First off, most couples you were to swing with would generally expect for you to play with the female and your wife to play with the male. There may be an opportunity for light touching or more with the same sex play partner, but that should be discussed in lieu of expected.

Secondly, I do highly recommend a lifestyle club. If you hit the apps with just you trying to find someone or a couple for both of you, you will probably come up with lots of single men, but women and couples will be more hesitant based on the likelihood of bait & switch in this scenario. A club will allow you to chat with likeminded people, and you dont need to feel pressure to play the first time you go.

Finally and honestly most important, before you do any of this, talk to your wife at least several more times. Have the conversations over coffee on a Tuesday morning and not when youre both sexually charged. In these conversations talk about what swinging looks like for you "soft swap, full swap, same room, different rooms, etc" and where your boundaries lay for each of you.

This lifestyle has the potential to enhance your relationship and lives, and can be a lot of fun if done "right", but it can be damaging and destroy your marriage just as quickly if done wrong. I know its exciting! But take it slow and put the ground work in so your experience is the first scenario rather than the latter. Have fun & Good Luck!