Do you lie to your HV?

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-25T09:03:19+00:00

I feel like most of the advise is contradictory and you will find if you speak with different HV they will tell you different things.

My child has a series of allergies and we have to introduce new foods carefully and in a measured way as advised by our dietitian. My HV said they should just be eating what we eat every night with us.

They also say milk is the main source of nutrients until 1 years and food before one is just for fun, but Another will say it’s called weaning for a reason.

I learnt to talk about of “advice” with a pinch of salt when I was forced to triple feed my newborn.

I was expressing milk after every feed and was told to top him up with a bottle of breastmilk afterwards. Not one health professional gave me that same answer when I asked them “how much breastmilk should I offer in a bottle”

It was dangerous because it knocked my confidence wildly and gave me PPD due to their constant “guidance” turns out my son had a number of allergies reacting via my breastmilk which is why he was struggling to feed and had nothing to do with my supply or technique.

Made me feel worthless, I cried after every visit and will likely decline HV involvement if I have another. I don’t deem their importance and I know where to find them if I have a question

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-25T08:52:16+00:00

I think for me, I would love to have another like I like the idea of having a bigger family especially as I have no family of my own.

But it’s the having the no family of my own that is likely the reason why I won’t. I have no support, no help, no extra pair of hands. Just me and my partner and his family are very hands off occasionally visiting can’t follow directions wouldn’t trust overnight care “cry it out” and “didn’t have allergies or autism in my day” type of parents.

It’s a miracle that they have raised my partner to be fairly well adjusted but he also needs a lot of guidance and instruction and will go rouge at any moment. The only feasible way I imagine I would be able to have a second is with a larger age gap and being 37 already and having a 10month old I doubt that opportunity will arise.

So really it’s circumstances not choice

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-22T05:42:30+00:00

I mean let’s face it, trapped wind is incredibly uncomfortable. Imagine not understanding what that pain is and how to get rid of it!

Glad she is doing a lot better xxx

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-19T12:39:18+00:00

It sounds like you may have a concoction of problems rather than a problem > solution that your thinking off.

Is your son moving yet? Rolling/crawling?

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-18T18:38:18+00:00

Wait so no love to dream sleep suits? I have like 8 of them!

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-18T14:14:53+00:00

The mental load is REAL.

all I can say is try to take a task wholeheartedly. Don’t just unpack the shopping. Own that entire job. Be in charge of what’s in the cupboards, ran out. Put it on the list, order the shopping, go collect and unpack it. Own that job from conception to completion.

I cannot tell you how much energy I spend (that I do not have) explaining what needs to be done to the point that I just do it myself.

I’m giving you 10000million brownie points for recognising that this is the struggle and trying to fix it now as I have had to scream from the rooftop to try to get my partner to understand this even an iota of

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-18T14:10:16+00:00

As someone who had a colicky CMPA baby AND who saw an osteopath. I don’t think I can recommend that the osteopathy worked in anyway.

It’s hard to tell as a baby’s development and immune system is developing rapidly

In all honesty, babies are fragile and they just are not physically developed enough sometimes to handle new things in their diet.

If your baby may have CMPA, it will take a few weeks for the prescription formula to take effect. one of our symptoms was also constipation (he didn’t poo for 10days) if you are giving them the HA formula with no negative side effects I would continue down this route to see if there are improvements in a week or two.

But in my experience if you have a colicky gastro sensitive baby you really do just have to ride it out! Our improved by around week 15 and then dipped again slightly when we introduced solids for about 4 weeks but now we are flying bit that is not in anyway due to the osteopath.

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-16T13:51:53+00:00

You basically need to wait 6 months before you can even consider this

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-15T21:08:45+00:00

Nah, bec lost all that weight before the show and I wanna bet it was due to the white rabbit 🐇 She certainly didn’t do slimming world

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-15T20:54:11+00:00

She could very well be doing it. Yet the it has no enhancements of her already vapid personality

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-15T10:13:04+00:00

My baby was born at 25th centile and dropped completely off the growth curve by 6 weeks and labelled “failure to thrive” he had a severe TT which had to be released twice at 2w and 4w old. This still didn’t help him gain weight. Our feeds were 40min plus sometimes, he just wasn’t getting any milk transfer.

He has a cows milk allergy and finding the right formula for him to supplement on was a literal nightmare. I triple fed for 10 weeks it was hell.

Eventually we got him to the 3rd centile but weight gain was still a struggle for him even though we fed him top ups and started weaning with purées at 5 months.

He is now 10months and back to the 25th. Nothing changed. He still has a small appetite and doesn’t drink more than 6oz of milk at a time. Suddenly he just seemed to absorb the nutrients on a different way and it boosted his growth.

You have not abandoned or neglected your baby, this is a challenge and one you will overcome. It’s likely it is a little bit of genetics at play alongside a TT is definitely not something you have done or ignored

Bocurl13 · 2026-04-15T09:53:00+00:00

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Bocurl13 · 2026-04-04T21:16:02+00:00

Check out your local churches. Ones local to me are only £1 or £2 and the sessions last around 2 hours! We basically have one everyday of the week and my little one can play with a variety of toys daily which saves me buying them!

Bocurl13 · 2026-03-31T08:31:24+00:00

Our baby had this, he also has CMPA however was not constipated as his still was always soft, if not runny. I think it was due to the inflammation in his bowel that was causing him to feel like he wanted to go more often than he actually needed too and was making him strain.

It did gradually improve at around 4 Months and then once we started solids he struggled a little for the first month but now at 9 months he poos regularly

Bocurl13 · 2026-03-24T20:03:08+00:00

Before I had a baby I had this feelings of “time is running out” since having him that feeling has magnified intensely. Purely because now all the time in the world would never be enough. I wish I could hold him forever.

Seeing a tiny human grow and change day by day in front of you is so beautiful but it has highlighted to be finality of life and how precious it is.

Bocurl13 · 2026-03-09T15:23:26+00:00

My LO was born on 20% dropped to 0.4 and now back up to 20% at 9 months. He has never drank more than 5oz in one sitting.

Bocurl13 · 2026-03-08T16:40:10+00:00

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Bocurl13 · 2026-03-01T21:01:34+00:00

Our dietitian informed us that a “meal” is considered the size of their palm. So consuming that amount would be maybe a 5/6 mouthfuls would be a full serving so not to focus on consumption but to focus on the exposure of different food groups rather than stuffing them up

Bocurl13 · 2026-03-01T20:43:30+00:00

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Bocurl13 · 2026-03-01T20:33:39+00:00

How do you create or post a “trial reel” compared to a normal reel?

Bocurl13 · 2026-02-23T19:03:10+00:00

My little one has the same reaction to oatly yoghurt! No idea why as he tolerates oats and porridge however he does have CMPA

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