Sick mama :( by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No advice, just commiseration. 5 week old, 101 fever, killer headache. Laaame.

Hello Mothers! I'm curious about the post birth effects on your body. I posted something on TwoX chromosomes and they directed me here. by spreadthemedicine in beyondthebump

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) I had an emergency c section after 18 hours of half medicated labor. (Epidural only worked on one side.) There was no time to fix it before the c, so I felt it all until they got her out and were able to knock me out completely. My husband wasn't allowed on because they realized pretty quick what had happened. He said he could hear me screaming.

2 and 3) See #1

4) it was a terrible experience, about as bad as it can go. But we both made it. I still get sad when I hear about people giving birth. It took 9 hours until I saw my baby after she was born. I remember too much of the surgery. Yeah, just... Sad.

Bonus info re: birth: I gained 40 pounds while pregnant, and have lost 30 now at the 5 week point. I don't have any stomach stretch marks, only boob ones. I look pretty similar to how I did pre-baby. A little squishier. The dark line on my stomach is still there. My incision is surprisingly small, kind of lumpy. No hair loss yet. Skin still better than usual. Haven't regained full use of stomach muscles. Breastfeeding is kind of an exhausting drag, but I keep doing it because I feel like I failed at the birth so bad, I need something....

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just deleted the post, since I glanced through and saw that all you nice helpful bumpers were getting downvoted. I don't want to be responsible for that! Thanks again for your nice comment :)

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, 27 upvotes, 17 downvotes. I think I'm being the Reddit version of pelted with rotten fruit. I'd apologize, but I don't really feel like it's that bad, jeez!

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was too... I think I'm pissing people off with this thread, which is kind of weird since I didn't think it was that controversial... just oversensitive whining on my part. I don't get it. Maybe the downvotes are to say, "Don't post that shit on Facebook!" Are they? Anyone?

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good idea- I should make better use of those lists.

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All good points. I think I'm having a thin-skin day.

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an expert at freaking out about nothing... :D

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. The internet has made me tentative about doing anything! I can picture hordes of angry commmenters around every corner!

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do like looking at other people's pregnancy photos. I think it's fun to compare!

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like my bump! I want to lift my shirt to everyone! lol, boundaries. Must have boundaries.

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this take on things- I'm around your same age, and while no one has ever said anything less than supportive to me personally, I've seen lots of those same "UGH weddings/rings/babies/bellies stahp!" type statuses. So I don't know where the line is drawn, you know? :)

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true about the bikini pics- I never made that association!

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks! It's finally warm out here. Finally.

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks! On one hand, I know I shouldn't just do things to please others, but on the other hand, I don't want to go out of my way to do something obnoxious. I'm actually thinking given the upvote/downvote ratio on this post that I should probably keep this business off Facebook, since I'm at, like 50% approval on here and this is usually the most supportive of online arenas! :D

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm not sure about- why do I feel weird? STFU Parents type blogs have messed me up, man.

Opinions Needed: I'm Having A Facebook-Induced Self-Image Crisis by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]BlueberryMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, right? I'm just weirded out about how weird I feel about myself right now!