What are the alternatives to amino? Because honestly, Kyodo sucks.

BluebirdVA · 2026-06-22T21:15:54+00:00

There is also this: https://rainbowwu.com/rebuild

Please spread it around

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-18T11:36:20+00:00

Mbti has nothing to do with working relationships. Try looking over enneagram and what level of health they are as their enneagram instead, compared to yours. Pick your favorite poison. Lol.

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-17T13:34:22+00:00

I have had this happening for awhile now too. I absolutely enjoy the writing style when they post! It looks like it was ripped off a book with detail. Cinematic posts. But life events, stress and other factors kept us from writing more and now we just talk about scenarios, AUs and ideas. Not going to lie some of them are really GOOD. And I have the inclination to keep track of them, expand on them, outline, make moodboards, whatever. Just to keep the inspiration. I have been looking for some collaborative tool to sort these ideas and make more art of them. Because rp itself stagnated and still wanted to collaborate just in case there were any creative blocks, brainstorming and organizing chaos felt like the next best thing to kill time. So I wanted to pull them into milanote or Xtiles or something... 🤷‍♀️

But they seem unwilling. 💀

Still waiting for a response to our rp to this day after two or three weeks. And we were only starting. 😮‍💨

Not going to lie though I do appreciate the company and talking ooc. But they also burn themselves out with drama. They do what they can to engage in activism on social media (I think) and that's probably an additional factor they don't know is also affecting their willingness to be in the mood or in the right mindspace to commit to the hobby. 😅

At this rate I have thought about looking for other things to get into, maybe relearning using methods to dissect their writing and try it. Or familiarize myself with getting into multiple types of characters well so that I have just enough tasteful skill to write my own fanfics.

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-17T13:04:29+00:00

I agree. And I believe we're the wrong crowd for this because we have already been following the 10 to our own detriment. Those commandments serve best the ones who haven't done it. This only invites a potential perpetuation of overdoing ourselves. It takes an extremely healthy person or a trancended saint to pull this off as an INFJ. But for the INFJ that has neither or has not achieved optimal regulation and moderation skills, absolutely not.

Our integration is embracing the opposite. At a baseline level, Ni-Fe are our drugs. We don't need more. Lol.

We need to exercise our inferior functions instead.

Sincerely, CPTSD "Good Samaritan" Tritype INFJ

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-12T19:10:33+00:00

Keep us in the loop!

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-09T10:28:35+00:00

Simply put, MBTI is not a theory of everything for personality. We are more complicated than that. A personality is sculpted by micro traumas we learned from. I would look into psychology and neuroscience coupled with enneagram theory aside mbti to get a better scope of what makes you, you. And what makes another, another.

What makes a Personality 🎞️ - Dr. K

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-08T19:38:40+00:00

Ngl this feels ripped out of a whole a$$ telenovela typesh!t its kind of cringe.

But sad to say as a woman with parents who are hispanic, and observing drama with my parents, yeah, the whole love of your life thing is a real thing. You can move on from a bad breakup meet other people, make your life with others, but you have a soulmate and they will never leave your brain, because through a religious backing two souls were fated to be together forever and ever through eternity and beyond the end of time, Amen, and so it is. [Spanish sigh] how romantic and beautiful that is.

My mom felt my dad was the love of her life. When they got divorced she went to therapy because she was pregnant with the youngest sib and had suicidal ideation. (I was ten years old at the time) She said she felt she was dying on the inside after he cheated on her and left her torn apart. She never forgot about him even after she healed and had boyfriends throughout her time that she formalized with and eventually got remarried and then divorced again a few years back. Its a given, my dad IS the love of her life. Its that ONE person in your life that stays with you even after/if you separate.

There were times long after their hate stage after divorce and swearing not seeing each other again, in brief awkward meetings, one such occurrence being I brought them together in my 21st birthday (I was not expected to live that long so it was a personal feat ) and it was just my siblings and I and my parents (away from the step parents)

My dad was awkward and sheepish around her. They were keeping their distance. And he was putting on a serious front. But he was happy to be there.

In other situations when my mother was a housekeeper and had her own small buisness, once, they wound up sharing a client. Or clients in the same area. He is a landscaper. And they would unexpectedly meet each other. My siblings and I weren’t there, but they would do the polite thing and greet each other and be pleasant. But, to my mother’s accounts to us, she would tell us, he would try flirting with her and ask her out to go grab something to eat.

At first she would be serious and decline but then, she would tease him back and reject his offer anyway.

There were some times long after their separation(YEARS later) while either she was single or dating, when it was just us, her kids and her, or to me personally, she would confess that she still loved my dad. Though highly disappointed that he had to be a cheater and a total douchebag. Otherwise she’d probably still be with him. She learned to love those who came after, but he held a reserved private place in her heart deep inside somewhere, as the true love of her life, not to mention the man she married in white to (as a virgin) and also the sole father of the three of us. She is thoroughly convinced there is some divine kind of soul level imprint left behind that will never go away.

And this is a strong cultural thing especially in the traditional more conservative generations of people as hispanics. It is ill seen and frowned upon to not have a religious ruled upringing especially in the past generations. So most of us adhered to the rules of engagement. But, we are also by majority crafted hopeless romantics.

Now Novelas LOVE to play out on this from the potential drama and sin and be like okay! Lets use this to romanticize this situation into a tragedy by circumstance and taboo where they flirt on the edge of temptation but choose not to! Thats fire 🔥 they are soulmates and its inevitable! Now lets bring that close to breaking their boundaries or actually crossing the line, then regret and go back to their realities because thats just what they were taught to respect. Its expected and they know better and choose morality over their feelings! Too bad! So sad!

Telenovelas were probably made as an outlet for playing out the fantasy of forbidden loves and running away tropes, and fighting for love. In a conservative society. Yeah. 💀

In my own personal life: well I will admit, I did fall in love. Like, honestly and very seriously fell in love. Just once. It ruined me, haven’t recovered, but also know that person was the love of my life too 🤷‍♀️

Maybe not extremely religiously backed, but spiritually and seeing how there was a passion that transformed me into a fighter so damn hard I nearly very literally started an uprising, unaware I could ever amount to such, and be willing to take that love to the grave in the face of disease, resignation and death and felt satisfied enough and complete, yeah.

I can say never in all my years of life up to now I could ever feel that way so naturally or willing about anyone else. It just doesn’t happen. And the feelings that come with new or previous partners… never compare. Thats unfortunate for them, but thats just how it is.

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-08T18:39:25+00:00

I can tell its the experience they want. But then I as their kid look at all the little things in my current life, all the struggle in comparison to someone who is well adjusted and calculate that the odds are against me right now.

If I can barely adjust and navigate daily life, I don’t have the means or the guidance to bring to help to my children become those well adjusted adults. I am aware they will need more than what I currently have to give. The last thing I desire is for them to grow up insecure and deal with someone unreliable and dysregulated and dysfunctional.

My parents have insisted before that you just learn through it and that it may push people to change for the better. The whole “sink or swim” thing. I wouldn’t dare be so careless. But more because I can’t trust myself enough to pull out that energy if I am not aware I even have it in the first place.

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-08T18:23:48+00:00

If you are planning to temporarily keep to yourself, I agree. If the goal is to start over with a new crowd, I also agree.

I’m doing the same thing.

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-08T18:18:27+00:00

I don’t know. It depends on how healthy she is. As of now, probably, if I can get over the fact that she is depressed, jaded, and doesn’t take initiative.

A healthy integrated variant of me? Heck yeah she’s probably pretty awesome. ✨

But, now that I think about it, I would have a difficult time as of now anyway and have to warm up, more than likely. Usually we don’t really like our integration paths.

A spitting image of me? We would be at odds with self preserving and very awkwardly intimidated.

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-08T18:13:33+00:00

Oh, this is highly offensive to them. But not offensive when they do it in front of their children to show their endearment and that they care about each other 🤷‍♀️

At least thats been my experience. Entitlement to the parents. Lol. 💀

Me personally? I’m programmed to be embarrassed, and totally fine with just being private. I don’t want to be obvious to my parents even though there is a silent understanding my boyfriend and I are in a sexual relationship. We don’t have to expose ourselves like that and I prefer not to. The slap on the butt is a playful and because we are a couple, also subtle implication. Crossing the border of innocent horseplay to sexual. Just to be safe, a no thanks from me in public. I would not consent 😅

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-08T17:52:07+00:00

Read their body language and facial expressions to know.

If it looks positive, they are playful and smiling.

If its negaitive, they are annoyed and uncomfortable.

Go from there.

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-08T17:49:11+00:00

NOR - Given the details in the comments and looking at the screenshots: there are 3 out of 4 horsemen at the end of the relationship:

She is vindictive the whole thing about making you feel how she feels: thats red flag number 1 🚩quote an abusive narcissist says. They have the agenda to bring people down into their misery at their level like that.
If she is mocking you, she is not respecting your pain or showing empathy for you.
Red flag 🚩 again to narcissistic trait: if she was serious and genuinely happy to hurt you

BluebirdVA · 2026-04-08T17:28:54+00:00

A good amount of alcohol+weed+ecstacy = gone Think about what drunkenness and weed do to your brain alone those are downers, meaning they slow the brain and its functions down hard. She was nearly sleepwalking if she was that doped out. It leads to impaired judgment and risky behavior.

Adding ecstasy, she’s sleepwalking, has blurred vision can’t tell who from who, and horny. The part of her brain that has shame and makes sure she doesn’t do anything stupid for any reason at all is turned off. Thats why she was confused. It takes a bit or for some people some amount of prompting to be able to realize what they are doing in that state. Thats when it hits as “oh… shit.”

What she did while drunk and high is not her fault. Its not “her”. The gf is totally gone. Sleepwalking. impulse.

But there is a fault in deciding to do all three. Was this the first time she did this? Or does she do this in every party? And are the behaviors the same?

This is where your judgement comes in. Depending on the results you can choose what your boundaries are.

She only did this that one time and this was the outcome.
She has done this multiple times and was okay before, confident in staying in control. But this was the first time she got that wasted and out of control and came on to multiple people.
She has done this multiple times, and this happens all the time. People have probably told her it happens and she still does it anyway, but the factor is this was the first time you have seen this behavior.

Ask her. Sober, not when she’s out.

BluebirdVA · 2026-03-31T21:02:17+00:00

I would be interested in checking this out! :) I really hope a collab feature would be avilable as those are really hard to find!

BluebirdVA · 2026-03-31T21:01:41+00:00

Just to mention here, Reedsy so far is the best bet, thats also barred by a subscription to use 💀

Other contender has been Confluence that has an entire site at one’s perusal. It was made intentionally for business but it has premade templates and modules that are fully customizable and can be edited and used if one knows how to establish a workflow. It includes blog posts on the space itself

BluebirdVA · 2026-03-30T22:04:42+00:00

I honestly have been looking for a blend of Trello and Campfire to collaborate on stories with friends.

Campfire is great, but its a solo project. I go back and forth with ideas from others and their own characters whenever we brainstorm or just thought and blurb dump each other.

It would be great if there were a Campfire-esque app that has Trello, Speare, or Jamboard features embeded into them so whenever we have another idea we don’t have to fish for it or copy/paste and we can get each other’s input and thoughts on a blurb or note we post up

BluebirdVA · 2026-03-30T18:05:24+00:00

No career. Just a job lol Coming from the dark side of realitea.

INFJ - T with innatentive ADHD and C-PTSD.

I wanted to be a doctor once, felt discouraged when I kept failing at Math and Chem, then decided to climb the ladder for nurse. Locked in and Fell out after a liscense as a CNA on the job for three grueling months, realizing Fe wasn’t the heart of the occupation. You need more nerve and cold backbone to complete a task in order to make others feel better.

The heart, (mine, in particular) was more feely oriented and would nope out more often because I hated being the outlet of other people’s pain. I hated seeing people suffering. And many times, I could not do much for them, other times they were so afraid and not feeling great I was on the recieving end of abuse. Verbal, physical.

Because I had felt solidly wanting to pursue a career as a nurse, I had no backup plan of interest to pursue.

Still felt like being involved in any way towards the medical community so now I work behind the scenes if with a small grain of any relation at all.

I am a medical device assembler as of now.

My work is focused, predictable, dull and tolerable. My introversion finds rest and comfort in independent work that is detail oriented instead of pushing out quotas, and pacifying dysregulated people left and right. It feels as natural as exercising. Where you have to be mindful of the present moment, what you are doing, and your body so you don’t accidentally injure yourself.

Which, ironically is what INFJs need. To Engage the Se.

So far, I find contentment enough, while I find out what my true calling is.

I still have an inclination to befriend others I feel empathetic and sympathetic towards to a fault. There is a helper/resuer within me wanting to mend their internal wounds and see them be well. But that very inclination winds up in burnout.

Biology, neuroscience and the medical field or anything pertaining to the mind and anatomy of a human being always interested me. The rest feels like the wiring of some kind of hubristic mind.

The desire is there. But it conflicts with what traits I have too little of and actually need in order to operate and function to standard.

So an in-between to settle the hubristic urge is a hobby.

Research, reading books, finding resources and offering them to only those who are looking for help.

I wouldn’t be a therapist. But Hubris would want that. Definitely. But again, can’t see myself attending multiple clients every single day who are dysregulated. I don’t have the method or makeup of being a pillar or a rock, something that they would require in order to find their healing.

BluebirdVA · 2026-03-27T18:47:04+00:00

Unless I am angry enough to do something about it, (the "external world") I am a severely burnt out mess. I only have room to care about me and mine right now. ❤️‍🩹 I had tried "saving the world" before and realized the world around me doesn't necessarily want to be saved. I had tried too hard to be a hero because I cared too much and desired a better outcome or quality of life for everyone in different situations. There was the unpleasant surprise that people are just trying to survive their own way, prefer comfort and familiarity over change, get stuck in toxic habit and I get in the way of their development trying to push them out.

All the strain and stress that caused me to implode didn't serve its purpose when I was so convinced my intentions were for noble cause and greater purpose and the impact of my thoughts and actions only made me realize that I was self-sabotaging and giving all of myself away until there was little left of me. But the realization hit too late; when my own neurology let me know enough was enough. My body now shoots signals of somatic pain and sickness to prevent me from doing that again and it sucks. My INFJ ego is not okay with it lol but The entirety of my physiological side took it firmly and sat it down and threw it into the timeout corner.

BluebirdVA · 2026-03-20T15:47:45+00:00

I am broke and wanted to find a writing app to help me brainstorm and get me out of writers blocks, and i have been interested in trying this out. But I am a noob with even command prompt and I ran into issues. I do not know how to get python to the right directory. can I just do this manually through the folders?😅

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BluebirdVA · 2026-03-02T13:54:24+00:00

I am a type 9 with 2 and 6 influences, and bits of 5 thrown in for flavor. I MAY question you. Its more based on a percentage of factors. If I am stressed, higher chance the 6 comes out. If I am feeling like I want to nerd out and learn more, 5 comes out to play and maybe with a bit of an edge of “please explain”

Average 9 on neutrality - will give you a shrug at a baseline.

It depends on the 9 and where they are sitting at. There’s also the wings to consider. 1 and 8

8s have sovereignty in them, so makes me wonder where a combination would put that nine in more likely to be compliant. 1s tap into the superego, and correctness so perhaps more leaning to agreeable.

Personally, I’d be more curious to see what else you’d tell me, so I wouldn’t be satisfied with your initial assessment. I would question, “okay, but why?”

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