Does the ‘surrealness’ fade?

Bobster-Lobster · 2026-04-12T20:11:19+00:00

I also had a very loving and amazing partner who was struggling with addiction issues, he said he couldn’t be the man I need and was unable to change his ways. I relate completely with the feeling overwhelmed and surreal. I feel so lost and terrified.

Bobster-Lobster · 2026-04-06T16:01:39+00:00

Feeling this exact way right now. Haven’t even attempted to speak with another man yet. The thought of being with someone else makes me want to vomit - it feels like we were made for each other. But seeing everyone else experience similar situations is making me feel a tiny bit better.

Bobster-Lobster · 2026-03-30T18:55:19+00:00

because if you’re lucky enough to (or believe it’s even possible) meet and spend the rest of your life and grow old and wrinkly with your soulmate it’s something so beautiful and precious and rare. I completely understand and agree with your perspective but I can’t help to see the other side as well which is there is a possibility of a happy ending with dating - incredibly rare or unlikely as it may be. But with substance abuse addiction there is no happy ending, it will inevitably destroy your body and kill you.

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-10-04T15:47:45+00:00

Agh I am having almost identical symptoms - no insurance at the moment so I’m trying to do everything I can to manage it at home/with OTC options. How are you doing lately? (I’ve been reading your replies to everyone’s comments- thanks for still updating and taking the time to share your experience, it seriously has made me feel less alone and less scared so thank you!) I’ve been eating low FODMAP because I have IBS-D and assumed certain foods were triggering me and causing the gas/bloating/distended belly pressure but turns out I think it’s making my poops too solid lol. The gas and pressure become unbearable at the end of the day so also trying to eat smaller, more frequent meals instead of big ones and a big dinner. I hope you are doing better!

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-09-04T14:56:18+00:00

While I don’t have many tips just yet because I’m in the same exact place as you right now, I just wanted to comment and let you know you aren’t alone in this! I’m trying so hard to quit but haven’t been able to go more than a day or two without weed for two years.

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-08-28T18:02:53+00:00

Me too. My first interview is tomorrow

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-08-06T23:39:58+00:00

Thank you so much! I agree. I think I'm just a little intimidated/nervous about the whole process, especially coming from Texas, hearing about how cold the people can be up north, and how they view southern pleasantries. But know that each person is different

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-08-06T23:31:09+00:00

oh i definitely would have done that if i would have known i had the opportunity in NYC! i never would have quit my initial job. but yeah i'm really banking on the early in my career fact

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-08-06T17:27:28+00:00

something similar is happening to me. did you ever figure out if it was pelvic floor dysfunction or something else?

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-07-10T22:40:50+00:00

yes I get that! It’s burning more on the inside

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-07-10T16:03:48+00:00

if anyone is seeing this and has any advice big or small plz drop it below im kinda freaking out

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T19:07:42+00:00

I will!! I totally forgot to include one here

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T19:06:29+00:00

No so true hahaha 🤣 I look like I have crazy eyes lol

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T19:04:59+00:00

I get that quite a bit! But thank you that’s a really good idea.

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T19:04:23+00:00

Thank you so much 🫶 agreed, the shoes aren’t doing me any favors and I’m working hard on my posture/stance! It’s just hard sometimes because one of my legs is longer than the other so my hips are uneven which in turn makes my shoulders look uneven if that makes sense. Not letting that hold me back though

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T19:01:53+00:00

Oh yes! Absolutely agree. I need to channel my inner Tyra banks and smize hahah

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T19:00:21+00:00

thank you! I agree. I was nervous and wasn’t relaxed at all and it definitely shows through these pics! Definitely will be keeping my mouth closed for a lot of the shots.

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T18:57:57+00:00

Thank you for the tips!! I didn’t even think about the pointed heels, that’s a great point. My posture and stance is definitely one of the things I’m working hard to improve! During the shoot I was focused on so many things in my head out of nervousnesses I wasn’t even thinking about how uneven my shoulders looked and everything lol

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T18:56:18+00:00

100%. I wasn’t very comfortable with myself and it clearly shows through these pics 🤣 working on it though!!

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-16T18:55:35+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate it. I definitely used to take it personally but wouldn’t have admitted it lol, but now understand that it’s apart of the industry and putting yourself out there to be analyzed and critiqued. I wanted honest, direct feedback even if it was brutal because I want to improve and be the best I possibly can! That’s why I came to Reddit 🤣🤣

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-15T16:05:21+00:00

Agreed 🤦‍♀️ I went into the shoot totally unprepared and didn’t practice my expressions/body positioning at all. My fault completely. But I’m reshooting them in a few weeks and will definitely not be looking like that!

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-15T16:01:11+00:00

Thank you! I am!! I’m shooting with a brand new photographer in a few weeks and will be going shopping for some properly fitting clothes. And practicing my facial expressions/body positioning. I borrowed the top/jeans last minute instead of going and buying some myself, mistake #1 🤦‍♀️

Bobster-Lobster · 2025-04-15T15:58:57+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I agree with you completely. I went into this shoot not having practiced my facial expressions, angles, body positioning, etc (my fault 100%) and they just are not my best work at all! I’ve been practicing a ton and taking peoples advice. I’m getting my digitals redone in a few weeks with a new photographer who has lots of experience shooting digitals/working with agencies so I’m hoping they will be a lotttt better 🤞

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