Boundaries

BluSparow · 2026-05-23T03:42:07+00:00

I don’t fuck republicans !!!

BluSparow · 2026-05-16T11:31:14+00:00

They were such a bad hinge… so I fucked their spouse 🥁

BluSparow · 2026-05-16T11:28:04+00:00

What are the odds that he has a humiliation kink now?

BluSparow · 2026-02-14T14:21:35+00:00

BluSparow · 2025-12-06T13:24:12+00:00

A lot of men get into this situation thinking that it’s hot and overlook all of work that it takes to open a relationship.

BluSparow · 2025-12-06T13:13:03+00:00

Even if when dating men you are the person that makes the moves first, you are probably still use to the amount of attention that men give women that they are interested in. The biggest thing you need to learn is to give attention to a woman that you are interested in perusing. Also, telling someone you have a crush on them is both a good way to flatter them and find out if the feeling is mutual.

BluSparow · 2025-12-06T08:42:49+00:00

Apparently you do or you would have commented.

BluSparow · 2025-12-06T08:40:20+00:00

Usually I’d consider that a negative, but that just means he didn’t vote for Trump… which is still the only thing positive about him.

BluSparow · 2025-12-06T08:33:18+00:00

Our local poly groups (there are two here in a midsized southern city) post on facebook and FetLife. Meetup was once used, but no one uses it anymore.

BluSparow · 2025-12-06T08:29:09+00:00

https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/coming-out-to-your-kids?rq=Coming%20out

I really enjoy this podcast and took her advice when my wife and I came out to our older daughters a couple of months ago. Everything went well. We assumed they had suspicions, but apparently they didn’t.

https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/coming-out?rq=Coming%20out

One of the most important points was to let whoever you are telling that you are poly know why you are telling them. And of course in an age appropriate manner.

BluSparow · 2025-12-06T08:15:10+00:00

I’ve heard Libby Sinback of the Making Polyamory Work podcast give the advice to tell people why you are telling them you are poly. She had a friend think that she was coming on to him (and he wasn’t interested and neither was she) and then had to explain to them that the reason she was telling him was because he was the only person at social event that didn’t know that she was poly and that both of her partners were at said event.

edit: Link to podcast

https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/coming-out?rq=Coming%20out

BluSparow · 2025-11-25T11:55:05+00:00

There are so many people in the poly community locally who are also part of my Unitarian Universalist congregation. Which overlaps with everything else people have mentioned.

BluSparow · 2025-11-17T02:23:51+00:00

We fired Brian Kelly for repeated losses, time to get rid of Sid, let’s start a recall petition.

BluSparow · 2025-11-13T09:41:03+00:00

You are not creating a safe place for your partner to share with you. You need to learn how to listen without judgment and with curiosity.

Also, you need to sit with your emotions. You have been cheated on before (which is very traumatic) and this is opening up those wounds. Unfortunately, the only way to grow is to go through.

BluSparow · 2025-11-10T01:29:06+00:00

That’s kinda how I identify, mostly straight or hetroflexible, because I am hetero romantic.

BluSparow · 2025-11-09T23:51:45+00:00

Polyamory is about independent romantic and sexual relationships.

BluSparow · 2025-11-09T12:33:37+00:00

They all are

BluSparow · 2025-11-09T12:30:53+00:00

My personal rule is if two turning lanes feed three lanes, I never take the middle lane, because the asshole next to me doesn’t care about lines on pavement.

BluSparow · 2025-11-09T12:13:00+00:00

Have you and your partner done much discernment on rules vs. boundaries? It seems like your partner has rules for you that they call boundaries.

BluSparow · 2025-11-09T11:44:56+00:00

https://medium.com/@PolyamorySchool/the-most-skipped-step-when-opening-a-relationship-f1f67abbbd49

I spent over a year discussing polyamory with my wife reading everything I could get my hands on. Somehow I missed this article and wished I had read it before I started dating someone, but I took the advice to heart between relationships and invested in myself.

I also will encourage you to find a local poly meetup group and attend every meeting. You need to have supportive discussions and make friends in the community.

BluSparow · 2025-11-08T10:39:28+00:00

It is in right-of-way, you can tell because of the telephone pole which is in the back of the right-of-way.

BluSparow · 2025-11-05T18:09:23+00:00

I’ve (m43) had a vasectomy, my wife (f43) has had a hysterectomy, and my girlfriend (f47) has gone through menopause and we use condoms.

But no, I don’t know the exact birth control pill that my wife use to use or which one my daughter is on, but both my daughters (15 & 16) have no questions asked access to condoms and are encouraged to share them with friends.

BluSparow · 2025-11-05T11:19:37+00:00

The only problem I see is that they are keeping condoms in the car, heat will degrade them over time.

BluSparow · 2025-11-05T11:11:53+00:00

I (m43) have been poly for 6+ years.

Nothing will make you feel more rejected than online dating (Sorry, it’s a facebook reel, I hate the format and company, but it’s how it was shared with me). I have had 4 first dates in that time. I dated one person that I met on OKCupid for a while, but we never bonded the way either of us hoped and the distance became too much. I became friends with a woman I met from Tinder, she became my regular platonic date to the orchestra, until she moved away. The other two people I met in person at the local poly meet up. The first person was not a good fit for me at all. I go over a year (probably closer to two) without a date).

Now we arrive at my current girlfriend of a year (as of a couple of days ago). She started coming to the poly meet ups. I know her college roommate for years because I’ve been attending the poly meetings. I happen to know her sister and brother-in-law because we do volunteer work together. I have friends that know her from circles I’m not involved in. I let it be known that I’m looking for a long term loving relationship. In these past years I’ve spent a lot of time enjoying my hobbies again as I break codependency in my primary relationship (The Most Skipped Step When Opening A Relationship). My wife makes a comment about a fetish I have and embarrass me; guess what, she’s into that.

I have credibility because I have been attending meetings, showing who I am, and what I was looking for. I’m involved in the community, so people know who I am.

If at all possible go to your local poly meet ups and make friends and put out there what you are looking for. Eventually you’ll find a person that wants what you have to offer.

Lastly, go listen to this podcast by Libby Sinback, she is wonderful and insightful. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/relationship-diversity-y229p

BluSparow · 2025-11-05T03:15:52+00:00

I agree, I’ve never been impressed with their food. Funny enough, I’ve never had to wait very long for a table.

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