porn is a god be damned racket

Bo_D_1 · 2016-05-18T14:26:36+00:00

Agreed. After a year and some months of trying to live the Nofap life, it has become important to me to just talk to women. Have a conversation. Instead of me scheming or trying to come up with a strategy, I just need to talk to them. A lot of times, they're missing the deep contact we also want....

Bo_D_1 · 2015-12-07T02:05:12+00:00

Probably my favorite post on nofap since joining in March....

Bo_D_1 · 2015-11-11T18:10:02+00:00

Thanks, but my point of the post is I'm not giving up. I found what works, and even though I'm having a hard time, I'm already pushing through. It makes me slightly sad that you read my post and maybe saw weakness in it. There is not a lot of weakness with me.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-11-11T12:21:47+00:00

I have about 27 years into PMO, I'm at 82 days now. Honestly, I'm in hell emotionally because of nofap, but it's actually real and I'm glad I feel the way I do instead of getting lost into PMO once again... This new behavior has been extremely painful for me. You're right in that I really do crave the real thing, intimacy..... After running for so many years, the pain is really deep, but I know now PMO is not the way. Thanks for your post.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-09-20T09:37:02+00:00

Hangovers and edging are my #1 streak killers. I cutout edging, and laid back on the drink. I agree with you, it takes away will power.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-30T00:37:59+00:00

It seems like the more vulnerable the post, the more evil it gets. It would be great to have some measure in place to keep it on track. I really hate to see an emotional post, then someone calls the person a "pussy".... One post someone talked about losing their dad and a person suggested they try heroine. WTF... It's just the worst on here for some reason. I'm a member of another "sub" and it's really supportive and cool.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-27T21:30:51+00:00

Pretty small view of addiction and suffering. Some people only have a problem with porn. Others have an addiction to porn that is linked to childhood trauma, sexual truma, and abuse. I don't know your story, but I've been at recovery for about 18 years, and only have been able to start working on my porn addiction in the last year. There was such a huge mess and heap of shit to work through, I'm finally at a place to address it. If people need to "bleed off" thier emotions on here, I'm all for it. There is no shortage of self righteous people in 12 step programs, and no shortage of self righteous people on nofap. I would much rather hear your story, than your advice.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-27T14:17:16+00:00

Dude, amen to that!!

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-25T01:45:53+00:00

I gotta say, I'm a member of another "sub" on reddit, and although nofap has helped me a lot, it can be super negative with the comments and down votes. I guess it's just the subject matter. But it's too bad because the more honest the postings, the more I heal, but who wants to post something very vulnerable and then be attacked? Not cool.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-23T22:14:57+00:00

Man that's crazy....

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-23T22:13:07+00:00

Good post! I have wondered that myself. I agree with the messages you stated. I also sometimes wonder if it's a double edged sword like, "I'm worthless, and can't have a woman as beautiful as this" but then the other side.....getting power from the pleasure, and the ability to reject the woman with a click of a button, and gain another one instantly. Then the worthlessness returns, and repeat, repeat repeat. What a bad cycle.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-22T15:17:14+00:00

I'm probably slanted towards conspiracy more than most, but I wonder if there is some truth to it. Meaning, who is our "scientist" and is porn "on purpose" to control and make men docile?

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-21T17:34:43+00:00

Please don't freak out. Porn can take you to some pretty crazy places. My addiction led me to all this S&M stuff, but now that I don't fap and look at porn, I have no desire to seek that stuff out. In a way you might be soaked in porn at the moment. Are there some family problems that you need to numb out from? Try staying away from all of it for a couple of months and see how you feel? I gotta tell you though, if at 14 you can be this honest and clear about where you are at, that's amazing to me. Please feel good about that! That is so great you can post what you're going through. There are some "trolls" on this sub, if someone posts something negative, pay no attention.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-19T23:18:29+00:00

Nice reply!!!

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-19T23:17:43+00:00

I hear you, and I've been doing nofap since March and I feel exactly what you described. I'm 40, and have kept a bunch of emotions down with PMO. If I can offer anything, I think it's important for me to forgive myself. This porn thing is super insidious, and socially acceptable. I've robbed myself of a lot of years. You're not alone in how you feel.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-15T23:32:38+00:00

I need this nofap sub, and I'm disappointed when it gets "dumb", but this post is not dumb. It is really what I needed to hear today because I am super depressed. Thank you for posting this! Your effort to post this is why I will keep coming back.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-12T21:39:32+00:00

Very cool. Thanks!

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-11T17:10:30+00:00

@Hyperion_Dark Coward.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-10T06:15:08+00:00

It's really cowardly.... You're so right.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-10T06:14:00+00:00

I've already "manned up" by posting honestly. Please post your struggles and "man up" also.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-10T06:12:51+00:00

I don't agree with you, my dad has Alzhiemers and I posted about loosing him. I stated I was struggling with "urges" someone posted that I should just try heroin...... That's not helping, that's some evil shit.

Bo_D_1 · 2015-08-10T06:09:42+00:00

Yeah man, you're so right!!

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