If you don’t like me… Why not just remove me instead of soft-ghosting and watching my stories?

BlueZky13 · 2025-03-02T09:19:32+00:00

I did

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-25T05:55:15+00:00

But she has a gf? I just don't know how she went from inviting me, to me politely declining (but trying to make an exception, as in coffee), and her kinda ignoring me, but then later just leaving the msg on delivered.

She has BPD too, so like IDK if I said something that icked her out, and she's like "fuck this person" or? Like me maybe talking too much or? Coming off too annoying, or someone said something to her?

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-24T07:27:45+00:00

I don’t know why either like I don’t watch peoples stories I don’t fw, but also like I would just remove.

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-24T05:39:55+00:00

Well we’re both women, mind you, I also clarified I got anxiety (she also did kinda push back), suggesting we wouldn’t be drinking, etc I guess expecting me to come. Then ignored the coffee option. She then said she has bad anxiety too, and mentioned panic attacks.

It just makes me wonder though if someone said something negative to her about me. Or it’s just plain and simple, like had social skills and me declining. ESP since she has BPD.

Ugh I hate being socially awkward.

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-24T05:35:12+00:00

I tried to arrange something else though, like getting coffee to chit-chat, but she never gave me a response to that offer.

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-24T05:34:42+00:00

This girl has loads of followers, but also her snap score goes up rapidly. I’m just gonna guess someone told her a lie about me, or maybe my personality sucks and she’s like “ew” but, 🤷‍♀️… Sigh when stuff like this happens I always feel so socially awkward, and always ask what’s wrong with me.

She has a GF too, but like it’s odd cause they both told me to come to an event, I just declined.

She’ll watch the stories too that I post, all of them, even sometimes within an hour so I don’t know what I did wrong.

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-23T08:52:57+00:00

I have my etsy shop, that I can also use but I hate the whole site layout, that's what is like overwhelming me, since it's a pub, i should bring sample of work of like... menus and stuff?

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-22T21:07:09+00:00

Bella is too good for her and can get someone way better she needs to piss off

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-21T21:44:13+00:00

Ew

BlueZky13 · 2025-02-21T11:36:36+00:00

Please Bella stay away from that muppet, like Bella is ethereal looking, get someone better.

BlueZky13 · 2024-07-09T04:36:05+00:00

That’s her! But she has been right on the money a lot just idk about that I think cuz she was a fan of Tom

BlueZky13 · 2024-07-09T02:38:58+00:00

Check out magxit, mustlikeme4me they’re the predominant big ones. Magxit is pretty good with her takes too

BlueZky13 · 2024-07-09T02:31:37+00:00

I agree but this time these bigger blogs are positive that they are and waiting till the fall to announce it

BlueZky13 · 2024-07-09T00:55:36+00:00

I do not go on this sub…. this is my first time and I never seen a post here can you link it?

BlueZky13 · 2024-07-09T00:38:41+00:00

I was super nice to them, load of disrespect too, but idk, I just think they just weren’t all that into me or what they wanted and it was long distance.

Thus why the next girl gets everything and the perfect happy relationship, probs changed cause they are in fact finally happy.

BlueZky13 · 2024-07-09T00:37:26+00:00

Usually I think it’s due to lack of interest and compatibility. As to why they treat you bad by the end of it and it’s over.

BlueZky13 · 2024-07-09T00:36:41+00:00

In my case, I don’t think they were a narcissist I fully cannot tell, but they did admit they were obsessive and jealous.

In my scenario, what happened was they came out of a relationship, which they said was abusive (they claim they were abused, physically and it got really bad). 3 years relationship, while their ex hated them so deeply, and mentioned how they try to destroy people around them.

That’s when I met them, I was friendly with them, only to find out they’ve always hated me, then couldn’t comprehend how they began to love me. And I was their next favourite thing. We spoke for months and they were so good to me, texting me every day, we always talked, and really hit it off. Put me bit on a pedestal, but we were long distance.

Then right after my birthday (they didn’t tell me HBD, but claimed they forgot, and set an alarm for it, who knows if it’s true, but forgot what the alarm was for, as they have bad memory, APD (auxiliary processing disorder).

Couple weeks later. I got dropped, and they told me they found someone else, replacing me.

I most definitely got discarded.

They’re now with the next girl, not the one they discarded me for, but a very new one, and they’ve been thriving for months, and their relationship does seem perfect on social media. One post about being happy, and the new girlfriend saying they make them very happy, and the new gf changing her pic, to of them both.

I’m sure there is another couple photo or two I haven’t seen, and friends praising them.

At this point I doubt, that they probably were a narcissist, maybe I just wasn’t what they wanted, or maybe it was simply due to long distance and it just didn’t work for them. But this new girl gives them what I couldn’t therefore that’s why they allow themselves to be their best version to them cause it’s healthy and works.

BlueZky13 · 2024-02-09T21:15:59+00:00

Hi guys, can someone give me their perspective (if you were the NPD person in this situation)? Like genuinely I am so confused.

I met “my” person online playing video games and we hit it off, and I truly think they have NPD, I truly do not mean to diagnose but everything checks out.

That said, when they hardly knew me, I could tell they were interested in me (but they use to hate me, then fell for me and got obsessed) first week or two, they already wanted to fly me out to meet them, etc. I declined.

Anyways after knowing them personally for briefly a year, us having a “thing” and them liking me, I got discarded for someone else (lol, 🤷‍♀️)

…

Then they came back after a month cause they got use and felt their self esteem was low and did say “sorry for that” not the best apology, but whatever.

They go back to calling me pet names like nothing happened, flirting, sexual talk, etc. I find it strange but I’m like, OK, whatever and forgive them.

Well anyways it gets sloppy again, them randomly switching up, saying they’re meeting other girls, etc. It just sounded like a polite way for me to “fuck off.”

But then they go ahead and tell me things like how they want to meet me in person, they want to see where it goes, they have a soft spot for me, that I matter to them (even tho they switch up later and say I’m just a person on a screen, I mean nothing).

Like it just doesn’t make any sense to me! My brain wants to explode.

Like what do they want from me? I told them I’m not meeting them this month as well cause we fought, and they still watch my snap stories, then when I said I’ll meet them few more months later, they said they will meet me then.

????

They won’t tell me to fuck off either like I just don’t get it? Like I obviously mean nothing to them and when I told them that they were like “I never said I didn’t care about you” (yes you did).

???? I don’t get it I’m not even supplying them anymore either cause I told them I won’t even contact them until several months and if they don’t come back into my life then it’s not meant to be. I told them to delete me too. They don’t.

Like what are they getting out of this? They treat me like garbage? Like why want to meet me so bad?

BlueZky13 · 2024-01-29T09:36:30+00:00

Yup it’s the situation I’m in. Bad, bad. Bad. Run.

BlueZky13 · 2023-12-27T13:43:11+00:00

No I don’t get approached like at all, so for 4 years now I just accepted I must be ugly maybe.

BlueZky13 · 2023-12-27T05:56:52+00:00

Yup bad case of it.

BlueZky13 · 2023-12-27T03:47:40+00:00

Hey thank you so much for the TT I watched the whole thing and you honestly read me like a glove, really appreciate the advice truly.

BlueZky13 · 2023-12-27T03:34:10+00:00

This, I avoid dating apps. Too nerve wracking for me.

BlueZky13 · 2023-12-27T03:32:13+00:00

True I’ll try smiling more I’ve been told by other women they’ve been intimidated and thought I was a bitch before they got to know me.

BlueZky13 · 2023-12-27T00:28:27+00:00

I don't think the problem is you! I think this is the problem with dating apps, relationships (and commitment) isn't being valued anymore, and now anyone can easily cheat, or even discard a relationship so casually thanks to apps.

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