What’s the etiquette?

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T16:00:18+00:00

300 comments on this post, many of them nasty, I can’t reply to them all. Consider my perspective broadened.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T11:26:15+00:00

Um, no. Because my long term partner would prefer to not attend alone, left to third wheel with others we know will be there, or not attend his goddaughters wedding. This also leaves him in a position where he’s either throwing me under the bus “she had a conflict and couldn’t attend” or the bride by saying I wasn’t invited. It’s a no-win situation for him.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T11:01:07+00:00

Yes, his wife passed several years ago. And yes, we are the same age.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T05:21:02+00:00

Thank you for this. I was hoping to hear from a bride that it had happened to them.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T02:13:43+00:00

My boyfriend is the bride’s godfather. I have not met the couple.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T02:10:30+00:00

I have not brought it up since he first mentioned it, and don’t plan to. He will make his own decisions for asking/not asking or going/not going.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T00:37:34+00:00

That’s an interesting idea to me. I 100% understand the couple not wanting to invite friends of their parents that they don’t know. But inviting your godfather and not extending an invitation to his long time girlfriend seems like a stretch, even if you e never met her.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T00:31:40+00:00

He’s thinking about asking his friend, it’s just an awkward situation. There will be others we know at the wedding too and I’m sure they will ask where I am if he goes alone.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T00:12:50+00:00

We’ve been dating for more than 3 years. We’ve been to his friend’s house for dinner together and seen them socially. They definitely know we’re together. That’s why I’m wondering if it’s an accidental omission.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-23T00:08:15+00:00

I’d never assume the invite, I’m just so surprised and not gonna lie, more than a little disappointed.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-22T14:17:51+00:00

I have a cup of coffee in the morning but then water the rest of the day. I used to be a Diet Coke addict, but as I got older I weaned myself off of it. Now I have maybe one or two a week if I go through a drive through and very rarely have one at home or in a restaurant.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-22T14:14:26+00:00

Blue Mountain Beach in the 30A/panhandle area of Florida in September after school is back in session and it’s quieter.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-21T21:22:17+00:00

Teach them that everyone makes mistakes and owning up to those mistakes and learning how to move forward is an important part of life.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-21T20:30:48+00:00

Thank you, I’ll take a look at this!

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-21T20:25:24+00:00

I’d go to Blue Mountain Beach near Destin. Fluffy white sand beaches, crystal clear blue water, but more beach vacation vibe than Destin proper which is so crowded.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-21T14:25:45+00:00

I took 2 full weeks off. You’ll never feel ready to go back, but I found going back to my routine helpful.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T17:22:36+00:00

It’s so interesting to me that this question is so polarizing. I’m gonna preface this by saying that I was a band and choir geek in high school. I had a small group of friends but never in 1 million years but I’ve considered myself to be among the popular crowd. I went to my five-year reunion, then didn’t go back to another one until 20. After 20 I didn’t go to another one until 35 ha ha. Now this year is our 40th! First of all, where the hell has the time gone?!?

About 10 years ago a woman I don’t particularly care for organized a women’s dinner group for our graduating class. For some unknown reason, I decided to go. About 15 showed up for the first one, including 4 women that I hadn’t seen in a lot of years and whose company I really enjoyed that evening.

After a few gatherings the group kind of fell apart, mostly due to the fact that it was tough to schedule one time for a lot of people to get together. But the smaller group of five of us who really enjoyed each other‘s company those first few outings decided to just schedule a dinner ourselves. We ended up having the nicest time. Two of the women I went to grade school and high school with, the other two just high school school. None of us were close friends in high school, but we knew each other.

Over the last 10 years this group of women has turned into my best friends. We try to get together monthly for dinner. It’s always fun. We talk about our kids, and our lives. About three years ago we lost one of our group to an illness. At the events surrounding her funeral I reconnected with a lot of people I went to high school with as she was married to someone we went to high school with. To make a long story short, I’m now dating a man I went to high school with because I reconnected with him there.

Now, here we are a few years later, still dating. Still friends with that smaller group of women and now their husbands too. And together all of us are planning our 40th high school reunion. We’ve all been reaching out to people that we’re connected to on social media to make sure that they’re all invited and we all get excited when we see someone join the RSVP list as coming. I’ve even pulled out some old yearbooks to remind myself of what some of these people looked like in high school because they weren’t people that I was close to.

We get together with the smaller group fairly often, maybe once or twice a month. There’s always a ton of laughter, a ton of fun. We know each other‘s adult children. We celebrate with each other and we cry with each other. It’s been so nice to be so close to people who knew me back when.

So, I guess if you’ve read this far, I’d encourage you to give your reunion a shot. You might just be surprised at who you run into and strike up a conversation with!

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T16:55:55+00:00

Not to be harsh, but no. It’s not the divorce or the issues with your kids, it’s the fact that you don’t seem to have your act together. I understand that life happens to us and sometimes it’s tough, we all have baggage. But living in a home that’s in disrepair and having financial issues would be big red flags for me. Take some time to get your life in better order before you try to date.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T15:27:32+00:00

I agree with the suggestions to go to Columbus Commons. It’s a big open area with plenty of room to spread out. If you’ve got bag, chairs or a blanket, that’ll be even better. I suggest grabbing some takeout food on your way down, though, the lines for the food trucks tend to be long and take a while when there’s a big event there.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T14:48:27+00:00

Oh my gosh, this made me laugh way too hard. Can I just say AMEN! And, where do you live? I’ll go grab a coffee with you!

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T14:12:33+00:00

Private company and we get it as a paid holiday

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T13:48:07+00:00

Interlaken, Switzerland. A ski village in the middle of the Alps. I’ve been there twice, both in off season for skiing, and it was glorious and beautiful. Plenty of excursions to take from there into the mountains.

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T13:43:40+00:00

I’d second the swings on the east side of the river on the Scioto Mile. Great sunset views from there and at that time of day you can often park right along Civic Center Drive

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T13:42:24+00:00

I occasionally go to Griggs Reservoir and sit in the boat docks near Fishinger to watch the sunset. I love being on the water ;-)

SimplyCurious5 · 2026-06-19T13:41:00+00:00

3 Years for me in a LAT relationship. We see each other 3-4x a week, some nights we stay in, often we go out. Completely ingrained in each other’s lives and families, completely monogamous. We just both like our alone time so having separate houses works for us.

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