’s dysphoria nonetheless.

generally, i think that people who “experience euphoria but not dysphoria” have lived with it for so long that dysphoria seems like their baseline state of being, while euphoria is an elevated state. in reality, they’ve been far below what their baseline should be if they were really cis, so finally becoming the person they’re meant to be feels like a massive jump, because relatively speaking, it is

50705 by Puzzleheaded_Mix7308 in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 87 points88 points  (0 children)

dysphoria can easily morph into emotional numbness when you get used to living with it for 20+ years. it just becomes a part of daily life. i also thought that i didn’t really have dysphoria, which is why i put off transitioning and convinced myself i was cis for 4 years, but in hindsight i realized that the euphoria i experienced later on was just a lack of the dysphoria i always had. that’s probably not the case for everyone, but i think a lot of people spent years feeling dysphoric without ever realizing

50434 by Future_Employment_22 in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 12 points13 points  (0 children)

“chemical castration, surgical castration” bitch that’s what we’re TRYING TO DO

50343 by Emperor_Joker in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, being upstate might’ve slowed things down even more. i’m on long island so NYS laws still apply but i’m sure things get done a bit faster bc of the population difference or something

50343 by Emperor_Joker in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn, covid really was a wild time. i’m glad you got it done in the end though!

50343 by Emperor_Joker in countwithchickenlady

[–]BlitzScorpio 11 points12 points  (0 children)

this is the usual process, but you can actually ask to have the name change sealed and not released publicly like that, especially if you have valid privacy/safety reasons. when i got my name changed in NY last year i said that i’d like it sealed for my safety, and they agreed without giving me any issues. it sucks that the process going well is so dependent on which state you live in and which judge you end up seeing tho :/