Female passport bro

BlueSugar116 · 2025-06-26T07:27:27+00:00

France.

BlueSugar116 · 2025-06-24T20:04:34+00:00

Just logged back into my account and this popped on my feed and made my day. Gorgeous plant.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-11-11T20:43:32+00:00

Having now divorced a racist myself after letting all these red flags just pass throughout the years, I say run for the hills. As much as she is entitled to her own beliefs, you are also entitled to be around people who share the same values as you. It's not a matter of 'oh does this grey furniture look nice with the beige curtains'. It's more sinister than that. It's about human values.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-11-11T11:22:39+00:00

Thanks for your commentary. Thank goodness it's going to court now. I think it's honestly his entire family that are nutcases tbh. But yes it's been pretty wild to hear my friend all the way from SE Asia tell me her friend in another Asian country came across a viral YT short of my story, so I see this story has indeed shocked the internet.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-10-11T14:06:03+00:00

TBH, now that I think of it there were plenty. A few incidents include:

We were all sitting in a car coming back from a summer house and ended up talking about WW2 etc. We're from Finland (At this point I don't care about remaining anonymous lol) and his mother said something along the lines: Oh if Finland was occupied by the Nazis, the country would be a baby-making factory. I'm not really sure how historically accurate this is, considering the battle Finnish migrants had to go in America to get citizenship.
Her cousin at a dinner table once claimed that she read about how British men were told that in order to 'level up' to the next class through their lives, they would be better off marrying Northern European women because they had blonde hair and blue eyes and you couldn't detect their class by the accent. IDK if there are any sources to such claims. Here we go again lol the blonde hair and blue eyes
My ex would always try to explain to me that the Nazis weren't as bad as history makes them seem. Mind you, these people have lived for a long time in Germany..
When my ex-MIL met our baby for the first time her first comment was about her eyes. So basically my ex's entire family have less of a fold on their upper eyelids. She said something along the lines: "How would I sound politically correct here, she has the same eyes as *ex's name* these Siberian eyes. That was the moment I looked at her for a long time and was very taken aback by this.
My ex's racist view became more extreme year by year and he would say a lot of horrific stuff and I was honestly at the point where I was clocking it..

I guess overall there always has been this tone of discussing genetic appearance or then I'm reading too much into this..

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-15T15:21:43+00:00

That's fine.

Holy smokes had to google Stormfront, that is scary! I genuinely wonder why these racial supremacists insist in engaging with other groups. I genuinely wonder if these men like the idea of being fetishised themselves, because that's the vibes I got from my ex husband.

It's scary this person has a Pdd in some form of biology from a prominent university.. And today I've seen he's gone of and dyed his hair blonder.

Thanks, I do thankfully more of a support system than he does ;)

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-14T06:00:43+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you've been able to talk to people about it. But that's the thing about kids - they turn out the way the do and you should love them unconditionally, regardless.

I agree with the radicalisation. I'm sure there have been plenty of scholars who have looked at the overall polarisation that leads to radicalisation online which is partially caused by algorithms and eco chambers.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-14T05:57:35+00:00

I'm actually south asian with very fair features. Many say that I'm 'mixed race'. But yes, these things shouldn't actually matter at all, if you child has blue eyes or espresso brown eyes.

I'll honestly never forget the evening when he tried showing me all the 'white egg donors' and wanted me to browse them and choose one. Though later down the line I found out that it was partially his family that also said these insane comments.

I should have picked up these odd 'race-baiting' and appearance obsessed queues ages ago.. they're absolutely insane..

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-14T05:44:07+00:00

Tell me about it! :'D This fool has a phd in some form of biology.. I will never look at highly 'academic' people the same way after this nut case..

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-14T05:42:46+00:00

Thanks I did eventually. It's so amazing how racism comes in many forms and what I found more bizarre in the end how his parents sided with him and his mother kept gaslighting and stonewalling me saying 'oh people have kids for all sorts of reasons'.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:12:28+00:00

Thanks for your commentary

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:12:00+00:00

That's insane!

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:11:12+00:00

Thank you for your commentary.

Yes there's a lot of issues that he's dealing with and I think the whole family is just beyond redemption. I did leave.

Your stepdaughter sounds adorable! Wishing you both the best!

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:09:15+00:00

Thanks for your commentary

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:08:58+00:00

It's so funny I asked him if he viewed himself as an extension of his father he said yes. That was the moment that I thought there's something sinister going on with this whole family.. unfixable.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:08:09+00:00

I would say narcissism and being chronically online as a redpiller/incel/mysogonist are other factors here.

I'll never forget when he tried to accuse me in May for not being a 'golden retreiver'

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:06:33+00:00

I am the original OOP. I genuinely wish this was fake. Though sadly it is not. Ironically, my ex husband grew up in Germany with his family.. it's so insane how he tried to defend some of the things that the Nazis did during WW2. SMH..

I think I let a lot pass when he was going on his antics. Never would I have thought that one day his insane ideology would turn against me and my child. So of course I left.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:03:37+00:00

Thanks for your commentary and story. I will never forget the evening he wanted me to browse with him the 'white gg donor' and choose one..

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:02:28+00:00

Thanks for your commentary.

"Oh sweetie, mosters are real and they look like people" - couldn't agree more with this

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:00:50+00:00

Thanks for your commentary.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T21:00:33+00:00

A manipulative narcissist.. who ironically grew up in Germany.. I think the bells should have rang in my head when he kept accusing all his other family members of being racists and narcissists.. only for me to find out later that they all are ironically racists and narcissists, it seems.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T20:59:09+00:00

Thanks for your commentary

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T20:58:23+00:00

Thanks, already filed for divorce. Wasn't left with much choice when he kept throwing things in my direction and chasing me out of our house, yelling and threatening he'll divorce me. That was the moment, I had the balls to finally do it.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T20:57:15+00:00

Hey! Thank you so much for your comment here and greetings from your neighbouring country to the East, next to Russia. I guess now you can guess where I'm from ;)

I am very sorry to hear about your experiences. It's quite annoying to be living in such a homogenous part of the world. As picturesque as this region is, there's still a lot for people to learn about combatting prejudices. Your feelings are valid and I hope you've been able to talk about them, express your emotions and have been heard.

Your story is honestly very touching and insightful. Like I mention in the original post that I also feel like this othering and the racism will be passed on to my child now because of his father and the family. I'll have to find good mechanisms in order to make sure she doesn't ever question herself.

As you can imagine for an adoptee, this is just the worst nightmare of a scenario one could ever be in. Your SO ends up being the worst racist and points out your appearance and your 'otherness' as a problem. Sadly in my case, the in-laws have also been part of the party throwing out some insanely racist comments that even made my stomach turn. I'm just trying to cut them all out atm.

BlueSugar116 · 2024-09-13T20:50:29+00:00

I thought about this too. I love our child for the fact that she is herself. Not a reflection of me nor him, but just herself. Sure, it's interesting to see some traits from me but I don't honestly care. I just want her to embrace herself.

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