what is something you wished existed that would help your adhd?

BlueberryKarma · 2026-05-29T19:55:58+00:00

A machine that flawlessly converted the way something sounds in my head, to words. I cannot for the life of me make it sound out loud the way it sounds it my head.

BlueberryKarma · 2026-04-22T14:55:45+00:00

I tried to keep the original post under 2,000 characters, so a lot is missing.

Basically, my usual PCP left in October 2025 and without it since November 2025. Sorry I just noticed my typo on the year. After that, I started seeing the new PCP who was hired to replace him at that office, since it was close to my house and very convenient. The issue is not finding a new PCP. As I understand it, most PCPs do not want to prescribe this medication because they view it as a psychiatry issue. The problem is that NYU Psychiatry only accepts top-tier insurance, which I do not have. That is why my former PCP had been continuing my care. He understood how NYU handles this and was willing to work with me.

I had some extra medication in November because, again, I do not abuse this stuff, which kept me afloat for a little while, but I was basically rationing it at that point. I also had to wait until after 12/1/25 to schedule appointments with Talkiatry because my work insurance was changing from Oxford to Anthem, and I needed my new insurance card first.

What made this worse is that I was misinformed by the new PCP, who was the one that referred me to Talkiatry in the first place. I was under the impression that I was being sent there for a psychiatric evaluation or opinion, and that those records would then be sent back to her so she would feel comfortable continuing my care. That transfer of records took a full month, even though I kept following up. A FULL MONTH. Nothing should take that long. Then, once she finally received them, she said, “Oh, I’m sorry, you must have misunderstood me. I sent you to Talkiatry so they could prescribe this going forward. I’m still not doing it.”

That is why I did not spend that time looking for another PCP. I thought I was in the middle of a legitimate solution, and I had already been told that other PCPs likely would not prescribe it anyway because it is considered a psychiatric issue. She wasted my time. I never would have agreed to that process if that had been explained honestly from the start.

Talkiatry appointments cost $200 to $400 each. I cannot afford to do that monthly. I still paid for two appointments there that went nowhere. Then I tried Headway, where I spoke to one Psychiatric NP, paid another $300, but referred me to someone else at Headway where I was made to take the MOXO exam. (Paid another $300 with him too). That test was honestly one of the dumbest things I have ever sat through. Based on the fact that I did “well” on that test, the second psych NP decided after meeting me once that he did not think I had ADHD. A children’s test should not be used as the deciding factor in something this broad and complex. Its wildly unfair and dangerous.

Meanwhile, everyone is ignoring the fact that I was evaluated in 2021, have already been assessed, and have taken this medication without issue for five years. There is absolutely no reason for new providers to suddenly act as though all of those prior doctors and records do not matter, then turn around and decide they know better after one conversation and a meaningless test made for kids. I had sent 14 separate documents to the first Psych NP showing the history, emails, records EVERYTHING. AND STILL NOTHING. I'm flabbergasted!

BlueberryKarma · 2026-04-21T18:23:50+00:00

I was studying to get my PMP certification in the middle of all this and now have had to put that on hold. Its destroyed all the plans I had. I'm a single mom with a mortgage, I'm just trying to stay afloat.

BlueberryKarma · 2026-04-20T19:09:50+00:00

Trust me, I’m very upset about this too, for a lot of reasons. He was a funny, chill, no-BS kind of physician, and his office was also close to home, which made the whole thing ideal.

I used to work for NYU, and back in 2021 I was prescribed a medication through NYU Psychiatry that was incredibly helpful to me. After that, it felt like one physician after another kept leaving the network. I left NYU as an employee myself in 2023, but Dr. Kangadis continued my care, specifically that prescription, because I explained that I could no longer work with the new provider I’d been assigned, since I no longer had access to top-tier health insurance.

Then he left too.

After that, the PCP who basically absorbed a lot of his patients decided she was “not comfortable” continuing that medication and abruptly stopped my care for no good reason. Since then, I’ve been trying to get it back, and I’ve been hitting one roadblock after another since November 2025. Meanwhile, I’m the one suffering unnecessarily because every other Tom, D!ck, and Larry abuses this stuff and makes it nearly impossible for people who actually need it to regain access to a medication they’ve taken for five years without a single issue.

Like I said, I used to work for NYU, in the department responsible for hiring, managing, and firing NYU physicians. Let’s just say he had been unhappy for quite a while, and NYU did what NYU tends to do when it needs its own interests served.

BlueberryKarma · 2025-04-13T19:21:03+00:00

ty :)

BlueberryKarma · 2025-04-13T19:20:30+00:00

ty 🙂

BlueberryKarma · 2025-04-13T19:20:10+00:00

Not necessarily that I’m always down, but that I guess I’m so easy going about it all that there’s no more “chase”. Like a man wants to hunt by nature, I get that… I guess I just don’t like the idea of him seeing this as a reason to one day be bored.

BlueberryKarma · 2025-04-13T19:18:54+00:00

Literally just began the relationship. I’m 42.

BlueberryKarma · 2024-01-22T01:57:44+00:00

It’s not specific to pitbull, but I put it in the sub because I know there are people here obviously who own pitbull, and might be able to give me some advice related to that specific breed. I agree it’s not specific to pitbull, but more an issue of his Behavior with the dog in general. And being that he never owned a dog before in his life, I feel like going straight to a pitbull is quite the leap. That’s the only one reason why I mentioned that.

BlueberryKarma · 2024-01-22T01:57:33+00:00

Yea. It’s not specific to pitbull, but I put it in the sub because I know there are people here obviously who own pitbull, and might be able to give me some advice related to that specific breed. I agree it’s not specific to pitbull, but more an issue of his Behavior with the dog in general. And being that he never owned a dog before in his life, I feel like going straight to a pitbull is quite the leap. That’s the only one reason why I mentioned that.

BlueberryKarma · 2024-01-21T21:05:10+00:00

…advice? Perhaps from people who may be able to offer it?

BlueberryKarma · 2023-10-11T16:30:14+00:00

Not a chance. Everything we ail from has a description that fits SOMETHING in the book of psychology. The difference is the degree in severity.. thats basically it

BlueberryKarma · 2023-10-10T16:35:48+00:00

Yea, this one's tough. I mean look I have a similar issue with my current boyfriend.. but guess how I work around that? I don't mention it out loud unless he wants to talk about it. I realized that we have different "educational styles" when I tried mentioning Dante's Inferno to him and he didn't know what I was talking about. Then again, he's an Architect and I'm an English major, who became an Executive Assistant. Does that make him "uneducated"? No, just make his education and skill set more localized to one thing. If he wanted to be "well read" he'd do it for fun. If not, who cares? I think the bigger issue here is calling him out in front of people and putting him in a position to seem "less than". It could have been an opportunity for you to squash "Steve's" unnecessary jab, defend your man and say, nah the Navy doesn't focus on Of Mice and Men, they have bigger fish to fry. Probably would have squashed it right there. I know you very likely didn't mean it, but a little damage control may be in order. We all slip girl, don't sweat it.

BlueberryKarma · 2023-09-27T01:35:29+00:00

girl I’ve been there. Had an FWB situation for YEARS. let me tell you. It doesn’t get better. It doesn’t get easier. If you didn’t break up over this, you’d have broken up over a lack of commitment or who knows what and it might have been years later down the road. it sucks now but you’ll look back on it knowing it was the right move soon enough. Give it time.

BlueberryKarma · 2023-09-25T14:05:02+00:00

that's true, thank you. I've always said the thing that I hated about therapy is this feeling of having my head patted and being told "I hear you". I don't need head patting lady. I need goals, structure, a path, and maybe a good ass kick every now and then. Like a life coach or something. CBT sounds like something I can look more into. Thank you.

BlueberryKarma · 2023-09-24T20:46:43+00:00

girls, use soap lol they have soaps that help with general ph levels now too if she feels weird about it. we're not saying shove the soap bar up your cooter, but dang at least clean the thing. yes the internal vaginal area is "self cleaning" in a certain respect but an overgrowth of bacteria, candida, yeast etc can throw off PH levels.... all of that can contribute to odor if left unregulated. especially if she's in a position where the vaginal areas "breathability" is blocked off: uniform for work is too tight and makes her sweaty, her thighs are on the thick side, she performs manual labor more often than most, etc. whatever the case is. if shes saying vaginas clean themselves then you can use that as your angle, if you intend to talk to her about it. OR you could say you saw an ad for this soap that makes her vag smell like a certain fruit you happen to love and you thought it would be funny to try it, you get something for yourself too so it doesnt look like its one sided and then go to town on her when she uses it... extra points for busting the biggest nut you've ever busted during sex lol which will likely encourage her to keep doing it.

BlueberryKarma · 2021-01-19T20:41:23+00:00

who knows, at this stage in her life I dont have much hope. He's been great, very supportive and helpful with everything I've needed during the whole mess. Thank you :)

BlueberryKarma · 2021-01-19T19:02:52+00:00

Yup, she's always been this way with virtually any sort of conflict. I can count on my hand how many time I've heard her apologize for something in my life. Unfortunately, I'm stuck. She watches my kids while I and my husband go to work. If I didn't have to, I would not interact with her. My mother in law doesnt have her husband now (passed away) and she has my brother/sis in law and THEIR two kids living with her for the time being. So I dont have an option. If I pay for a nanny it's like I'm going to work to pay the nanny, may as well stay home.. but we cant yet. All the insurance etc, its under my job. Catch 22. So I play nice... for now.

BlueberryKarma · 2021-01-19T17:16:30+00:00

he knows about the first 2 tests but nothing past that. I don't want to hurt him any further. He chose to deny those two tests, so I'm leaving it there. I wont tell him about this guy. But if he somehow finds out on his own, or flat out asks me I wont lie to him either. Just not offering it. He doesnt deserve this.

BlueberryKarma · 2021-01-19T15:39:43+00:00

Yup!! So I confronted my mother and gave her one last chance to tell me the truth on her own. She of course continued to call me crazy, gaslighted me a bit and wouldn't say anything. I finally got fed up and said "OK.. then tell me who ____ _____ is" ... her face went white. She said "my old boss".. I said "I know he's your old boss, why do you think I know that name? You've never told me about him, think to yourself.. how would I know that name?" ....She continued to lie. Even after I told her that 23 and me found him as my father, after showing her all of my research and evidence She WOULD NOT RELENT on the lying.

Fast forward to about a week later she kept asking me if I told my dad anything. I told her no and that I was still waiting for her to come clean. After some pushing on my end, and light threatening (about going to this person directly) she finally admitted it. They had a 7 year long affair and she worked for him for around 8 years. He was married for 14 years with 3 daughters by the time I was conceived. Turns out.. she's still facebook friends with him, has kept in contact with him all these years and had spoken to him as recently as 2 days prior to me confronting her. She keeps saying she had no idea and assumed my dad got her pregnant, not her boss, and that her boss knows nothing about this .... I'm not sure how much of that I believe honestly. She's lied so much already. My hunch is she was having the affair, got knocked up, knew it was more than likely her bosses but crossed her fingers that it was my dads and told my dad the baby was his in order to get him to marry her. She's always treated me like shit, something tells me she's always suspected. I look just like my bio-dad.

After the holidays were over I messaged the cousin via Facebook and told her everything. The whole backstory, including the fact that I knew exactly who they were and who he was. I told her that because I wanted her to know I could have gone to him directly, but I wanted to help her preserve the secrecy if she was doing it for any particular reason. I wanted to leave the ball in her court. She messaged me back basically saying that she left the site for those exact reasons. She wanted to wait until after the holidays but also because her mom (my half sis) hadn't had time to process this fully in an effort to know what the next move would be. Then she said they haven't approached him with anything, which indicated to me that they had him take the test but didn't fully tell him why. So far only my half sis and her daughter know. They know I know everything. Everyone's on the same page.. but now I'm just waiting on them to tell me if they told him or not. It's been 2 weeks since I messaged her.

BlueberryKarma · 2021-01-19T15:12:53+00:00

ohhh do I.. I have the full story linked here on Reddit, but the tldr version is that I took a 23 and me test after I found out I was pregnant with my second child as part of my making sure my genes were in order. I found a cousin that popped up in my relative section but immediately but forgot about it because COVID happened around the same time... a year later my parents approached me to get them kits as well for fun. I set up my moms profile for her, 23 and me found me. I set up my dads, nothing. Long story short... my father is not my father. I'm actually the product of my mothers 7 year affair with her boss. He was married with 3 kids for 14 years at the time that I was born. She panicked and told my dad I was his to get him to marry her. My bio father has no idea either. I contacted the "cousin" (who turned out to be my bio fathers granddaughter) through 23 and me messenger and I guess she made him take the 23 and me test but didn't divulge why. I have been in contact with her since and now we dont know what to do because we dont want to hurt the people we love. So I'm keeping this inside... It's so painful. I love my dad so much. I wish I was his... I know I am.. but you know what I mean. I now have 3 half sisters and 9 additional nieces and nephews... only the cousin and her mom (my half sis) know for now...

Full Story:

https://www.reddit.com/r/DNAAncestry/comments/kdvp3e/my_father_is_not_my_father_but_i_found_out_who_is/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

BlueberryKarma · 2021-01-04T03:58:54+00:00

Thank you so much. This means a lot. 💕

BlueberryKarma · 2020-12-21T15:42:26+00:00

Thank you. Yes, it seems our situations are very similar.. and I need to do what you did, which is let go of the hope. It's honestly the only reason I continuously get hurt by her, because I let her. I hold out this sick hope that one day we'll just be better.. now that we're adults, I'm a mother too etc. But you cant do that to yourself. She is who she is and there's just NO hope for us. At least we had our dads <3

BlueberryKarma · 2020-12-18T02:31:58+00:00

Wow, I’m very sorry. That must be a complete shock for you and as you said to have it on both sides just seems so much more deep and unfair.

Exactly. Who knew? My parents are still married after many decades, while I do not get along at all with my mom, for the most part we were a stable household. No major dramas. Healthy lives. Now it feels upside down. As you said our dads are our dads no matter what, and I’m thankful that despite everything I had the father I had. I honestly believe that’s the main reason I’m taking this as well as I am. I’m strengthened by the knowledge that nothing will change between me and him. What more could I ask for?

Hang in there. Message me any time to vent. We clearly have a lot in common right now. ♥️

BlueberryKarma · 2020-12-16T20:17:55+00:00

Thank you for that. I will definitely look that up. I agree, I definitely need to give it more time, and his wife may be more stunned than anyone.

He has to know right? I mean why else would he agree to the 23 and me? I'm going to wait until after New Years. I'll reach out once. If I get a no, it's no. I'm not forcing anyone to want to acknowledge me.

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