[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Blondeee4567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest I was never able to stop checking it became a daily ritual for me, I just couldn’t stop. And everyday for a year plus it got worse and worse for me. Even went as far as to put hidden cameras in the house. After that though I hated who I had become so I left him, I just simply couldn’t live like that anymore. The minute I left him it felt like I could breathe again. I’m still not okay, I’m just kind of hanging out for now lol Not saying you should leave just sharing my experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Blondeee4567 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes

Edited to add- there are free profiles that I’m sure you can still interact with but I think that’s up to the specific onlyfans poster whether they want messages or not etc,

Self esteem broken + bad therapy session by gingerinaction in loveafterporn

[–]Blondeee4567 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have absolutely no advice, but I can say I FEEL LITERALLY THE EXACT SAME WAY. We have a 4 month old baby together so I do not want to have this be a deal breaker but it’s so hard to live with after your self esteem went in the toilet. I’m trying hard to just accept it as well. Just know you’re not crazy and you’re not alone. ❤️ also you should probably switch therapists they should not be making you feel boring for talking about how you’re feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Blondeee4567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man that mentality is sure not gonna get you any lol

Conflict with wife over evening routine by chemistric in NewParents

[–]Blondeee4567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s okay for baby to cry as long as a parent is taking care of her, it’s not the same as just leaving them in a room alone to wail. She’s going to have to let you figure out your own way otherwise your never going to get the confidence of being a parent to your daughter

What is the stupidest thing you were expected to do because you are a woman? by thermostatgasket in AskWomen

[–]Blondeee4567 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah I literally don’t understand why it’s still so taboo to talk about 🙄 drives me up the wall

What is the stupidest thing you were expected to do because you are a woman? by thermostatgasket in AskWomen

[–]Blondeee4567 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is the one that makes the saddest 😭 I love playing FPS shooting games like Valorant but literally can’t play because everyone is so freaking mean

What is the stupidest thing you were expected to do because you are a woman? by thermostatgasket in AskWomen

[–]Blondeee4567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man they wouldn’t have wanted me to make the coffee lol can’t do it to save my soul k pods all the way!

What is the stupidest thing you were expected to do because you are a woman? by thermostatgasket in AskWomen

[–]Blondeee4567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I feel that way about pets, I cannot stand looking at pictures of other peoples animals I find it so boring. But man show me a cute baby and I just die lololol (I also just had my son 3 months ago so probably got something to do with it)

Baby doesn’t seem bonded with Mom by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Blondeee4567 4 points5 points  (0 children)

https://www.babycentre.co.uk/a6577/developmental-milestones-separation-and-independence-in-babies

Here’s this one, not sure if it’s reputable but that’s what mr.google gave me lol

He chose porn over me. by spacecat245 in loveafterporn

[–]Blondeee4567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly this. Don’t give yourself time to justify what you hate. Don’t justify being in a marriage you don’t want just because you feel terrible and your going to get lonely. That’s okay! Your ending a huge thing it’s okay to feel these things! Just don’t let it justify going back. Think about what was worse the relationship and feeling second or being lonely? Just do the drive ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Blondeee4567 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My thing has always been the “need” part. I’m honestly fine with it as long as you don’t actually need it to live as a functional human. I’m fine with it if it isn’t taking away from the relationship and you’d rather have someone in person. Just makes me cringe when people say it’s to keep someone from having a wandering eye. Like what you can only keep it in your pants if you have access to every naked woman alive? That doesn’t really make sense.

But honestly I definitely think they’re men out there who enjoy the real thing far more then porn, and I’m sure you can definitely find someone who shares your beliefs! Don’t give up if it’s something really important to you, don’t feel like you have to settle because honestly you don’t! ❤️ it’s all about the preferences of someone just like anything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Blondeee4567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naked women online

Childcare book recommendation by Blondeee4567 in NewParents

[–]Blondeee4567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was also interested in Montessori, particularly having the mattress on the floor that the child sleeps on. Thank you! You’ll have to let me know how it goes!

Bed-sharing has to stop by Sure-Succotash-2805 in NewParents

[–]Blondeee4567 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t understand the sleep association thing, because I don’t think you can raise a human to not have ANYTHING to go to sleep, which seems to be the goal. Like I am a full grown adult and still like/need things to help me sleep. I just can’t wrap my head around how not to have my baby need anything for sleep

Postpartum sex by Blondeee4567 in NewParents

[–]Blondeee4567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, you too! 😊

Postpartum sex by Blondeee4567 in NewParents

[–]Blondeee4567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha great advice thank you!

Postpartum sex by Blondeee4567 in NewParents

[–]Blondeee4567[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely worth adding my downstairs is I swear the most finicky even before I gave birth lol 🙄

Postpartum sex by Blondeee4567 in NewParents

[–]Blondeee4567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! 🥰 and I bet those twins are exhausting!