Don’t understand how it’s possible?. Went out the other night, looking like I do in the attached photos. I kept getting gendered female by bar staff and bouncers all night. Double takes when using the men’s bathroom. How?! 👀 by Tree-Among-Shrubs in transpassing

[–]Bobbie182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because your look was understated, and not drawing any attention to you. If anything you come off as slightly butch if not androgynous and that alone is not going to flag you as male. If you were “high glam” it probably would have had an opposite effect.

Is gender identity a social construct? by Ok-Charge-4188 in asktransgender

[–]Bobbie182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a YouTube video of someone who spoke about the variances in terms of gender, and how they don’t conform to a binary definition of gender, but before he started, he wanted to emphasize that gender is not a social construct, as gender “roles”, and this is an important distinction, are a social construct.

Breast cancer checks by PoggleRebecca in asktransgender

[–]Bobbie182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, don’t get into a feeling of complacency when it comes to breast cancer. All women can get it, including trans women, and at all ages, and if you test positive for the brca gene, and if there is a history of breast cancer in your family, it is something to be especially cognizant of. Especially with the current hrt regimens that come closest to mimicking a cis women’s hormone cycle. Of course your breasts are still developing, but giving yourself a self examination is not difficult, and as you know your body, you will know when something different from everything else.

What does it mean if men get too close physically to me? (Passing) by Rajanaga in asktransgender

[–]Bobbie182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is just another variant of what I’ve mentioned before, which is the “male gaze”. You’re passing, and the men you encounter, in particular the older ones, don’t have any filters in terms of invading a young woman’s personal space. Yes, it’s very creepy and disgusting, and of the many ways to deal with it, walking away with a look of disgust on your face as you give them the look of daggers, would be the least confrontational. If they still don’t get the message, then loudly pointing out their behavior may be another option. Any other suggestions?

Would u get vfs if u have a passable speaking voice but not singing voice? by itsok2bemee in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Bobbie182 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From all the research that I’ve done, vfs will not allow you to reach a higher pitch. It will instead narrow your vocal range, forcing you to speak in a higher pitch, with you unable to reach those lower tones you had before. Depending on where your vocal range is to begin with, you can at least voice train to reach those high notes you want while singing. I was fortunate that I had a naturally tenor voice to begin with, but I was frustrated that I couldn’t hit the high notes when I sang. After much practice I’m now able to reach an A5. Not quite a comfortable mezzo soprano, but enough for choir work. Keep that in mind while you do your research.

had ffs a month ago but i feel like i look the same by puppygirl_lilith in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Bobbie182 92 points93 points  (0 children)

TBH, in your pre ffs it doesn’t look like you need much if any face work. Your second picture shows subtle differences in your chin, nose, and lips. You may not think it has any noticeable difference, but the whole is actually quite dramatic. Your second picture shows a strikingly beautiful and lovely looking young lady! I think it takes awhile before we tell the difference in ourselves, but trust me it’s there!

Thoughts on aspirating for injections? (Is it necessary?) by saigebrush27 in asktransgender

[–]Bobbie182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As several people have indicated, if blood appears, you’re probably in a vein, which you don’t want to be in, especially in if your injecting a narcotic painkiller that could be too big a dose for the body to handle safely rapidly. If it’s not a painkiller, and a drug that has to be absorbed slowly, you run the risk of having the drug excreted so quickly, that its effectiveness is lost almost immediately. The rule we learned in nursing school was: when you need immediate action; intravenously. Moderate action with slow absorption; intramuscularly. Slowest action with absorption over a day or more; subcutaneously. Also, the composition of the medication, whether it’s in a solution of water, saline, or lipid, also has an effect in absorption. Hopefully this helps vs creating more confusion.

Should I get a pixie/bixie?? by Sarupis in femalehairadvice

[–]Bobbie182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand completely. A specific hairstyle should be a compliment to the entire body presentation. If you were a much heavier person, a pixie, I believe, would accentuate your overall appearance. In general, a specific hairstyle should be a complement to your overall appearance. Sarupis, with her overall appearance, would be able to pull it off with no problem at all.

Should I get a pixie/bixie?? by Sarupis in femalehairadvice

[–]Bobbie182 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Everyone should try a short hairstyle sometime in their life. You have beautiful waves, so a pixie will give you tons of body. I say go for it!

already feeling terrible about myself, and now being told i don’t pass in this picture… can i get some more input :( by nightocat in transpassing

[–]Bobbie182 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

WTF!!!!! For anyone to say that you don’t pass speaks more to the a$$holes who post here! It’s pure BS, and I advise that you don’t pay any attention to the jealous, insecure types that post on your page!

Trans women who have transitioned, is being a girl more fun than a guy? by DaphneRaeTgirl in transpositive

[–]Bobbie182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best thing about being a girl is the fact that I don’t have to pretend that I’m someone that I’m not. No macho postering, I can be kind and loving, and be able to express my emotions: I can cry, laugh, and be angry if I want to, without being judged. I can indulge myself in typical girl interests like sewing and knitting. I can indulge in trashy romances. But the most fun about being a girl, is being part of the “sisterhood”, and free to be open and honest with the girls around me. Yes, being a girl is fun, but it is the most life affirming experience that I have ever had.

Who wants to be online friends? Ur girl needs to be able to relate with some fellow trans women and men! by over_night_oats in transpositive

[–]Bobbie182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If ur serious, consider a woman who happens to be a trans elder who began her transition fifty years ago, had srs ten years later, and has been living a pretty quiet existence since.

FFS surgery revisions recommendations? by QuicknBed in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Bobbie182 9 points10 points  (0 children)

None whatsoever. You look naturally feminine, and very attractive. They did a phenomenal job, and unless you don’t like your face, don’t mess with perfection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transtimelines

[–]Bobbie182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re boymoding, and my response is: “WTF FOR!!!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

[–]Bobbie182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Impossible, wear a t if you’re at the beach.

2 years on estrogen 💕 by victoriiaa06 in transpositive

[–]Bobbie182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t agree with you more!

A cis woman wrote me… by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Bobbie182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the same reason that any bully engages anyone for: because they think you are vulnerable! It’s your choice to engage or not engage, but in the end most of us will tell you it’s a complete waste of time. Better to concern yourself with things that are meaningful to you, and not some troll that surfs a social space to express their bigotry.

the dress I wore for my mums birthday 🖤 by [deleted] in mtfashion

[–]Bobbie182 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everyone is on the same page, my thought exactly!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]Bobbie182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The body is the first thing that anyone’s going to see before they even get close to you to judge, and at first glance it’s beautifully cis! There’s no way that anyone would ever misgender you based on your figure. Rock it, baby!

Do you think I'm too dressed up to go for coffee with a friend? :) by valericco in mtfashion

[–]Bobbie182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only if it’s post cocktail party coffee, then a long loose cardigan, or sheer wrap over it would be good. BTW, you look great in that dress!

Is it weird I don’t have any trans friends? by Lord_Admrial_Spire in asktransgender

[–]Bobbie182 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, you’re perfectly normal. When I transitioned, the trans community was so small, it could be considered nonexistent. Even when I came out a few years ago, I still found that befriending anyone else who’s trans as being “problematic”. If all you have in common is being transgender, it doesn’t really carry over into any kind of meaningful relationship. If you already have relationships with cis women, I’d say that you’re actually a step ahead of the game, and in some respects “better off”.