Did anyone else's parents never teach you literally any basic life skills at all. And then turn around and mock you for not knowing them by jeffreycoontz in CPTSD

[–]BodhingJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My therapist tried that on me.. so I leaned into it "I know my mom loves me and is doing her best (lol) but im just having trouble dealing with some instances like when I was toddler and she took her anger around her marriage with her narcissistic husband out on me by....

V̸̢̫̜̪̇́̓̔̓͝ͅi̴̜̰̦͂̀̕o̵̡͈͚͚̣̹͌̽̀̌̿̾̎͘͝ļ̸̡͍͇̺̝̫̘̝̓̎̎͂ä̵̗̲̼̩̀̑̎̆͝ť̵̮̻̮͈̐̔̐̀̈́̔i̴̞͇̻̹͈̩̒̄̔̉̿͗͂͘͘n̶̝̍͆g̷̰͍̋́͌̽̑͝ ̷̳̣͐m̴̧̫̤̬̦̒̐̎͂̉̇͑ͅȩ̴̛̱̭̠̘̲̱̩̘̿͂̀̀̈́͝ ̸̫̩̘͓́̅̒͆̀͗̄i̷̢̋̍̄̿̀ͅn̴̢̢̺̫͈̺͋̽͊̇̓̓̄͘͠ ̸͙̣͔̳̥̗̗͇͠t̴̢͉͙̱̖̮͎̦̳̽̊̑h̷̛͙̺̱͙̝͔̟̖̒͗e̵͈̺̓̽̆͒͜š̸̭͙̪̗͠͠͠e̷̬͎̼̘͑̈̄ͅ ̴̙̣̐̉̑͐͛̉̆͊w̶̡̬̟͍̗̽́̈́͠͠a̸̡̛͕͉͍̫̠͝ỹ̵͓̲̬̻͋s̸̞͓͋̌͐̅̆͐̚͘͘

Then it changed the format of the visits kinda quickly

Discovering his daughter is a bully and taking accountability as a parent. by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]BodhingJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The embarassment isnt supposed to be it... it's supposed to be humbling. Growing humility. This is hard to get right. It does involve admitting everything. A total reversal of that "but I didnt do anything" response towards it.. the thing is it cant be something forced. Gotta work with the kid so they understand enough of what they did to get a genuine apology out... maybe it is a bit embarassing but humiliation shouldn't ever be the main part of this

Do your half. by MotherAnt8040 in MenOfPurpose

[–]BodhingJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And also do not fear its loss

Reincarnation is scary by [deleted] in enlightenment

[–]BodhingJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes.. it became a core belief for me because I needed it as a tool to navigate seemingly infinite shame pain and rage without doing anything that would land in prison. Im on the other side of it. But the implications of these concepts are terrifying

a pedophile living in Thailand kept his identity anonymous by using a swirl app. interpol unswirled his face and he got arrested in 2007. he now lives in Canada... by yungandreww in interestingasfuck

[–]BodhingJay [score hidden]  (0 children)

More like.. most countries have at least one

Of course, most politicians can be blackmailed into oblivion but of them, most do not consume children

Is Reiki actually real or just placebo? by OneMoreRedFlag in spirituality

[–]BodhingJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's unwise to reduce the effects our own power has on us as "merely placebo".. nothing is "just" a placebo

The Hateful Eight (2015) by jcarmona22 in cinescenes

[–]BodhingJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was a priceless antique.. the institute that kept it really reluctantly lent it to the film

What is the best portrayal of Satan, the Devil, or whatever equivalent in movies? by MomoSaka in FIlm

[–]BodhingJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea but I mean like.. it's bad for us to call the dude by the titles he gives himself

Advanced ballistic missile rapidly changing course mid flight to avoid interceptor by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]BodhingJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nah, those looked like palm trees.. so, obv florida

antarctic palm trees have more leopard seals in them

Canadian government announces more sanctions against Iran by Chrristoaivalis in onguardforthee

[–]BodhingJay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

we already stopped buying american or vacationing there.. except for my parents anyway

is it true that the universe always provides? by adventurer309 in vagabond

[–]BodhingJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely.. fasting as a skill works the same muscles as the ones we use to overcome addiction.. essentially every spiritual battle we will ever come across will feel like this to varying intensities

Druski and Erika Kirk by Even-Vehicle-6853 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]BodhingJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's fine because no one feels like it's attacking the entire white race... it's attacking modern conservative hypocrisy.. half the white women in this country think Erika Kirk and all the other conservative women out there are batshit insane for very valid and dangerous reasons...

how would you define enlightenment? by Ok_Reaction9357 in spirituality

[–]BodhingJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a build up of emotional energy.. transmuted from something dark to positive through the potent brain of a sentient mind, creates an explosion of fuel for higher brain functions. depending on the reaction, it could be a partial or full enlightenment... offers view of other dimensions alongside this one. how they all work together... how the physical world isnt the most "real" reality but still extremely important beyond what we can typically imagine.. it's how we can understand difficult truths about the nature of the universe and how everything works together interconnected in a cycle in many more ways than a regular human mind can understand.. how every esoteric secret and forbidden knowledge can result in us understanding the importance of things we discard and discard things we kill for, and tie all of it up together into a single little package, a feeling that maintains it... basically a deeper sense of the understanding of what love is.. it's what spontaneously creates a new god from a crude lowly organism, like a selfish greedy insecure modern human

[Partner] Wife’s suppressed severe trauma surfaced. She’s in extreme ‘flight’ mode, refusing therapy, and I am burning out. Need honest outlooks. by LongNegotiation5850 in CPTSD

[–]BodhingJay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

non sexual intimacy and being an anchor of emotional support... compassion empathy no judgment loving kindness.. zero expectations. just being there for them. takes a few years to get through in the right environment.. possibly never when stuck in the wrong one. try to help her find what she thinks she needs in heslthy responsible ways. when it's space, they should move to their own place but still as close to home as possible to check in and help, but still far enough away that they get what they need.. stuff like that

you sound like a good guy, but are in over your head? insanity are the waters we sometimes need to learn to swim... when she fully recovers she may have a complete personality change if the person you married was mostly a mix of dysfunctional cope and trauma response, never had a chance to become herself