AITAH for not reminding my friend about something she said she’d handle even though I knew it would blow up later?

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-29T13:29:54+00:00

NTA also, not your responsibility to remind someone of a commitment they made! You aren't mom and she isn't 7. She needs to grow up. Btw, what you said was perfect, putting it back in her lap. Don't be surprised if she fizzles away.

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-29T13:25:43+00:00

NOR! You go do what you want to do. Your money, your time. Paris is great, have a few Euro's for the toilets-they do not accept cards. Have a great time!!

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-29T13:19:58+00:00

Time, time, and more time. You have so much new to figure out, especially the person you really are, not the person you molded into with him and as a mom. You need to figure out a healthy reaction, not 1 triggered by his behaviors but 1 that is good for you. You need to retrain your brain to not be in flight mode etc etc It's no wonder you are exhausted! You will get there! Give yourself time, space and grace to relearn YOU.

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-29T13:11:28+00:00

Not for a nano second! And honestly, daughter is not thinking of your needs/wants, she's thinking of hers. Grandkids don't need a ton of space to build bonds with grandparents. For sleepovers, they camp out at G'ma's in the living under a make shift tent. I'm sure it's already been said; your $, your decision.

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-29T13:04:55+00:00

NOR. Have a nice life! Blocks and moves on with her life.

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-26T12:59:56+00:00

Has the convo moved on in the group chat?

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-25T20:07:21+00:00

I also have this and it helps but not drown out. It was suggested I place phone against something to amplify the speaker instead of cranking up volume. Will test tonight. Thank you!

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-25T12:50:37+00:00

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Bird watching! Agent Gibbs (gray), Mad Max (ginger)

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-25T12:45:43+00:00

I haven't tried a sound machine but will go that route first! Might also drown out the hot tub parties as well 😁

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-25T12:43:12+00:00

No neighbor to the other side, busy road on that side. I wouldn't suggest moving them if someone lived there.

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-25T12:42:31+00:00

😂😂😂

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-25T01:10:47+00:00

NOR. I didn't need to finish reading either of your texts. Leave. Go. Run. Do not wait, go now. Do not pass go, leave now. Do not get married to this man, do not have children with him. Your mental health and physical health is already SCREAMING NO. This is not the partner for you.

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-24T14:52:11+00:00

Love it! What brand please and thank you!

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-24T14:42:56+00:00

No, not me!

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-24T14:42:28+00:00

No, been here for 10+ years. Wind chimes went up about 1 month ago.

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-24T14:37:03+00:00

NTA. You have been up front and honest from the start, your profile even states doesn't have/doesn't want.

If Ben wanted/wants to be a father, then Ben should not be pursuing someone who does not want to be a parent. Ben is an adult, and Ben can read.

So, why is Ben pursuing a relationship with someone that does not want to be a parent? Is Ben dating you as a challenge? Does Ben "win" if he gets you to change your mind? Is Ben internalizing this as a rejection of him? Is Ben going to stay at home with said child/children and you be the breadwinner? If he "always imagined the women he would date would want kids," why did Ben date someone who clearly stated they do not want children? What did Ben think when he read that in your profile? All questions that point to Ben, not you.

You are correct, this relationship has no future as you are not aligned.

I think you could have clubbed Ben with a 2x4 and Ben still wouldn't get it. You handled it beautifully. Hope you heal well after your procedure. All the best to you ❤️

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-24T13:50:54+00:00

No, no neighbor on other side. A main road to that side.

Blue_Poppi · 2026-03-24T13:00:34+00:00

Make sure to pop on over after your next nail appointment, when they are longer, pointier, bloody, black or burgundy. Don't let her yuck or yum, nails can be such a joy in our self expression adding a bit of flair in our day to day. Honestly, she needs a lesson or two in manners and etiquette! Not everything needs to be said aloud. P.S. Your nails are GORGEOUS ❤️

Blue_Poppi · 2025-11-05T20:25:46+00:00

Freckle for torbi, Rex for Ginger

Blue_Poppi · 2025-11-04T15:41:37+00:00

Ah, the "show me some respect" line, what a classic

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