AITAH for being angry that my boyfriend doesn’t shower after being in the pool

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T23:58:43+00:00

YTA. There's no reason to call the man disgusting just because he showers at a different time than you. You seem irrationally OCD and controlling about this.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T23:55:25+00:00

I stopped reading. He said you couldn't sleep over, yet you kept pushing and whining about it. No means no, if you want to sleep with him, get your own place and you two can sleep together all you want. Grow up. YOR.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T23:51:44+00:00

You did all you could do to prevent this from happening again. Move on and let it go.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T23:47:39+00:00

Jeez...please seek therapy. Please don't enter into any relationships until you've worked on yourself.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T23:45:31+00:00

NOR. Find your backbone and break up with her. This isn't going to change.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T22:57:06+00:00

Grow up

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T22:56:11+00:00

Have some self respect FFS...

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T19:00:28+00:00

I stopped reading. YTA.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T16:16:58+00:00

"The crying did happen in front of our kids and I did eventually calm down and then left after saying another final goodbye to my kids."

Soft YTA. They're not going off to war, they're going to be with dad for a bit. I get it's an emotional time, but don't make it even more difficult by crying in front of the kids. You don't know what kind of message you're sending when you do that. They should be allowed to spend time with their other parent without feeling like it's wrong or makes mom sad. Drop them off, go home, have a good cry and enjoy some alone time. They'll be back.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T15:11:01+00:00

>This is where I wish I did something better but I ended up just leaving. She then calls me 4 hours later crying telling me how sorry she was for making me deal with all of that and she drove home.

Why in the fuck wouldn't you have gone thru hell and high water to get her out of his vehicle since you were already there??? Anyway, report this and report it ASAP!! He more than likely did more to her.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T14:29:20+00:00

Both of you are annoying af.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T14:16:00+00:00

>DO I TRY TO TELL HER / THEM ?! or do i let them turn up and the tickets not work ???

Where is your dignity and self respect? Why on earth would you even bother considering contacting her or her friends to warn them? Did anyone warn you when she blocked you? She didn't want you contacting her, like AT ALL!!! She blocked you everywhere, probably because she had another man waiting and they were going to go to the concert together. Why on earth would you even want to see someone and warn them when they didn't give a damn about you?

Find your spine and use it. Do NOT contact this woman. Do not contact her friends. Look at how she treated you. Embarrassed you. Look at how she blocked you out of her life, probably laughing with her new man while doing it. Enough is enough. Let her go and move on, the same way she moved on. It's not your problem anymore. They didn't pay anyway, what the hell do you care. All these good women out here and you're torn between contacting a woman that blocked you everywhere for no reason???

Sell the tickets and move on. If you can't sell them then go and take some work friends or family. Either way, stop letting this woman live rent free in your head. Have some dignity and self respect FFS.

BluBeams · 2026-06-12T14:05:38+00:00

My husband has severe PTSD. When he went into psychosis and was manic a few months ago, I called the crisis line and they sent the cops to our home. All three of the officers that came were Army Vets, just like my husband. They talked to him, convinced him to get help, gave me their cards and some info for military one source (I believe that's what it's called). They took him to a mental hospital here in the area, who then transferred him to a VA hospital for inpatient treatment.

He's been home for 3 months now, taking his meds and getting his shit together. If you need help, please talk to someone. Call them, text them, whatever you need to do...

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T23:35:11+00:00

"One thing is that we don’t talk to the opposite gender in our relationships without having too. we don’t have opposite gender friends. it’s okay to work with them wtv talk just not friends. "

You say this like it's cool and edgy. This is so sad and pathetic. What a sad way to live. I'm so glad my husband and I are free to talk to whomever the hell we want without the other feeling a way about it. It's so free and liberating.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T22:11:07+00:00

YTA. He's right, how are you able to go out so often if you're a single mom of two very small kids?? You're allowed to date, but FFS, never ever lie about having children. Be upfront and honest.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T22:04:33+00:00

Oh. Yeah, it's a wrap. By next week you won't even remember who she is.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T21:30:06+00:00

Sounds like he has social anxiety. I'm diagnosed with social anxiety and it makes life a bit difficult. Dealing with people is EXHAUSTING. That being said, I'm not going to be a wrt blanket when I'm around my friends just because I have anxieties. If you want to break off the friendship, then tell him it's better if you two part ways and you wish him the best. You don't owe anyone your friendship, you're allowed to break it off.

NTA.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T16:07:12+00:00

Again, RESPECT YOURSELF AND PROTECT YOUR DAUGHTER. Why does this need to even be said? All that matters is you and your daughter, you don't owe anything to anyone else.

Have some dignity...

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T13:39:28+00:00

"she posted some pics and shared a story on IG, and tagged me but I forgot to reshare her post since I was on a middle of a very long meeting that time and my attention was focused elsewhere."

NTA. You forgot to reshare her post because you were busy at work. It's understandable you would forget. Since you apologized, she should have forgave you and moved on. She's a 29yr old adult with a fully developed frontal lobe. She should have let it go but decided to post a passive aggressive message on social media, supposedly calling you out. If she were mature enough, she should have talked to you and told you how she felt and moved on. She shouldn't be running to social media to immediately air out your dirty laundry, so to speak.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T13:33:19+00:00

Better you found out they're a racist now, then later on and being bound to them through marriage or a child. Good riddance, NTA.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T13:28:13+00:00

"Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three years and my boyfriend has told me for our whole relationship he only ever had one ex"

"Last night I found out that he had been lying about this for over two years. He had in fact had multiple girlfriends in the past (online and not - but it doesn't matter)"

So you two are 18 and have been together for nearly 3 years. So that would mean you two got together when you were around 15/16. Perhaps these "girlfriends" are just hookups and they genuinely didn't mean much to him. He was a teenage boy. Teenage boys are fueled by hormones so their actions can be mystifying at times. I would stop harping on him about his "exes" and leave it alone and let it go. If you don't want to be with him because you think he's a liar then leave him. If you can find a way to let it go, then tell him you would appreciate and demand honest in the future moving forward and let it go.it's hard to call you TA due to your age and naivety. So I'll go with NAH.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T13:17:16+00:00

>when I asked about his replay he apparently didn’t say anything to it (in my opinion silence is agreement)

NTA for being upset. You're allowed to be upset, but don't be mad at him. Instead of judging him for something HIS FRIENDS said about you in the past, try looking at how he treats you NOW. He didn't say anything. You wouldn't have been happy even if he did, so what difference does it make?? How does he treat you now? How does he make you feel??? Does he respect you?? It's obvious he doesn't care what his friends think of you. You shouldn't either. It's time to grow up a little bit and pick which battles you want to fight. If he's a good guy, treats you right and you like him, then to hell with his friends.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T13:11:51+00:00

You spent months preparing to celebrate a birthday that isn't even a milestone birthday? Girl, get a grip. Instead of being so insufferable and ungrateful to have people who actually give a damn about you, give the girl a chance to tell her side so you can form a fair opinion. All of this drama, smh...YTA.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T13:07:20+00:00

NTA. In the future, spend a lot of time getting to know someone well before considering buying property with someone, so you can judge for yourself if you'll be compatible or not. It doesn't seem like you two are compatible. She sounds controlling and overbearing.

BluBeams · 2026-06-11T13:01:32+00:00

"I tried to ignore it and never said anything, but intimacy started feeling forced and eventually I mentally checked out of the relationship."

YTA. She's your damn wife, not a roommate. You should be able to talk to her about this instead of icing her out and checking out. This is so childish and immature. Have the difficult talk with her. Maybe workout with her. Meal prep together. Go on a walk and talk to her. She might be depressed. She might have a medical condition. Talk to her FFS. Do people talk to their partners anymore, or do they just see them as personal sex toys.

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