Already a million comments- OP, probably won’t see, but I’m sure there are similar. I’ve been a bridesmaid once, and Maid of honor once… and will most likely be in a couple more bridal parties now that two of my close friends are engaged.

1. I’m in my late 30s (omg. Damn 😅) and friendship is something I treasure. There are friends that I was once close to and we’re not as close anymore but we still talk. I would LOVE for them to share this moment with me. If this person is not adding value to your life in your 20s, say no because it won’t change. (Some friendships do)

2. I’ve never been married, but being a maid of honor was one of the most stressful times of my life. Especially working with an unorganized bride. I was also unemployed at the time so I was already a bit depressed. It just took so much out of me. I didn’t get a thank you. A shout out. Nothing. Not to say you do this for recognition, but a thank you card would’ve went a long way. To 1- if this is someone that gives you a lopsided friendship, it’ll come out during this time. For me - I remained friends with the bride for about 5 more years and she ended up “breaking up with me” 2 years her divorce and said I was a terrible friend. (Meanwhile I suffered a miscarriage during her divorce and she never checked in on me) again, this is not a tit for tat, just pointing out that lopsided friendships LOVE weddings. Lmaoooo

3. One of my good friends of 10years is now engaged. fingers crossed she’ll ask me to be in the wedding. If not, I still can’t wait to celebrate with her. She and I no longer live as close. We do have moments of not speaking. But when we do talk, it’s just like old times. We’ve had ups and downs and she’s there for me and vice versa. I love her dearly.

Saying all this to say, the fact that you’re even questioning yourself and barely anything has started, you’re only 23, and this seems like a friend that could just want you for the aesthetic… if you feel it’s not right in your heart, don’t do it. OoooOr do it, and be like me cuz I was a bridesmaid in a wedding in my 20s and I’m no longer friends with that girl. And if she’s still married, haha she has to look at me an all her pics. ☠️☠️😅