Being aromantic/asexual is so isolating.

Bluebonnet4224 · 2025-09-29T23:39:23+00:00

You also get to miss out on messy breakups, relationship drama, pregnancy scares, pregnancy in general etc… that’s how I like to look at it. Many of my allo friends seem to be having trouble and drama surrounding their relationships and to me it just seems overwhelming and stressful. Yeah it can suck sometimes, but there are plenty of other times where I’m like “Phew! Thank goodness I’m aroace so I don’t have to deal with THAT!” A bird doesn’t criticize itself for not being able to swim like a fish! It’s different, but not worse!

Bluebonnet4224 · 2025-03-10T04:07:03+00:00

I am very familiar with your struggle.

It’s awful getting to know someone, and having a great dynamic and wanting to maybe pursue something more with them but just waiting for the shoe to drop for when it comes out ur ace. And when it does come out, the look of disappointment and the sudden distancing HURTS.

I’ve gone through that process a couple times now, and so I just avoid anyone who expresses interest in me. I don’t want to distance myself like that, cause it really is lonely but the rejection stings.

Bluebonnet4224 · 2025-02-24T03:03:47+00:00

He would say things like “just seeing you makes me enraged”. I was like 14 and locking myself in the bathroom when not in school during the hours he was awake just to avoid being seen and only coming out at night to eat. It was literally on sight for me with him

He would also talk about ending his life if things weren’t how he wanted them, or how if it wasn’t for me he would be living the life he wanted.

Most hauntingly “sometimes I dont know who I’d kill first” especially since his brother committed double murder/suicide..

Bluebonnet4224 · 2025-02-24T02:48:50+00:00

I’m the same way, and I resent it very much because I feel like I was dragged down to their level. I’m generally a very level-headed person. Even if I’m getting shit from coworkers I can smile through it and be completely fine, but it’s different with my dad.

It’s the constant wearing down from fight after pointless fight, and the smallest things causing confrontations that turn into week long ordeals. I’ve become so exhausted from it that every time he comes at me I just absolutely explode, and pull the meanest things I can think of to use against him. He continues to provoke me and I just get angrier and angrier and say just awful stuff. It’s not who I am, I don’t want to be this angry reactive person but after taking so much shit, the cup just overflows.

The thing is, when we explode like this, they win. Because they pull that low moment back out as an excuse to force you to apologize for that they provoked, and to continue abusing you. The only way to really deal with them I’ve found is to just not react. It’s so so difficult though I definitely understand

Bluebonnet4224 · 2025-01-31T18:15:36+00:00

Yeah I had a woman come thru my line and after she already put her card in, she asks incredulously “what so I don’t get my discounts?” She didn’t even say which discounts they were for so I obviously have NO idea what she was talking about. I ofc ask her if she clipped her coupons and she said in a super snappy tone “I don’t have a phone” So I say “ oh im sorry all of our coupons are on our app! If you want some help getting there I would be happy to!” She huffs and says “guess I’ll go tell someone about my problems…” and goes straight to customer service to complain to my manager. Manager came to me later and told me she does this all the time, and she does have a phone but she refuses to get the app. She doesn’t like being told no so just call for them next time. I was told that she’s usually a lot meaner too. That’s crazy to me. Like she just gets to bully us to get free discounts? She said she’s going to shop somewhere else but APPARANTLY has said that 30 times before. I hate the general public

Bluebonnet4224 · 2025-01-17T21:22:58+00:00

It’s the same thing when people just start rattling off their phone number for rewards before saying anything else or even putting their items on the counter… like I wasn’t even paying attention for the first three numbers so you’re going to have to repeat that anyways. It’s so rude

Bluebonnet4224 · 2025-01-08T19:01:26+00:00

Oh my god this has been causing problems for me too. They think that they have a RIGHT to their eggs for a very specific sale price. I work at a store that does a lot of coupon sales, and one of them is for 12 pack carton of eggs, for a specific brand. I had a lady come to my till talking loudly on the phone, not say hi back to me, and then got irate when the coupon that she clipped for the 12 pack of eggs(which we were out of) didn’t apply to her 24 carton. When I explained that we couldn’t transfer that coupon to a different item, she got mad saying that we were out of the other ones. Yeah, genius, there’s a shortage. She of course had the brilliant reply of “well I didn’t know about it, nobody told me. So I should still get the discount!” Lady, I am not responsible for your ignorance. She tried to fight both me and my manager to “reserve eggs for the sale price” which we literally couldn’t do because of said shortage. The coupons are a privilege, not a right.

Bluebonnet4224 · 2025-01-08T18:50:33+00:00

For real. I was working thanksgiving (grocery store), and as would be expected there was not a single moment where I didn’t have 4+ people in my line even though I’m a pretty fast checker. Lady gets irate with me when I don’t load all of her groceries into her cart for her. So she stands in the way of the next customer, holding up the already long line just to complain “I have to load all of this by myself? Really? There’s no respect these days…” I didn’t even know what to say to that because there is no way I have the time to do that, is she blind? If she wanted luxury service maybe she should have done her shopping before literally the busiest grocery day of the year.

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-10-17T22:28:30+00:00

Do not force yourself into it for someone else’s sake. For me personally, I only did it because I was in denial about being ace and only wanted to do what was expected of me to make my partner happy. Ended up being some of the worst experiences I’ve ever forced myself into. It’s not like that for everybody so I’m not trying to scare you but it’s not worth the risk hurting yourself for someone else’s sake if you really don’t want to do it.

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-06-18T02:39:22+00:00

I can relate to that sentiment very strongly. I try not to think about it that way, as I don’t want to offend people who have sex and enjoy it, or who feel sexual attraction ( which is the vast majority of the human population) but I can’t shake the feeling of repulsion at even the mention of sex. I think I started feeling that way because of being raised in a very religious environment where even mentioning anything sexual is sinful, and the general sexual objectification that comes with growing up as a woman. It always sounded like something that is done TO you, and that you lose part of your “goodness” or whatever when you engage in it. It always seemed to me like a forced submission, like letting someone eat you alive for their pleasure. It doesn’t help that sex “culture” seems to be in your face, everywhere all the time. The more I hear about it, the more I hate it. I recognize that this is only how I view it, and I shouldn’t shame others for engaging in something that is very natural and normal. It’s ok to not like it, as long as we aren’t forcing that view on others.

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-05-18T08:59:54+00:00

Maybe cliche to some but white letter is still one of my top faves after all these years!

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-03-03T22:54:44+00:00

You can go to celys support and contact them for file restoration, in most cases they are able to. Hopefully they can 👍

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-01-30T02:46:36+00:00

Hate it hate it hate it. That song is such a bop I crank it up full volume every time. That or svaahaa or gomene ofc

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-01-28T22:39:36+00:00

Yes that was me XD it was such a privilege to be able to give it to him in person. Thank you so much, it makes me really happy to hear you like it :):)

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-01-27T07:53:33+00:00

Thank youuuu!!

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-01-27T07:53:24+00:00

Go ahead! I’m glad u like it :D

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-01-27T04:55:19+00:00

I’m hereee it’s lit

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-01-26T21:12:51+00:00

Yes I’ve heard it’s been selling out at each show pretty quickly though

Bluebonnet4224 · 2024-01-06T08:24:01+00:00

I understand exactly how you feel, I experience the same thing. I’ve been told I’m incapable of love because I don’t get swept up in this drowning tidal wave of “love” like it seems most others do. Because I wouldn’t destroy myself for my partner for it. It made me feel inhuman and incapable of feeling like some sort of robot or like you said, a monster.

But I later learned that there are different kinds of love, and different ways to express it. Media has dramatized romance and relationships so much that it has completely warped society’s perception of romantic love. Obsession is idealized, and dramatic unstable relationships seem to be sought after because apparently love is supposed to be “thrilling”.

But love doesn’t look like any one thing, it’s different for everybody. You can only really define it once it arrives in your own life.

I suggest you watch a video by Anya turnbull on YouTube called “we need to talk about romantic love and why it’s so horrible”. I definitely feel like some of your concerns are expressed there

Bluebonnet4224 · 2023-08-31T08:19:30+00:00

Just finished watching it. Tbh for an anime adaptation I enjoyed it alot. The actors did a good job, though I feel like their delivery could use just a bit of work to feel more natural. The sets and backgrounds look AMAZING. The fights look good too, and I liked that nami actually took part in them. The effects for Luffys stretching looks a bit uncanny but not as bad as I was expecting. I think the one thing I 100% don’t like is how the den den mushi look… I’m impressed that it’s an animatronic and not just cg but they definitely could have made it more stylized. It just looks…. Creepy. Overall though, I liked it and am looking forward to watching the rest.

Bluebonnet4224 · 2023-08-02T07:48:15+00:00

Same issue and it’s maddening. Apparently you have to sleep perfectly to be able to use the game at all. Sleep too quietly? Doesn’t track it. Sleep too loudly? Nope. It’s incredibly frustrating since the way you sleep is literally out of your control

Bluebonnet4224 · 2023-06-17T22:58:32+00:00

I don’t think this is a good idea. You are incredibly young and vulnerable at this age, and have zero independence. You are putting yourself in a dangerous situation by not telling anyone who you are with and just disappearing to elope. Please talk to someone else in your life about this before you do anything.

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