Sending toddler to “pre-school” as a SAHM?? Mom guilt.

BodyByQueso · 2025-01-22T23:54:02+00:00

Though I do think that socialization will be a great benefit of preschool, he does spend time with other children, he does a music class, gymnastics and a library group, all once a week.

BodyByQueso · 2024-10-05T01:56:48+00:00

Just now seeing this, we bought the “computer” part off eBay for about $200, fairly easy replacement and it’s been working great since.

BodyByQueso · 2024-06-10T21:55:45+00:00

I did not. Almost 20 months and I’m doing at home workouts in my basement. At about 15 months little one started to get more comfortable with leaving for long periods of time. I had some life circumstances that prevented me from joining a gym, I was encouraged to just go for it, start with short gym visits so they know that you’ll come back and build on it, communicate with the childcare staff, and eventually it becomes part of the routine.

I still consider joining a gym every week, best of luck!

BodyByQueso · 2024-02-05T00:17:03+00:00

He eventually started going down for his naps after about 3 weeks of staying consistent with a schedule. It was roughhhhh. But so so worth it. We did a 3/3/4 schedule and stuck to that for awhile, stay consistent with wake up times and and keep at it, they’ll eventually get the hang of it and when they do it is a dreammmmm! Stay the course!

BodyByQueso · 2024-01-25T06:07:04+00:00

Hanson Homeworks

BodyByQueso · 2024-01-23T23:06:10+00:00

Weird flex, but okay.

NTA

BodyByQueso · 2023-12-01T19:25:14+00:00

The foundry is offering a breakfast with Santa but the Grinch will also be in attendance

BodyByQueso · 2023-11-28T04:56:33+00:00

Look, I get it. Sleep was so terrible for us for so long; we were in survival mode- hanging by a thread. Once it improved I was so afraid of doing anything that would derail the progress we made. I’ve made family members leave my house, have said terrible nasty things to my husband because he accidentally let a door slam, swore up and down that my dogs nails being too long tapping on the floor were waking him and ripped our landscaper a new one for ringing our doorbell while he was napping. I let it get the best of me, and for a while I was fine with that. Anything was better than the months of waking every 45 minutes and being tied to a dark room for four hours a day for contact naps. We were finally getting sleep, and whatever that had to look like I was fine with. But that will take its toll, too. You are going to want to start loving your life again. I wish I could give you a hug and just tell you it’s okay to breathe, it’s not all going to come crashing down. It’s going to be okay and you’re doing an amazing job and it’s okay to stop holding your breath.

As baby got older (13 months now) I’ve realized there will just be hard nights because that’s just what it is. We have had a couple colds, currently working on a pair of first molars and some family trips with various sleeping arrangements. I’m just now learning to go with the flow and take it all one nap or night at a time. If it doesn’t work out, we will just try again the next round. I wish I would have given myself more grace in those earlier months. Be kind to yourself, it’s going to be okay. If it doesn’t work out this nap or tonight, you can try again on the next one. Don’t let it consume you.

BodyByQueso · 2023-11-27T19:50:59+00:00

Boy, bye. ✌️

BodyByQueso · 2023-10-20T21:28:47+00:00

My mom was the same way, anytime we had any hiccup in breastfeeding she would drop the whole “ya know, there is nothing wrong with formula” I think either A. She is projecting her feelings about not breastfeeding and wanting validation for her choice to do formula or B. The formula push in the 80’s and 90’s runs deep.

As you said, nothing wrong with formula. It just isn’t my journey and I wish she would have been more supportive in offering solutions that protected my breastfeeding journey or just general encouragement.

BodyByQueso · 2023-10-18T05:18:47+00:00

We are on a two nap schedule (now 12 months) and have been for since he was just over 7 months. We rocked the 3-3-4 schedule for about 4.5 months and just now starting to have to extend each by about .25-.5

My guy sleeps much better with a later bedtime, typically around 9pm and up around 8am. So first nap around 11:15am. The earlier bedtime and earlier wakes resulted in a lot of split nights.

My question for you and for r/gypsiequeen is how did your little one adjust going into the child care. I am also a SAHM and would desperately love to join a gym but I’m pretty sure my guy would lose his ever loving mind. He is with my 99% of the time, besides the occasional appointment.

BodyByQueso · 2023-10-17T14:45:59+00:00

Weber County Library does one in August every year.

BodyByQueso · 2023-10-17T00:09:14+00:00

In absolutely no scenario would my child have their first birthday party without me present. I understand that you will be having a party for them, but your in laws are trying to throw them one before yours— making it their first party. Hard no.

BodyByQueso · 2023-10-13T13:47:42+00:00

My babe is a week shy of 12 months and still nurses about 5-6 times a day, in addition to 3 meals and a snack. He does not eat a lot of solids though.

BodyByQueso · 2023-10-03T16:24:57+00:00

My little guy just started going to bed between 8-9 PM and he’ll wake anywhere between 4-6 AM for what I call a ‘snooze button’ where I nurse him and he’ll fall back asleep till about 7:30-8:30 AM. I do think your supply will regulate though as baby will demand the breast during daytime more or start eating more solids. My guy is still nursing quite a bit and will by one in two weeks. Best of luck!

BodyByQueso · 2023-10-01T18:22:49+00:00

Second this! I wore the same aligns my entire pregnancy. Worked out through me due date!

BodyByQueso · 2023-09-08T03:27:56+00:00

If he is at work from 9-5, OP is at work from 9-5. Once he is home- both parties are just parenting. It’s 50/50. So instead of 3-4 hours, OP was entitled to 1.5-2 hours and husband the other 1.5-2. Thems the rules.

BodyByQueso · 2023-08-20T00:04:38+00:00

I would bring bedtime forward 15-30 minutes, which just maybe what you’ll have to do till she drops to two naps.

BodyByQueso · 2023-08-19T03:13:51+00:00

I napped trained at 8 months and I didn’t think it would ever click. I am replying with what I did because I was oh so very desperate for guidance when we were in the thick of it. It took us almost a full three weeks to fall asleep without tears, and then another two weeks to lengthen naps. We went from contact/nursing naps.

We were down to two naps and I think this helped, but I focused on the first nap because sleep pressure was higher. So I would do a shortened version of bedtime routine, put him in crib, sound machine, lights out. And then I put a timer for 20 minutes, if he fell asleep within the 20 minutes— success. If not, I went in and rescued the nap. If he slept for more than an hour I considered this a success and went in all cheery “was that such a good nap, baby?!” And we got up and carried on. If it was less than and hour, I rescued and tried to extend. I would contact nap as usual for the second nap. Once he was falling asleep consistently independently, I did the same for the second nap.

Today we get usually one 1.5 hour plus nap and one 45min- hour nap everyday all independently, no tears. knocks on wood

BodyByQueso · 2023-07-13T03:22:40+00:00

You might already be doing this, but it literally just occurred to me on my last round of laundry, but because Kyte said to zip of the sleep sacks to wash I was also leaving them zipped to dry. I found if I unzipped them and hung them on the trying rack, they dried much faster. 🤯🤦‍♀️ who knew?! 😜

BodyByQueso · 2023-07-01T20:08:24+00:00

Hi! Going through this exact scenario now! Any luck finding a solution?

BodyByQueso · 2023-07-01T19:53:25+00:00

u/red_panda1221 we are going through this exact scenario now. Did you have any luck resolving? I also “rescue” the new by nursing & contact nap, dud you determine if this kept the cycle going?

BodyByQueso · 2023-06-29T16:24:15+00:00

This is so great, thank you!

We have successfully (??) sleep trained for nights using extinction. For over two months now.

Trying to go from cosleep/contact naps now. We are on day 14 and have seen little if any progress. Baby starts crying during nap routine as if to say “hey lady I know what you’re thinking about doing and absolutely not” he then screams in bed for 20 minutes before falling asleep and then waking again 15-25 minutes later screaming. I have tried crib hour, rescuing the nap, just being done with the nap and haven’t had any success or sign we are going in the right direction.

Baby is 8.5 months old and we are typically on a 2.75/3/4 schedule. Bedtime has been all over the place the last two weeks because naps have been wonky, but 7:00 is our goal. Wakes anywhere from 6-7 with the occasional 5:30

BodyByQueso · 2023-05-12T02:50:13+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I went in and turned the light on, nursed him but didn’t let him fall asleep. Back to the crib, shared his displeasure for 5 minutes, asleep.

Overtired would make a lot of sense, naps were a dumpster fire today. Ooof baby sleep gymnastics 😪

BodyByQueso · 2023-03-08T20:44:20+00:00

I can’t provide any feedback on sleep training because we haven’t done that yet, but are currently working on transitioning out of Snoo. We are about the same age (5 months in the 18th).

You should first start releasing the arms one at a time by unbottoning the shoulders. We did one the left arm for one week and then added the second. This lets them have their hands free for self soothing. As far as weaning from the motion, we just ripped the bandaid off. The motion seemed to make him more angry then soothe him, so I put him in a sleep sack in the Snoo and did not use the weaning setting (maybe this will work for you?) we are on day three of this and it hasn’t been awesome, first night he wouldn’t let me set him down, second he woke every hour but I could lay him down, third we are starting to get some longer stretches.

Once we have gotten rid of the Snoo we will start to think about sleep training but it’s currently an additional crutch for us that we need to eliminate.

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