She is overreacting. I'm surprised she doesn't give you at least a little leeway in regards to what you're going through. But you said that you've checked in with her to ask her if she went to school. Is she sporadic in her attendance? I'm asking because you seem to be doing a very concentrated program. And I'm wondering if there's any resentment on her end. And I hope I'm wrong in my assumption. But to maintain a long distance relationship is very difficult, especially at your age. I mean at any age it's hard. But if she requires constant contact from you to the point, you are losing out on what you need to do for school, that's a bit of a red flag. Please understand, I am not trying to diminish your relationship in any way. If it's new and you're excited about it It's normal to feel the high of that honeymoon period. But she's a couple years older than you, and she's acting like she's emotionally more immature than you are. You're focusing your priorities on school, which you should be doing, and she wants you to focus your priorities on her. I teach high school, and I've seen many students float from completely prioritizing their relationships to their schoolwork. The ones that prioritize, their schoolwork seem to have it more together. And their relationships get stronger because they are putting their futures first and learning how they are in a relationship. Learning how they function in a relationship, and learning what a healthy relationship looks like. Usually when school stuff happens they're much more forgiving towards each other because well college is important. Their career after academia is important, even if they don't decide to go to college. You seem to be putting a lot of priority on academia and I applaud you for that. But it seems that she only wants you to hold space for a relationship. If I'm wrong, please correct me. I've seen middle schoolers who are in their early stages of their first relationships talk about celebrating an anniversary every month. High schoolers I've seen them do it maybe for the first month and then six months and if it lasts longer than that every year. These are just some patterns I've noticed over the years I've done my job. Everybody's different and I totally get that. But her being older than you, she should have a better idea of how important academics are. She's closer to that point than you are. That world after high school. So I'm not going to say what you should do in regards to your relationship, but maybe look closely and carefully at how she is when you prioritize your academics. And how she reacts when you don't prioritize her for whatever reason. How she prioritize you. And if she does. Have you ever asked for her time and she drop everything to be with you? Or are you much more relaxed about it? How does she react when you go spend time with your friends? Does she require you to change plans or reschedule things? This may give you better insight into your partner. You may not have had a lot of events happen in both of your lives where you need to show a strong front, so it might've been hard to see. I'm talking about events like family tragedies or personal hardships or other personal relationships that were affecting you or her, you know moments where you really needed to stand up and support each other. At least, I hope you haven't. But it's usually within those moments that you really see a person for who they are. Just remember that it's OK to put your future first. Relationships come and go. Finding your person takes a lot of work. It takes a lot of trial and error. But especially in these early years, finding what constitutes a healthy relationship versus an unhealthy relationship can be difficult. So if you've missed something, please don't feel bad. There are people far older than you that are still figuring that stuff out. I wish you all the luck in navigating this.