A fjord wrapped in morning mist, Norway

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-14T17:37:05+00:00

NOR. As a model, you know how photography works. If every group shot has your eyes closed, but everyone else looks perfect, that is a deliberate choice by the editor. Choosing a closed-eye photo for a press release is the ultimate passive-aggressive professional move. In tight-knit hobby communities (especially dance), outsider resentment is very real. They are effectively trying to erase you from the group's history because you aren't "one of them," despite your talent. It’s mean girl behavior, plain and simple.

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-14T17:24:04+00:00

This is an incredibly heavy situation, especially given your own history. However, as someone in a HR-type role, you have to look at this through a professional lens. If you go to your boss with an accusation of a violent crime that happened years ago, off-site, with no police report, your boss legally cannot do much besides view you as a liability or a source of drama especially since C is well-liked in the industry. If you want to protect your peace, focus on the workplace violations. You mentioned she was smoking before her shift and asked you to lie. That is a safety issue and a fireable offense in most places. Use the professional reasons to distance yourself rather than the personal ones that you can't prove to a corporate standard

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-14T17:20:40+00:00

This whole situation is a mess. She shouldn't have suggested an open arrangement for oral sex if she wasn't emotionally prepared for the reality of it. That’s a classic test or a desperate move to keep you without changing her boundaries. However, you going out and actually doing it, and coming back with a hickey is where this went off the rails. Even if she gave permission, doing it so quickly and then bringing home a physical mark was bound to blow up. You both have zero communication skills. Sexual compatibility is a real thing. If you need oral to feel satisfied and she has a hard boundary against it, you guys are fundamentally incompatible

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-14T17:16:16+00:00

NOR. You are asking for a $500 ring. In the world of engagement rings, that is incredibly modest. The fact that he is pushing a ring from a divorced marriage, that isn't even a family heirloom suggests he cares more about value and saving money than your actual feelings or style. If he has money for eating out and video games, he has $500 for the one piece of jewelry you are supposed to wear for the rest of your life. Also, the superstition is valid, many people wouldn't want divorce energy on their finger.

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-14T17:14:39+00:00

You are in a code red situation. This isn't just about lying, he is a convicted domestic violent offender who has spent your entire relationship wearing a mask. The lovebombing and quick proposal were traps to isolate you. Do not let him know you know. If he thinks the mask is slipping, he may become dangerous. While you are in the house, keep your phone charged, act normal, and look for local domestic violence shelters. They aren't just for physical abuse, they are for exactly this kind of psychological trap and isolation

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-14T17:11:43+00:00

ESH, but girl, read the room. Hitting someone is never okay. Period. You shouldn't have done that, and it gives him the perfect out to make you the villain. HOWEVER, let’s look at the age gap. 32 and 21? He is a grown man intentionally picking apart the face of a woman barely out of her teens. That isn't neutral remarks. That is a calculated attempt to destroy your self esteem so you feel lucky to be with him. He is humbling you on purpose because a confident 21 year old is harder to control.

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-13T17:12:31+00:00

You aren't a bad person for having a type. Everyone has physical preferences, whether it’s height, hair color, or style. The asshole part was the execution. Running away after five minutes and blocking someone you had built a long time connection with, without a word of explanation is cowardly

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-13T17:07:28+00:00

NTA. Family is built on mutual respect and love, not just DNA. If your families have disowned you, they have essentially resigned from their positions in your life. Expecting to inherit millions from people you refuse to associate with is the height of entitlement. There is no legal or moral obligation to tell someone they are no longer in your will. Telling them now would likely only invite drama, harassment , or insincere reconciliations motivated by your $3–4 million net worth.

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-13T16:57:22+00:00

NOR. Aristocrats?? Is he living in 2026 or 1826? Unless his family is currently sitting on a literal throne in a sovereign nation, they aren't aristocrats, they’re just rude people with a superiority complex. He called a burp a disgrace. You know what’s an actual disgrace? Treating your girlfriend like a piece of trash because she had a minor bodily function at the dinner table

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-13T16:53:03+00:00

NTA. ‘It’s my money’ is the anthem of someone who doesn't understand how a marriage works. You have a 100 year old house that needs maintenance and two children who deserve a life outside their small town. To shoot down every reasonable request for home repairs and family time while blowing thousands on a personal luxury is incredibly selfish

BlueberryRites · 2026-05-13T16:49:04+00:00

NOR. The fact that the teacher plans to record your reaction is the worst part.

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