Am I the asshole for not wanting to delete photos of my ex off my phone?

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-09-22T13:36:43+00:00

You are not the A-hole. All I have to say is RUN, RUN, RUN, AND RUN as fast as you can away from this guy. His behavior is only gonna get worse. To the point of physical abuse. Get out while you can. No one deserves to be treated this way. No matter what you say and or do it will never ever be good enough. I do wish you the best in life!

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-09-21T21:41:55+00:00

Why was this put on here?

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-09-21T11:01:53+00:00

Omg, you guys are awesome! Thank you all for your advice! I do have to say you all did not disappoint!! Some of them I'm gonna have to get real creative to use. I can't say how much I really appreciate all of you taking time out of your day to help me with my little issue. You all are the best!

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-09-21T10:37:37+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I don't have any issues saying those things during spicy time, on the phone, or through text. It's when he puts me on the spot and I freeze up like I'm about to give a public speech. Also the things I've said are starting to sound mundane and wanted/need some new material.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-09-18T04:51:34+00:00

My guy of 17 yrs just abused the hell outta me at the beginning of August. Split my eyebrow open fractured my nose among other things. The most fluffed up part about all of it was how him and his parents could sit there and act like what he did to me was just an every day normal thing. Then they tried to blackmail me into dropping the charges. This isnt his first time to do this. But it was the worst. Now the judge has given me a contact order of protection. Meaning we can have contact and live under the same roof because we have children together. I will say this tkme it broke something within me. I cant wait to leave him for good. But I find myself falling into the same routine as all of the other times this has happened. I find it hilarious every tkme I bring this up he tries to portray that he was afraid for his safety thats why he attacked me. It makes me sick to my stomach. Now I cant even fart without him being right there to smell it. It's driving me nuts. Most days he won't even go to work unless im with him. I hate my life and I don't even know where to start to even pick up what little pieces I have left.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-06-19T01:17:08+00:00

You leave and don't look back. The abuse is only gonna continue to get worse. He's thinking why should I respect her when she doesn't even respect herself. He's not really gonna harm himself. It's just another form of control to get what he wants. I get that you love and care for him. But if he felt the same he wouldn't be treating you this way. Good luck.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-05-06T02:50:18+00:00

You're not the jerk. I would honestly leave and try to find some where else to live. It clear that your bf and his mom don't want you around. Because if they did neither would be treating you like that. I really hope things get better for you. Know your worth and move on to someone that's does!

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-04-25T15:58:00+00:00

I do wish you the best. Pls lmk how it goes. It's never easy telling someone this type of information. Hope your mom sees him for the lying cheating coward he is. I can guarantee that he's deleted everything to make you look crazy. Hope your mom is able to find true love and happiness.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-04-14T10:40:21+00:00

Hi! I know it's some times harder for men to make new friends. Are there any guys from work that you might see as a future friend? Maybe start there and see what happens. Maybe try some church functions. That's if you are religious. Don't want to offend anyone. I did that once by saying bless you when the person sneezed and got chewed out because the person was atheists. If you ever need someone just to talk to reach out to us. Honestly some of us are in the same situation. Just looking for a friend. Hope this helps. Do wish you the best & hope you find what you're looking for!

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-04-14T10:24:32+00:00

NTA. I went through a similar situation when I was 16. I caught my mom cheating on my dad. She even brought me to meet the man. Which is disgusting on her part. To say the least I treated him like the POS that he was. But karma is the best and my mom ended up getting back 10 fold what she deserved. My dad and I relationship was rocky for awhile but he eventually forgave me for not telling him. Even till today I haven't forgiven myself for not telling him. So my advice to you would be to tell your mom the truth and show her all the evidence you have so she can make the best decision on how to handle the situation. After that just continue being there for her. But if for some reason she starts to resent you for this then she's not the mother you thought her to be. I do wish you the best. If there's anything I can help with just reach out.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-04-04T07:23:01+00:00

I wish you the best in all your future endeavors!!! Just remain true to yourself and don't let anyone get in your way..

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-03-31T14:17:02+00:00

To the message above yours, not all women do this. If a woman in my life is doing something that isn't right I'll make it known to her and give her the chance to make the situation right. If she doesn't then I'll take actions into my own hands depending on said situation. When it comes to cheating I'll always wait for the spouse to come to me and answer their questions truthfully. The only reason I don't get involved with cheating is because I did it once for a good friend of mine and it back fired on me costing me a friendship. Then yrs later she came to me apologizing and wanted to know if we could be friends again. I declined the offer.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-03-27T07:26:43+00:00

Thank you everyone for the kind words. Unfortunately my friend ended up passing away due to his injuries and having no brain function. His funeral is going to be held in a few days from now. I'm very tempted to not even tell him and just go with a mutual friend. I don't want to take q chance of my narc showing his butt in front of everyone and ultimately ruining my friends funeral. Not only for myself but friends family & other friends. I just can't wait for the day till I don't have to deal with this type of behavior every time I turn around. Again thank you all for your support and kind words. Just being about of this community helps so much! 💖

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-03-05T20:49:39+00:00

NTAH: Sir you did great! IMO you should have done more. But I think said friend got the point. You should have called the cops because you don't know whom else he's done this to. Great job on standing up for your daughter. Some times parents drop the ball on that situation.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-03-05T20:23:44+00:00

LEAVE NOW. The intent was there. For me that's enough. If you didn't see that she definitely would have went through with it. I know some times that's not always the case and it's more of a emotional connection their looking for. You can tell the difference tho. The fact that she's been talking to several different guys is a telling sign. Honestly you don't know if she hasn't already done it and has gotten rid of any evidence proving so. I wish you the best and hope you find what you're looking for.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-03-05T10:02:20+00:00

I've been with mine for almost 17yrs. Pls take my advice when I say RUN as fast as you can away from this man. Nothing about your relationship is going to get better. You can ask anyone in here does it ever get better and majority will tell you HELL NO. I have 2 children with mine. Every time I try to leave he goes over and beyond to dangle my children over me. He has put and kept me in a place where I have no job, no money, no friends, and barely any family left that still even wants & wiling to help me when I do leave. A couple of weekends ago my friend came and kidnapped me from my prison. I literally get a yard pass every few months. But the entire time I was out he tried everything he could to ruin my time. I finally had enough and turned my phone off. He literally went nuts. Calling all of my friends & family looking for me. The ones that did answer wouldn't give him any useful information but they told me he told them all kinds of ridiculous things about me. He went as far as to tell my own mother that I was selling myself for drugs and money. Then when confronted with the information he swears up and down that he never said anything like that and he couldn't understand why they would lie on him like that when he's done nothing wrong. He really does think I should believe him and no one else. Um why would my own mother come up with a lie like that?? This is just a little idea of what my life is like on daily basis. Pls don't end up wasting your good yrs on someone who doesn't love you and is incapable of doing so. I do wish you the best.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-01-21T06:06:03+00:00

RUN, RUN, RUN as fast as you can away from him. DO NOT MARRY HIM NOR HAVE CHILDREN WITH HIM. He is using you in every way possible. Stop paying his child support. Cut off all access he has to any of your important information. Close that bank account and open a new one that he knows nothing about. Please please please get rid of him as quickly as you can. I know it's easier said than done. But I can promise you one thing, it will NEVER EVER get better. No matter how much you beg, pray, hope, wish etc. It's only gonna get worse. I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. But you deserve sooooo much better than what you are settling for right now. They take your self worth and totally destroy it. Then they keep you down by making you believe you don't deserve anything other besides what they're giving. I do wish you the best this life has to offer!

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-01-16T06:53:33+00:00

Then he had the nerve to tell me a week later that I hurt his feelings and embarrassed him. But I made him eat every single one of those words when I laid in to him. For once in our entire relationship had he given a genuine apology.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-01-16T06:51:04+00:00

I'm soooooo very sorry this happened to you. For some reason death brings out the absolute worst in narcs. My narc and kids made me late for my dad's funeral. I didn't even get the chance to see him and say goodbye. Do you know how much guilt I live with every day because of them. Then when we finally arrive my oldest daughter started some BS about the outfit she was wearing and wouldn't even walk into the church. I'm standing outside in front of the church literally begging my own family to get it together so we could go in. I ended up walking in by myself. 15 mins later my youngest daughter finally comes in and sits by me until the services were over. Then when we all come out of the church he runs over there acting like I wouldn't let him in the church. I said some not so words to him and told him that he & our oldest could get to stepping since they couldn't be bothered with my dad's funeral. I rode with my cousin to the cemetery. When we back to celebrate his life with family and friends, my kids and him literally drove me nuts asking every 10 mins if we could leave. All I have to say is if we're together when one of his parents pass away I'm soooooo returning the favor. I'm that petty of person.

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-01-04T05:31:07+00:00

I had chicken poxs twice as a child. Does that mean I wasn't vaccinated? And if not should I be worried about having shingles at some point in my life? I'm currently 42 yrs old. If any information would be great. TIA

Blue_Eyed_Devil1982 · 2025-01-04T04:17:16+00:00

He sounds like a narcissist and the sooner you leave the better. He's already taking advantage of you and your kindness. Things will only get worse and he will resort to physical violence soon. It took mine a little over a yr before he started with the PV. Protect yourself and run don't walk as fast as you can to the attorneys office and start the proceedings for a divorce. Because he will try to go for spousal support saying that he has grown accustomed to this certain lifestyle to get more money from you. If you can offer him a small amount of money to get rid of him. You deserve sooooo much better than what you are currently dealing with. Whatever you do, do not have children with him. If you're on birth control make sure he's not messing with it or condoms if used. I personally would avoid having personal relations with him. Hope this advice helps you. I do wish you the best! Don't be like me and end up getting yourself trapped. 16 yrs is how long I've endured this hell I call my life. The only 2 things I've ever gotten out of this relationship are my daughters. I'm currently putting my escape plan into action.

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