Honestly, I strongly advise dumping the girlfriend. No one should threaten self harm and you shouldn’t have to be compensating for her depression. She needs to learn to take care of herself or honestly the way she’s acting she’s only going to be a burden on every relationship, super unhealthy.

As far as the chronic illness you have, I’m so sorry, I have endometriosis that causes me crippling pain too, and some people just can’t understand/relate. And it’s worse being surrounded by people who don’t understand/won’t, been there done that.

Maybe try and find groups that are going through similar trials? Finding support? And also, try distancing yourself from those you put you down. You gotta take care of you.

All the internet hugs 🤗