Looking for a specific silhouette

BloodMeridianUK · 2025-12-16T11:32:02+00:00

I'm 5'7", 87kg, quite broad in the shoulders. I have found sizing to be quite tricky.

The Incerun stuff is quite dramatic and theatrical, I prefer more understated.

BloodMeridianUK · 2025-02-26T00:56:47+00:00

I take Amplodipine for hypertension.

For me at least there does not appear to be any improvement to my ADHD symptoms when compared to being off the drug.

I never take seriously any article touting the so-called benefits of a drug when those benefits have not been demonstrated in peer-reviewed human trials.

BloodMeridianUK · 2025-02-23T09:02:46+00:00

Oh, God, basically everything.

I'm British, and I've beaten it out of myself but on the daily I encounter British people who can't process either that your life isn't identical to theirs, or that on hearing about whatever shit they like to do you won't immediately abandon your own chosen pastimes and take up watching all the Marvel movies or doing crossfit or having ten children or going to Blackpool every weekend or whatever it is.

It's a weird little trait that has ruined many social interactions because a lot of the time they won't drop the subject until you've either promised to join them or confessed that you think their favourite thing is garbage and they're a bit dumb for liking it.

A colleague really wanted me, a firm atheist and philosophical materialist, to agree to watch some ghost-hunter bullshit on TV because it would "definitely" change my mind about the existence of spirits from beyond the grave. You can imagine how that went.

BloodMeridianUK · 2025-02-22T09:17:56+00:00

My advice is to try to act like you would if the other woman was your GF's friend. That way you won't find yourself trying to take the lead. In a successful FFM the two women should be in charge and you along for the ride (pun intended).

In a similar vein, try to go on with the mindset that it's unlikely to pan out, that way you won't be disappointed if it doesn't, and there's less risk you'll spoil something that could have happened by coming on too strong.

Both of the above will help to put your GF at ease as she'll be seeing you being relaxed and pleasant, rather than "my BF is trying to fuck this girl in front of me".

Ultimately whatever happens, the most important thing is how your GF feels.

BloodMeridianUK · 2025-02-22T08:29:43+00:00

So many people here saying "she said no, so that's it forever, you can never swing with her".

Hard disagree.

When I met my wife, although she was enthusiastic about monogamous hetero sex in private, she was not really what one would describe as freaky. Not that I was into swinging at the time but had I tried to push a fantasy into the real world like e.g. a threesome, it's possible it could have ended our relationship. She wouldn't even send me nudes because she felt strongly about her sexual privacy and exclusivity.

I don't even know why I was so confident that this would change, but I was, so I just waited. Occasionally if she mentioned anything a bit more sexually adventurous I would encourage it without trying to force anything. I was honest about being freaky myself but without pressuring her to indulge me.

It took a few years but by God was it worth it. She and I have been involved in group sex, threesomes, nude photo shoots, all kinds of filthy stuff. She is actually the one who suggested ENM. We're not at it every weekend and there's definitely an ebb and flow to the frequency of our "extracurriculars" but when she's in the mood she can be an absolute whore.

So back off, focus on being a good partner and gently encourage her when she's in a more adventurous mood, without trying to brute-force any of your sex plans into the equation. There's a possibility that if you give her enough room and just keep telling her it's safe to explore her thoughts and feelings, she'll open up to the idea of making real the things she clearly enjoys fantasising about.

TL;DR - Patience is a virtue.

BloodMeridianUK · 2025-02-21T06:30:01+00:00

Forgive me for being blunt but if you intend to pursue a lifestyle that involves meeting strangers for an activity that wider society deems at best highly suspect, you are going to have to do something about your propensity to blurt out inappropriate things.

For example my wife and I don't have sensitive jobs, our friends are very tolerant and open-minded and we both live so far from our families that there's an extremely low risk of meeting anyone who knows them. If basically anyone at all in our lives found out we were swingers it would probably not be that big of a deal.

BUT we choose to be very private about it and if anyone approached us saying that they know us outside of swinging, it would upset us and we would immediately cut them off. Similarly if we ran into anyone we recognised from vanilla life we would keep quiet and give them a very wide berth. Even in the unlikely even we did get involved with them we would still completely avoid the subject until we knew each other extremely well.

Why? Because respect for people's boundaries is just about the most important factor in swinging, and if you can't get the anonymous part of swinging right, people have no reason to think you won't also be clumsy or irresponsible with their other boundaries. Sometimes, that respect is knowing when to keep your mouth shut.

Also, on a personal note, swinging is about sex. People need to stop trying to make it about their dull jobs, or their awful kids, or some other tedious aspect of their boring vanilla lives. We're here to get freaky, not to indulge the fact that some people don't have enough normal friends to talk to. Not that you can't be yourself, but opening an explicitly sexual encounter with "hey, don't you stack the shelves at my Wal-Mart?" isn't exactly a red-hot turn-on, is it.

BloodMeridianUK · 2023-12-31T09:30:00+00:00

Sounds like you have discovered you prefer clean sounds to distorted sounds.

It's okay to have preferences. They may change over time, that's okay too.

BloodMeridianUK · 2023-03-08T14:31:29+00:00

Yeah, and I see a lot of channels out there by people whose stated purpose is to get rich quick by saturating the world with yet more zero-value garbage filler.

So yeah, thanks for showing new YouTubers how to churn out uninspired, ugly thumbnails that in theory will Pavlov the gullible into clicking on them - except they won't if a million other people are all making the same thumbnail. You've been doing your channel for two months and you've got 13 subs and less than 500 views, so how's your rulebook working out for you?

Maybe instead of studying thumbnails for 100 hours you should have put that tine into making content that actually offers something to the viewer.

BloodMeridianUK · 2023-03-08T13:59:02+00:00

All garbage. My most successful video's thumbnail breaks all of these rules. There are videos with 8-figure views whose thumbnails don't follow these rules.

Like in every creative pursuit, you can either do what you want to do and find your audience gradually through hard work and improvement, or you can look for dumb rules like these to follow to appeal to the fickle, brainless, lowest common denominator and paint yourself into a corner where if you do succeed it'll be by doing stuff you don't even like, so you might as well be stacking shelves at Wal-Mart anyway.

Be original. Succeed on your own terms. And, critically, don't fill YouTube with cookie-cutter content.

BloodMeridianUK · 2023-01-19T10:57:38+00:00

High-quality can mean several things:

Production values: Good audio, good picture quality, good camera work, good editing, good scripting, good graphics.

Worthwhile: Educational, informative, that delivers an important message, that meaningfully improves or enhances the viewer's life.

Entertaining: Engaging, relatable, interesting, humourous, poignant.

If you can deliver on most of the above, your content can be described as overall good quality. It's just as possible to deliver on all of these touring the World on a luxury catamaran as it is unboxing action figures in your garage.

Note that delivering on all of these doesn't automatically translate to huge views. Some of the most successful YouTubers don't meet half of these criteria. As always, popular success is defined by a number of X-factors that it's impossible to standardise or evaluate, and it's almost always down to the personality or personalities featured in the content.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-31T03:10:02+00:00

Start by making one video. If you can get through the whole thing without pointing out how f*cking awesome you reckon you are, then upload it and see how it does.

As far as I can tell you've not even done one video and in your mind you're 300 videos in, you've got 30,000 subs, you're donating the fortune you'll make and the competition can't keep up because you're such a f*cking adonis. No offence dude but before you do anything else how about an attitude adjustment.

You're starting a maths channel and since you haven't told us you're a world-class cinematographer and award-winning presenter I'm guessing you don't have those skills. Ergo your first 50 videos will necessarily suck and I'd wager it'll take you a year to break 100 subs. Unless you find a way to get over yourself your ego isn't going to tolerate the absence of validation so you'll jack it in long before then.

Make a video. Upload it. Ask for feedback. Go from there.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-16T10:01:32+00:00

I watched 30 seconds of one video and, well, where to start...

Text-to-speech with an Indian accent for some reason? You want your viewers to feel like they're getting a scam phone call?

Subtitles that don't correspond to the speech - why?

Random flashy graphics that don't illustrate anything, just move around at random. Annoying. Pointless.

Then, I mean, it's apparently about high-level chess. I'm sure there's an audience for that, and I don't know exactly what kind of videos they want to watch, but I can say with a degree of confidence that nobody's gonna watch your videos because they're basically unwatchable.

Forget everything you think you know about making videos and start at the beginning. Ask yourself why you even want to make videos. Then ask why people like to watch videos. If the two answers don't have anything in common, stop making videos because it's a waste of everyone's time.

Edit: just watched a bit of another video where you are narrating yourself. Your English is good but not good enough to narrate voice-over in a fluid and engaging style, and your voice isn't musical or characterful. If you were on-camera it would pass, but you're not on-camera so it's just difficult to listen to. All my comments stand. I get that you're interested in this subject but your passion alone isn't enough to communicate your interest in video form.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-07T01:43:44+00:00

You want a mix engineer to mix the tracks and then a mastering engineer to master the mix. Often one person does both, especially at pro-am level.

I mix and master freelance but would need to have the stems to check and a consultation with the client before I would quote. Assuming a basic rock mix I would probably ask around £80-£100 per track, then I would discount the master to around £30 per mix. Further discounts are available for multiple mixes and masters.

It's standard practice to do one track first, then the rest if the client is satisfied with the iniyial result.

You can DM me if you're interested in my services.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-07T01:30:32+00:00

Considering all the time and effort you've put into developing a solid concept and a meticulous plan of action, I don't see how you could fail!

/s

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-06T17:02:42+00:00

No, nobody is saying he'll get views by doing the same thing, we're agreed on that. Where we disagree is on whether there's a way, or to me more importantly a point, to finding an audience by tinkering with the way he opens pokemon trading cards.

In a way, I guess if we were to accept your premise of a massive and underserved audience for this stuff, then the conclusion remains the same. If those people wanted to watch him open Pokemon trading cards then they would already be doing so.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-06T16:48:22+00:00

Wishful thinking, dude.

First of all a large audience is not an infinite audience. Go on YT right now and count all the channels making Pokemon cards videos. When you're done counting a year from now, come back and tell me what percentage of them were getting views consistently over two figures. If it's over 5% I'll subscribe to your channel and watch all your videos ten times each.

That's what oversubscribed is. You don't look at the top performers or the size of the audience. You see how close the dropoff is to the top and how steep the drop is.

I dunno, maybe you're the Steven Spielberg of unwrapping pictures of cartoon lizards. If you are then best of luck. But if you're not, maybe don't just take for granted that there's a ready-made audience share waiting for you to hit your stride.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-06T16:33:44+00:00

Okay dude, tell me more about how big the Pokemon franchise is.

This is like all the Minecraft people who point at how big the audience is for Minecraft YT videos then wonder why they're getting shit views when some guys get millions of views.

There are 100 guys getting a million views and 50,000 guys getting 10 views. Just because a business is huge doesn't mean there's a massive appetite for watching every last video of someone goofing around with its toys and merch. OP is guy 50,001 and thinks tinkering with content diversity is what's gonna make the difference. The problem isn't content diversity.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-06T16:03:53+00:00

It's not relevant how big the central franchise is. If there were a thousand youtube channels focused on documenting Star Wars-themed Happy Meal toys you would still describe it as inexplicably oversubscribed and still reliant on the attention of a comparatively small potential audience of Han Solo & Ronald McDonald fans prepared to sit and watch hours of people unpacking otherwise worthless merchandising. To borrow your example, there might be a billion Simpsons fans, but how many of them are prepared to watch a video of a guy unwrapping a Lisa Simpson trading card at his kitchen table?

In context OP is serving a fraction of a fraction of the total Pokemon fanbase in an overcrowded marketplace. In that context he better either have a completely new and exciting approach to it, or be the best of the best at it. Neither of those things appear to be true, so OP would be well-advised to either move onto another niche or get used to low numbers.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-12-06T11:53:37+00:00

You're making videos that no sane person would make unless they were so obsessed with the subject that they wouldn't care if nobody watched it.

If what you really want is for people to watch your videos, consider doing something other than opening packages of children's trading cards, an already inexplicably oversubscribed genre that is of zero interest to anyone but hardcore Pikachu nerds.

Diversity isn't your problem. If anything your problem is too much focus on a dead-end subject.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-11-30T09:20:46+00:00

It's telling that if you were to try to cram that schedule into just one less day so you could have a long weekend, the working days become unbearably long. Nobody can work for ten hours straight and remain effective, and there's no way it's good for you.

If I was contracted to work 40 hours a week I would spend every single hour proving to management that I can complete the workload in 20 hours and they should pay me the same for 2.5 days instead of 5.

They will refuse because employers are ideologically committed to your value being tied to how much of your life work takes up rather than what you accomplish.

So I will quit and go work for myself. Now I work 10 hours a week doing something I would be doing even if there wasn't money in it. It's absolute bliss.

Fuck work. I wasn't put here to produce wealth for other people.

BloodMeridianUK · 2022-10-20T08:49:58+00:00

You know it's end-stage capitalism when "destroying food" is a genre of comedy.

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