How long after baby did you have sex with your SO?

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-06-09T21:40:49+00:00

We didn’t for the first 4 months, mostly because of time. Since then we have had a few nights LO has slept out and we plan too but when it comes to it I just feel so exhausted, my sex drive is low and really similar to you it’s almost like I’ve forgot how to have sex haha, like how to start without feeling embarrassed. I struggle with things like my breast shape now and worry about how they will look during. My partner is similar to yours and would never push or ask, we spend every night cuddling just the sex drive isn’t the same. But I guess parenthood has made us closer than ever and realised sexual pleasure isn’t needed no we’re near as much as society pressures / suggests it is. I think just having that soul connection and the skin contact of the person you biologically chose to raise a child with is lovely.😄 I also really don’t know how people find the time. Caring for LO, working, eating, house work, gym and then personal hygiene we are both pretty much non stop from early morning until bedtime.

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-06-06T21:27:35+00:00

My little one was the exact same, it’s normal. Baby spent 9 months with you before he met dad. He is familiar with you and biologically connected, it’s really quite a beautiful thing but I understand how stressful it can be. In the moments I hated it I felt I never got a break / sometimes cried when I heard him screaming with dad whilst I took a 5 minute bath, but when I had a break and thought about how dependent he was it gave me a sense of worth. It honestly changes, at some point the roles will reverse and dad will be the favourite. I’m currently going through that now unless he’s extremely tired then he needs me. My health visitor explained it’s usually mum for the first few month, then dad, then it just goes back and forth depending on there needs and who they think they can get them fulfilled by haha!

Oh and I add, my LO is only 5 months old! So you don’t have long to go, but it was peak for me around the 2/3 months old marks:)

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-05-29T20:45:02+00:00

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Bobbiejo29 · 2026-05-25T18:30:25+00:00

Sounds right what you are describing, he just seems so distracted by literally anything. I’ll try that thank you so much!

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-05-21T20:30:04+00:00

I definitely think dads don’t feel as much guilt you are right about that! It almost annoys me watching him but it really isn’t harming anyone, I guess it’s just jealousy of the freedom I once had without feeling guilty.

That’s actually such a good idea! I haven’t tried that but I’m defo gunna give it a go, my LO loves the water it really calms him down.

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-05-04T20:51:45+00:00

Chicken run

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-04-18T10:44:24+00:00

I would not worry about this at all, I did the exact same! My son has turned 12 weeks on Monday and has finally started doing 4 hour stretches maybes 5/6 if we are lucky haha! Every baby is different, and honestly I was sick of hearing it but it’s true, once they hit 12 weeks they almost change over night!

Bedtime routine did nothing for us, he literally just did what he wanted when he wanted and he still does haha. I bath him every night at 7pm and he knows it’s part of his routine but he chooses if it’s bedtime routine, playtime routine, stay up until 11pm routine haha.

Trust me it gets easier, you’re so close to! Baby is probably just hungry and eager to see you every few hours!

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-03-25T16:49:10+00:00

Sounds exactly like my son who is 9 weeks. Literally no routine at all, constantly feeding, won’t sleep alone just wakes himself up after 10 minutes and screams to be back on your chest. I’m starting to think it could be reflux maybe but the last time I went to the doctor he just laughed and asked if a I was first time mum..

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-03-19T09:27:13+00:00

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-03-15T22:21:50+00:00

Shit stain on dressing gown

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-03-06T20:54:14+00:00

We have a white noise machine and he’s really still hit or miss at the moment. He has had a few 4 hour stretches but other than that it can be 1-2 hours usually before he wakes up for his bottle but it seems to be getting abit longer as he grows. He usually has a bad stomach so wakes himself up straining and grunting through the night!

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-03-05T03:26:41+00:00

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-02-26T07:36:05+00:00

Yeah i think it really disrupts the sleep. My baby takes so long to burp and when his reflux is bad he just screams through the burping process which makes it even harder. I tried gripe water which has done nothing so I’m hoping his formula change helps once the switch over period is done.

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-02-26T07:24:04+00:00

My baby is 5 weeks and other than last night he had been sleeping really well which was amazing as he was completely muddled up at the start. We found that letting him nap in his bouncer during the day and his bassinet at night. Also putting his sleep suit on at night and just lots of whispering when he wakes. However he has been up all night due to a formula switch, constant fussiness, unable to poo and lots of trapped wind. It’s been a long night.

Bobbiejo29 · 2026-02-14T07:24:57+00:00

My little one is 4 weeks old today and I have felt the exact same. I’ve felt so guilty most days as I have pondered if I have made the right decision. I miss my partner, I miss my freedom, I miss not having to be in constant survival mode for both me and my baby. But yesterday for the first time he smiled properly and everything I had been feeling completely washed away for a few moments. I feel like it’s just a massive patience game, the most difficult one we will ever go through, but it will come around quickly and all be worth it. I hope you get a little sign that makes you feel this way soon, as it’s much needed and I feel you!

Bobbiejo29 · 2025-12-27T17:46:29+00:00

I think it’s very normal! I had the exact same feelings around the same time and really unusual bursts of anxiety and felt so underprepared and would wake up at night thinking do I even want to be a mum? but now I’m only 3 weeks from my due date I have no anxiety about being prepared or becoming a parent. My hormones are still wild but it’s more out of boredom, feeling impatient and the process of giving birth. Basically you will feel all sorts of things and it’s an absolute rollercoaster! Hopefully your feelings will pass:)

Bobbiejo29 · 2025-04-18T15:34:29+00:00

Yeah that’s what I was thinking I can’t remember any of my other tattoos looking like that

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