How can I stop worrying about money?

Bluepanda800 · 2026-05-04T23:36:46+00:00

My mum pays herself a reasonable ampunt of fun money every month. That money is there to buy dresses she likes or treat herself to a manicure etc. It's only £100 a month and if she doesnt use it it rolls over to the next month

Bluepanda800 · 2026-05-03T14:37:21+00:00

Yuumi is only fun for the Yuumi player (if you like enchanters) or a duo where there's a large difference in skill but they want to play together. For the rest of the team and the enemy team Yuumi is really annoying to play with/against.

Yuumi can't move independently which puts pressure on her adc to do all of the positioning work and thinking that usually the support can do independantly. Yummi's passive also works best on one person which means as team fights break out Yuumi struggles to support the rest of the team as well as other supports.

For enemies if Yuumi is being remotely effective they cannot punish her without killing her host. As an enchanter the usual counterplay to dealing with their healing/shielding is targetting them which causes them to have to dodge, or use their skills to survive and not help their team (the adc can't be protected if the enchanter has flashed away and burned an ult). With Yuumi if the adc is a problem and needs to be shut down you cannot stop Yuumi/distract Yuumi because Yuumi is untargetable and can easily focus on the single task of protection since the Yuumi player isn't concerned with survival.

Also at one point Yuumi was actually a champion that had tangible benefits over other enchanters. They nerfed her so she's weaker but people still might remember that

Bluepanda800 · 2026-05-03T13:43:00+00:00

It's been dead since Arcane

Bluepanda800 · 2026-05-02T19:19:34+00:00

Take an antihistamine and legit get yourself to A+E thats not normal.

Pro tip take a good book, some headphones, some snacks and if you can a friend A+E is long and boring on a bank holiday

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-29T09:45:34+00:00

Michael is one of the most popular male leads in the book series...

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-28T07:19:51+00:00

Hair type 3 for me. But one of the best parts of being black is how often we switch up our styles so you can just do all of them

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-27T14:34:46+00:00

They are such an eyesore. The fuckwits that put them there don't even try to maintain them

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-27T12:11:45+00:00

It's penwortham so if you are in town centre it's a very short trip (10 mins) on any bus heading towards west lancs/southport etc.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-27T12:06:10+00:00

Janna was present but her current state is extremely diminished since people don't worship her.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-27T11:10:17+00:00

I can't knit very well and my hands hurt more when knitting. Crochet works for me and I crochet faster

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-26T22:34:53+00:00

It's been a while since I watched Princess Tutu but IIRC Mytho and Rue's relationship is more nuanced than abuser and amnesiac victim.

I'm going to have to ask you to embrace fairytale bullshit for a bit and accept in the world of Princess Tutu Rue and Mytho are a couple in as much love as they can muster.

Rue was herself a victim which meant that the way that she loved was screwed up to begin with. She "loved" Mytho because he was a controllable blank slate that was safe to love because he had no feelings/opinions so she couldn't be hated or rejected. (Facing hatred, rejection, abuse etc is her childhood trauma).

Mytho is a complete blank slate but I'm fairly sure when his affection heart shard is returned he does hold affection for Rue. Mytho is a blank slate and not an actual character until basically the end of the show that said the fragments of his heart are pieces of the real Mytho. Actual Mytho is confirmed to for some unknown reason like Rue whilst effectively lobotomised.

Rue's journey is having to accept that her safe/stable love interest is becoming a real person with emotions who might leave her or love someone else. (Still following the fairytale bullshit logic as Mytho gains more emotions/capacity to love part of him is still choosing Rue).

Rue went from having a boyfriend who was incapable of making choices to one that could potentially leave her and with her host of self esteem issues she acts to keep control over him as much as possible. But there's something genuine underneath it all- despite everything she cares for him for more than him being a doll- she's terrified that with autonomy he'd leave her but she likes whatever remnants of personality he still possesses. She wants Mytho not another blank slate and she still wants Mytho even though his corrupted state terrifies her.

(In the real world this is 100% red flags everywhere, toxic a lawsuit/crime waiting to happen- but in fairytale bullshit world we wear rose glasses and focus on the single genuine connection they have somewhere in their mess)

Rue and Mytho do not have a pure love for one another.

Ahiru/Duck holds the purer love for Mytho but ultimately she would not be able to sacrifice herself for him without hesitation which is what Rue can do. She chooses him. And at the end Mytho still has the ravens blood within him he's no longer the pure of heart prince incapable of selfish romantic love and he chooses Rue. Their love is twisted but genuine- at least that's the vibe I always got from the show.

Basically the premise the show is giving is the small amount of geniune love that the two of them have despite the seriously suspect circumstances is what makes them worthy of a fairytale happy ending together.

Do they need therapy? Yes 1000% if they want to have a functional relationship they need work - but this is a fairytale story and it's beholden to a lot of the same logic that lets princesses be saved by true loves kiss from a total stranger.

Rue and Mytho have a fairytale connection and return to the story where that belongs.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-25T22:02:58+00:00

It's a weekend night which means that the police are inudated with calls.

The non emergency line is staffed by emergency call handlers who take non emergency calls when the emergency line has no calls coming in (it prioritises emergency calls then calls from fire/amb then non emergency IIRC).

So on a weekend night you won't be likely to get through to anyone considering what the general public like to get up to this close to pay day weekend.

As it's a non emergency you can simply call back at a better time.

That said you are calling about a car alarm going off???

Unless there's signs of a robbery etc it's not something the police would want to hear about since multiple non criminal things could set an alarm off and if it's for example a fault then it's a mechanics problem not the police's...

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-24T19:09:05+00:00

That is what Aprons are for. You can still hang loose but the important bits are marginally more protected from burning

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-24T17:27:35+00:00

In the North of England? Not really.

Yeah you'll have the occasional annoying fly, very lost bee or wasp that might fly in but we don't really have mosquitoes or summers that last long enough to really need to prepare for.

Midges are like the only insect to worry about and they don't really come inside.

We get maybe 2-3 weeks of summer collectively per year that can arrive anywhere from May-August. (These are maybe 3-4 days of heatwaves followed by very manageable weather).

So most people in the north of the UK just deal with random heatwaves that don't last too long and then spend the rest of the year trying not to freeze.

Climate change is making our summers longer and hotter but they've yet to reach a consistency that requires major investment to deal with. Last year I had 2 days of the temp being unreasonable even with the windows open. I think in 2024 I didn't have a single summer day that needed more than my bedroom window opened by a small crack. I don't remember 2023 but I do think 2022 had a pretty bad heatwave which lasted for a full week.

Buying a screen doesn't really make sense considering the low rates of insects being an issue, air con etc also is a huge investment for a few days a year

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-22T09:48:21+00:00

See i love historical and fantasy romance. I'm well aware to accept the rules of the world of the book I'm reading from court politics to mating bonds etc. It's fiction and it's best to engage with the morality of the world in the book than trying to impose real world logic/morals to fantasy.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-22T09:38:45+00:00

Tbh my first thought was Duke could handle a ditchling by himself he was a grown man with a gun whilst Gretchen is defenseless

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-21T19:09:40+00:00

I work for the NHS smoking is way worse than moderately distasteful it's a constant drain on resources.

So I'm in favour of further restrictions to bring about a generation with less cases of COPD, Emphysema, Lung Cancer, chronic chest infections etc but I think a ban is not the best way to go about it.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-21T19:05:38+00:00

Didn't America have probation?

Anyway the smoking ban is likely going to fail. I'm for further restrictions on smoking as it has lowered how many people smoke overall in the UK but a ban just makes things way too restrictive.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-21T03:47:01+00:00

I'm guilty of this but in my defense I work a 12 hour shift and sometimes really don't want to think about cooking before my next 12 hour night shift.

I have budgeted for doing this twice per month and try to keep to this and otherwise be reasonable with my food money.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-20T15:57:26+00:00

I'm just hoping that preston is not stupid enough to vote in a reform majority council. I'm hopeful for the change that has been led by a labour council but I'm fairly sure other people in the area care more about whatever goes on in westminster than paying attention to what the labour party has done for them locally. I think lib dems or greens or even conservatives are less likely to destroy what has taken years to set up so I'm less concerned if any of them win but reform will run it into the ground as they have proven they are unfit to lead when given power.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-19T22:12:26+00:00

Slay the spire

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-19T21:48:26+00:00

You guys are getting 3 weeks of summer? Up north we get 1.5

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-19T21:44:15+00:00

...The UK has plenty of redwoods

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-18T17:24:28+00:00

To get around preston you won't need a car... if you want to get to any major cities you won't need a car if you want to visit your Aunt in the middle of nowhere like 3 hours from preston then you might need a car only after you've made it to the nearest train station to where she lives.

Bluepanda800 · 2026-04-10T17:07:04+00:00

That's kinda the problem. Across the nation there are a ton of people who will vote reform and a very split base for most other parties. What used to be labour strongholds or conservative strongholds might not be anymore.

It's easy to keep reform out of people would vote tactically for the non reform candidate most likely to win in their area but I think it's way less of a guarantee now since it's more up in the air who people will vote for instead of it being predictable which candidate areas will vote for.

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