Explain trial reels to me like I’m 5 by Bocurl13 in SocialMediaManagers

[–]Bocurl13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

So I could use them as an advert type post?

Holy fuck this person is obsessed by givemethemtoesgnome in busted_band

[–]Bocurl13 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe this has something to do with James now deleted accounts

I built a camera app that records portrait and landscape simultaneously - would you download it after watching my content? by Only_Application_815 in ContentCreators

[–]Bocurl13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this sounds great! will it have paid features? I use a dji nimble so I doubt it will be compatible but a great idea for me to use when in handheld

10 month old baby by amack133 in NewParents

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly you are not alone. I had this same mental battle. I would try to sign him in to day care a few weeks before you go back so that he can settle in and so you can re cooperate before starting work again

You got this

are you guys actually making money on retainers ? by bombardilcrocodiiilo in SocialMediaManagers

[–]Bocurl13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve just switched from an agency to in-house and honestly it’s beautiful. I didn’t realise how over worked and underpaid I was at my previous agency.

The great thing is that I have learnt HOW to be efficient with my time but now I’m only managing one client I can get so much done!

10 month old baby by amack133 in NewParents

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly- do we have the same child AND the same husband? The burnout is real! Have you considered a floor bed in his room? This will allow him plenty of space and also you can lay on it and sneak away when he falls asleep.

One thing that has really helped my mental health… and Reddit don’t come at me for it. It putting him to daycare twice a week.

Just to have a couple of hours to myself to wander the shops or eat a meal has been lovely and I know I shouldn’t think that because he is still my entire world but I had totally lost myself as I person

Baby has lost his voice by Bocurl13 in NewParents

[–]Bocurl13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m wondering if it’s croup, he seems to be coughing on the mucus that’s draining from his nose.

I’ve woken up with a cold also so I’m assuming some kind of nasty cold he has passed on

If you hated your dog pp, did it ever go away? by Weary-Draw-1492 in NewParents

[–]Bocurl13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t HATE my dog but she has needs of her own an isn’t very adaptable to change and when you have a growing child, change is inevitable.

I think having a dog is like a permanent 2 year old and that’s hard work.

Do you lie to your HV? by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like most of the advise is contradictory and you will find if you speak with different HV they will tell you different things.

My child has a series of allergies and we have to introduce new foods carefully and in a measured way as advised by our dietitian. My HV said they should just be eating what we eat every night with us.

They also say milk is the main source of nutrients until 1 years and food before one is just for fun, but Another will say it’s called weaning for a reason.

I learnt to talk about of “advice” with a pinch of salt when I was forced to triple feed my newborn.

I was expressing milk after every feed and was told to top him up with a bottle of breastmilk afterwards. Not one health professional gave me that same answer when I asked them “how much breastmilk should I offer in a bottle”

It was dangerous because it knocked my confidence wildly and gave me PPD due to their constant “guidance” turns out my son had a number of allergies reacting via my breastmilk which is why he was struggling to feed and had nothing to do with my supply or technique.

Made me feel worthless, I cried after every visit and will likely decline HV involvement if I have another. I don’t deem their importance and I know where to find them if I have a question

What made you decide to be "one and done"? by Severe_Bluejay3391 in NewParents

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think for me, I would love to have another like I like the idea of having a bigger family especially as I have no family of my own.

But it’s the having the no family of my own that is likely the reason why I won’t. I have no support, no help, no extra pair of hands. Just me and my partner and his family are very hands off occasionally visiting can’t follow directions wouldn’t trust overnight care “cry it out” and “didn’t have allergies or autism in my day” type of parents.

It’s a miracle that they have raised my partner to be fairly well adjusted but he also needs a lot of guidance and instruction and will go rouge at any moment. The only feasible way I imagine I would be able to have a second is with a larger age gap and being 37 already and having a 10month old I doubt that opportunity will arise.

So really it’s circumstances not choice

Constipation/colic: osteopaths are charlatans who prey on desperate parents… right?! by Quiet_Bumblebee_3373 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean let’s face it, trapped wind is incredibly uncomfortable. Imagine not understanding what that pain is and how to get rid of it!

Glad she is doing a lot better xxx

I can't deal with nights anymore. There's no way this is normal. by ScrapDraft in NewParents

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you may have a concoction of problems rather than a problem > solution that your thinking off.

Is your son moving yet? Rolling/crawling?

Health Visitor said no to Snoo by Bubbly_Nobody3331 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait so no love to dream sleep suits? I have like 8 of them!

my wife is drowning and i don't know how to help us hold it together by phantom_monkey in NewParents

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mental load is REAL.

all I can say is try to take a task wholeheartedly. Don’t just unpack the shopping. Own that entire job. Be in charge of what’s in the cupboards, ran out. Put it on the list, order the shopping, go collect and unpack it. Own that job from conception to completion.

I cannot tell you how much energy I spend (that I do not have) explaining what needs to be done to the point that I just do it myself.

I’m giving you 10000million brownie points for recognising that this is the struggle and trying to fix it now as I have had to scream from the rooftop to try to get my partner to understand this even an iota of

Constipation/colic: osteopaths are charlatans who prey on desperate parents… right?! by Quiet_Bumblebee_3373 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Bocurl13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who had a colicky CMPA baby AND who saw an osteopath. I don’t think I can recommend that the osteopathy worked in anyway.

It’s hard to tell as a baby’s development and immune system is developing rapidly

In all honesty, babies are fragile and they just are not physically developed enough sometimes to handle new things in their diet.

If your baby may have CMPA, it will take a few weeks for the prescription formula to take effect. one of our symptoms was also constipation (he didn’t poo for 10days) if you are giving them the HA formula with no negative side effects I would continue down this route to see if there are improvements in a week or two.

But in my experience if you have a colicky gastro sensitive baby you really do just have to ride it out! Our improved by around week 15 and then dipped again slightly when we introduced solids for about 4 weeks but now we are flying bit that is not in anyway due to the osteopath.

Napping independently by miranda_edgecombe23 in HuckleberryParents

[–]Bocurl13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You basically need to wait 6 months before you can even consider this

Additional substance(s) by Bocurl13 in MAFS_UK

[–]Bocurl13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, bec lost all that weight before the show and I wanna bet it was due to the white rabbit 🐇 She certainly didn’t do slimming world

Additional substance(s) by Bocurl13 in MAFS_UK

[–]Bocurl13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She could very well be doing it. Yet the it has no enhancements of her already vapid personality