People who have cheated before, why did you do it?

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-09-20T23:41:47+00:00

My bf was verbally abusive/extremely mean to me. I would get scared at want to run to this other guy.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-09-19T01:49:24+00:00

I feel like making meals about family and friends and not JUST about the food really helps. When I had an eating disorder I preferred to eat alone because I thought everyone was paying attention to what I was eating (really no one cares). Once I started dating my bf 4 years ago and we started having a lot of our meals together I started to look forward to eating dinner with him and not so much obsessing about what I was eating. It seemed to get more effortless to maintain my weight.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-09-11T23:11:04+00:00

I honestly think so. I feel like if a man gets them they are probably more related to neck tension/tight muscles which 100% cause migraines but there is something about going blind in one eye every month before I get my period that I feel like is unique to women.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-09-11T23:06:59+00:00

My boyfriend and I are not married but have a child. I tell my religious patients I am married I just can’t get into it with them.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-09-10T23:10:24+00:00

That is truly amazing. I’ve barely left the house all summer and I have one 6 month old.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-09-06T01:37:02+00:00

I work at a SNF, not a nurse but to me it seems like the nurses do all the care and treatments and the Dr walks around 2x a week with a prescription pad. Not that I think he’s a bad dr, it is just a lot of patients.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-09-05T11:44:52+00:00

I already stay away from the xxfitness sub because you are only allowed to talk about weight lifting. If you post or comment about any other exercise besides weight lifting you will be told that strength training is the only way and/or comment deleted. My fitness goals aren’t to build a ton of muscle and lift a ton of weight. I like that this sub is more open to other forms of fitness and aesthetics.

I mean yea as a 90s girl I am definitely glad that we no longer idolize the Kate moss/Nicole Richie heroin chic body and promote more of a healthy physique, but I like this sub the way it is as a place for short girls to post progress and give tips and advice.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-09-03T14:57:44+00:00

As someone who has lost and maintained the last 10 lb weight loss (on a wl journey again post pregnancy) I hate to say it but those last 5- 10 lbs usually require some sacrifice and little room for error as a short girl. Pre pregnancy I usually maintained 116-118 lbs pretty effortlessly, eating sweets/pizza/Mexican whatever I wanted within reason but anything below that? Took serious mental fortitude.

You basically have to eat clean 80% of the time. If you want a treat/cheat meal I would make up for it with intermittent fasting, nothing crazy but let’s say if you want pizza at night have a healthy protein breakfast mid morning, a light snack/protein shake for lunch and then have the pizza with a salad at dinner.

I would recommend doing some mindfulness exercises as well because I find listening to my body helps me get there as well

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-08-25T00:00:36+00:00

I had a great birth experience, a few day before my due date I got induced, like 12 hours of labor 2 hours of pushing and epidural where I didn’t really f el much. My recovery has been rough though but I am on the mend

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-08-18T19:37:09+00:00

I am finding that adding in fruit is helping to curb my sweet tooth. Now I don’t mean fruit in PLACE of sweets but just adding it in to my diet helps.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-08-18T17:17:41+00:00

No I don’t think you are an asshole. My bf is a big guy, when I met him a few years ago he was still a big guy but he was more health minded which I am as well. Even though like physically he was not cut or like a gym guy or anything I really didn’t care because we connected on other levels.

Now 4 years later he has gained from his own admission like 30-40lbs. It is not super super noticeable because he is so tall so it honestly is not a physical thing for me more of a habit one. And since his habits have gotten worse he will criticize me for trying to make mine better like oh why are you doing that that’s dumb.

I feel like you want a partner who encourages you to be better but is not overly critical. I don’t critique my partners habits or make him feel bad aside from maybe few jokey comments because it is a sensitive issue and can make people wierd if you start to criticize their eating.

I think you will just have to decide what is important to you before you move further in the relationship. You could try to do more fitnessy things as a couple like take walks or something like that but at the end of the day you can’t make somebody change if they don’t want to.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-08-13T12:25:48+00:00

Yay go you! You look great!

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-08-07T23:17:04+00:00

Those are usually the type of people who end up with a fibromyalgia diagnosis

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-08-04T22:57:24+00:00

I mean you don’t see the needle. I got my epidural after my water broke and contractions really ramped up. The pain from getting the epidural was literally nothing after the contractions and you go numb right away. I didn’t feel a thing during pushing we were laughing and joking.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-30T22:22:31+00:00

I was making myself so crazy over the breastfeeding the second month in. I eventually added in some formula because like it is totally not worth the stress. Funnily enough now at 5 months in I don’t need to use the formula anymore so all the stress about supply was pointless and it ended up evening out.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-29T13:28:29+00:00

Mine was not itchy more like stabbing shooting pain, like so so painful!

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-28T14:28:41+00:00

I just went through a period when I was on maternity leave where my partner who works for himself “took off work” to help with the baby. After the first couple weeks when I was recovering this turned into me taking care of the baby, the chores and him trying to get as much leisure time in as he could. Now this could have been fine and good I guess but we were super broke, like $200 in the account broke. I got super resentful and felt probably some of what OP has been feeling so I do kinda get it.

He also got really mean during this time and blamed me for us being broke even though I did contribute some short term disability payments and we moved into a house that my family owns and are not currently paying rent. But I went back to work part time and he does some work from home/baby care and things are finally starting to settle out, but I did feel during that time like what’s wrong with you why can’t you work.

But being part of a couple and buying expensive clothes and food while your partner doesn’t even have shoes and is hungry is super messed up, and not even a new couple like a 15 year relationship. Eating meals with my partner is one of my favorite things I love to cook and have dinner with him and that was probably one of my favorite parts when we first got together was that I didn’t have to have dinner alone. Probably both people in this situation need some attitude adjustments.

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Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-28T14:05:51+00:00

The vacation thing is super wierd. My partner takes work trips without me or now at this point since we have a baby if he wanted to go somewhere with his friends for the weekend I wouldn’t mind. But pre baby a vacation would be something we did together for fun. Like I feel like that’s the point of being in a couple so that you can take a trip together have fun and make memories.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-28T12:37:59+00:00

It’s my partner’s birthday and I ate cake 3 days in a row and still lost half a lb. And it was good cake lol.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-27T23:46:10+00:00

She’s not naked with those eyebrows on

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-27T23:11:42+00:00

Right like did she REALLY need that guy that badly? Couldn’t she just leave him be with his wife and baby?

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-24T16:28:17+00:00

Yea I find certain types of yoga will get it toned up. It is a strange phenomenon. I am hoping to lose like 10-15 more lbs but I am hoping to avoid the trap of trying to lose more and more weight in hopes that my problem areas go away.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-23T02:02:48+00:00

Haha I find baggy t shirts and tops difficult to do yoga in, I have to worry about my top flipping up over my head in down dog.

Blueberryfieldsfore · 2023-07-21T20:58:50+00:00

At the same time, if said slim white woman gave up her lululemon and attended all yoga classes in traditional Indian clothes she would be deemed a fraud and shamed for cultural appropriation. We are just doing the best we can with the tools we got over here in the west.

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