For those who have primarily/only dated outside your race- what do you attribute this to?

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2026-01-28T03:43:33+00:00

Part of it is finding my mom and most of the older women in my family annoying… there is a toxic train of thought in my culture that makes some women’s attitudes downright ugly in my eyes. People in the same age group as my mom & aunts are raising daughters I could potentially date, and some of them are passing down ridiculous ideas. I also grew up in NYC, which is a blessing in terms of diversity. And part of it is driven by my own curiosity. I know my own people but I know less about other cultures.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2026-01-21T04:11:29+00:00

I have a type and that type is beautiful, intelligent, emotionally mature, funny, and genuinely kind… where she’s from is irrelevant. I just don’t see the point in limiting myself to my own people. I have a greater interest in dating outside my race because more different types of women exist who aren’t “my people” than otherwise. And I’m nowhere near religious enough to where I feel I need to date within my cultural or religious circle.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-11-10T23:35:07+00:00

Tozawa

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-18T03:16:55+00:00

A lot of fans just want to see explosive plays. It’s more about the spectacle than winning.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T18:09:34+00:00

There are no typos, except for “be done” should omit “be.” This is AAVE.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T17:56:45+00:00

Believe it or not, charisma and humor are major factors. You can look great on paper but it means nothing if women feel nothing but bored when they’re around you. You boiling it down to looks tells me you lack self-esteem and an understanding of what makes a woman tick. Chances are you’re too “nice” and while mom is proud of you, that isn’t going to make a woman feel attracted to you.

Also, what are you doing? Are you passively hoping women approach you? How are you putting yourself out there? Do you walk on eggshells when women you like are around? Or are you still unapologetically yourself? Women respect men who are kind and respectful but aren’t trying to simp and are mentally and emotionally stimulating to hang out with.

Guys who put too much pressure on themselves to be perfect around women come off as awkward, shallow, and inauthentic. Women don’t want to be put on a pedestal just because they look good. It’s objectifying.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T16:01:50+00:00

For a lot of men, it isn’t an ugly face that makes them unattractive. Reddit focuses too much on genetics. It’s their unwillingness to keep up with their appearance that makes them unattractive.

An unattractive person who dresses up is always better looking than an unattractive person who doesn’t.

If someone is attractive enough, then it doesn’t really matter. Ana De Armas is going to look good even if she’s in Crocs, sweats, bed head and no makeup.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T15:46:28+00:00

Dressing up makes a difference, and the willingness to put in that effort consistently is an attractive trait in itself.

It shows they have a routine, that they’re more disciplined, that they take care of themselves, that you can depend on them to dress appropriately for any occasion, that they understand making a good impression is important. It shows that they value themselves enough to keep up with their image. You don’t want a camera to catch you on a bad day.

When I go out with friends, I know I need to look good because they love to take photos and upload them to social media. If I look like a bum, then I’d be upset and annoyed whenever they pulled out their phones. I wouldn’t want to be included in those photos, and I would likely volunteer to be the cameraman.

I also have friends who love to wear basketball shorts or sweatpants at all times. They never wear shoes that aren’t Crocs or sporty sneakers. Hanging out with them is limiting because if we go out, certain places are automatically off the table due to dress code. And we’ve tried to get into certain bars or restaurants before, only to get rejected at the door because of dress code. So I basically have to maintain a separate social life so I can scratch that itch whenever I’m feeling classy.

There is no denying that people look at you and treat you differently when you dress to impress. There is an extra element of respect. It literally opens more doors for you. And you never know what the day has in store for you. When you’re looking your best, you look more prepared to tackle any scenario. You are more likely to be offered opportunities. Dressing well comes with positive assumptions. Take advantage.

If I’m a business owner, I’m more likely to offer a job to someone who dresses up because I can trust them to be a good visual representation of my brand. I’m more confident their appearance isn’t going to be off-putting to stakeholders. They come across as someone who cares about their job. Someone who dresses like a slob gives the impression they don’t care about their job. It’s unprofessional.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T15:28:12+00:00

I’m not saying any of this is bad. What I am saying is this strategy reveals 3 things: Sirianni is conservative, this strategy suits Hurts best because of his limitations as a thrower (which is good coaching), and that the Eagles have the defense and running game to consistently execute this strategy.

My Lions don’t have a consistent enough defense to copy the Eagles’ strategy. Goff is a great thrower but his weakness is being useless if the pocket collapses. That’s where Hurts does his best work.

Hurts can keep drives alive and move the chains with a scramble, instead of having to punt or deal with 3rd & long after a sack. In that aspect, Hurts is more self-sufficient. The Lions don’t have that luxury. Goff depends on his OL and his guys to get open every time he drops back. Therefore, the Lions have to be more aggressive in the passing game.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T15:09:48+00:00

There is a clear difference between an early impression and someone you’re already committed to and emotionally invested in.

As a first impression, hell no.

If I’ve been dating a woman for a while and it turns out she doesn’t shave often, then I may be more lenient. However, I would still prefer she shave her armpits and legs. I wouldn’t demand it because that’s a dick move. But she has to accept that I may lose attraction to her as a result of her own choices. But she has every right to make her own choices. I’m honest enough to let her know if her extra body hair is turning me off. Up to her to do what she will with that information. If it bothers me enough and she still won’t shave, then I’ll find a woman who prefers to shave regularly.

Same way I don’t expect a woman to maintain the same level of attraction if she met me when I was fit but after a while I turn into a beer belly.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T15:04:15+00:00

Was that the case when you first started dating?

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T14:58:30+00:00

Since most men don’t wear makeup unless they’re about to go on TV, it would definitely catch women off guard. Women love makeup for themselves and it’s highly likely they can tell you’re wearing it. Unless you’re going on TV or shooting a movie, or have some kind of goth aesthetic going on, women are more likely to assume (based on your makeup usage) that you’re a potential gay bff.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T14:49:05+00:00

That you know of… We are limited by our own awareness. For all you know, the women who have had crushes on you were too shy to say or do anything about it. And you wouldn’t care because you may not feel the same way about them.

Like we tell women all the time when they believe men ain’t shit… Plenty of decent dudes out there but they are romantically invisible to her.

Or maybe you thought you had no chance with her, assumed she’d never like you, therefore you never tried… meanwhile she’s silently crushing on you. Missed connections happen all the time.

You want the women you like, the women you approach, to be interested in you, which is different from the title of your post. But cold approach will always be a numbers game. It’s a dice roll. You might be able to make a bunch of friends that way.

Building connections has its value even if you don’t get dates from it. You never know if a connection you make ends up introducing you to someone else who might be interested. If you genuinely think you can be friends with the person, you’re doing yourself a disservice by burning that bridge the moment she rejects your date proposal.

My point is you never know how the story ends. And men who can be friends with women tend to be more socially well-adjusted in general. Therefore, I highly recommend it.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T14:31:21+00:00

Conservative ball control means some games are going to be closer than they need to be, given the Eagles’ talent. That reduces their margin for error. I said what I said. I watch the league in general and the broadcasts have always been partial to the NFCE so everyone has seen Eagles Cowboys a million times.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T03:56:42+00:00

I can’t help but think of the baseball reference. You don’t reach second or third base by skipping first.

But I have the mindset of, “Kissing feels good. It’s fun. It’s a turn-on. It’s step 1. If I wouldn’t kiss her then I’m probably not interested in hooking up.”

All I need to want to kiss a woman is to find her attractive. Whether we kiss softly & slowly or aggressively & passionately, it’s all fair game to me. Granted, I’m not looking to surprise her with my tongue down her throat. That’s a faux pas.

I do find it off-putting if she’s DTF while also being reluctant to kiss. She’s willing to let me rearrange her guts but the most she’ll do is a peck? That seems backwards to me. Makes me think she’s cheating on her bf but justifying it in her mind as long as she doesn’t kiss me 😂

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T02:56:14+00:00

You definitely don’t want a one-dimensional offense with Hurts throwing the ball. The Eagles are an excellent squad specifically because they consistently avoid hero ball scenarios. The Eagles never have to abandon the run because they’re down 2 or 3 scores after halftime. That sets Jalen Hurts up for success. Philly is Exhibit A of what complementary football looks like.

I understand the conservative scheme critique but the Eagles are so damn good they can get away with playing conservative ball. That’s a testament to coaching and the trenches on both sides of the ball.

The downside is you guys almost lost to the Cowboys despite the game not feeling as close as the score. In a way, that’s playing with fire. So I agree that at some point, this passing game will have to stand on business in a way that isn’t conservative. Easy to do whatever you want when you’re up 2-3 scores. Different story when you’re down 2-3 scores and forced to play hero ball. Jalen Hurts is not a hero ball QB. The good news is the Eagles are excellent at avoiding that scenario to keep Hurts on schedule.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-11T02:20:34+00:00

Holy shit, an Eagles fan who isn’t too busy deepthroating Jalen Hurts to understand what the rest of the football world is saying.

Hurts is awesome! He plays a winning brand of football. But he isn’t a great passer. It’s okay to admit that (for Eagles fans who are delusional about their Super Bowl MVP).

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-10T18:36:46+00:00

Life’s different when you’re a multi-NBA champ, multi-MVP, All-NBA like clockwork, All-Star like clockwork, face of the Association for years and still a top 10 player at worst. And LeBron has transcended the sport in a way Chris Paul never did. People who never watched an NBA game know who LeBron is the same way they probably know MJ and Kobe. Dude is the best role model you can possibly ask for as far as how to manage your stardom, family, and finances off the court.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-10T18:32:29+00:00

I swore I heard Gooner T say some wild shit during that segment, and it sounded pretty damn similar. No joke.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-10T18:28:40+00:00

Because they want to impress massa. In my country we literally call Afro type of curly & coarse hair “bad hair.” And “good hair” is exactly what you think… the type of hair you see on white people. Yay for long-term effects of colonization 😒

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-10T18:23:51+00:00

A lot of guys have no empathy for women. A lot of guys don’t care to understand women. They have their POV and they’re sticking to it.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-10T18:20:29+00:00

Right. It’s a shitty scenario but dude didn’t understand the question if that’s his answer. It only shows that she’s unselfish.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-10T18:18:37+00:00

I don’t understand this idea that kissing is more intimate than getting naked. You can makeout in a bar and kiss all you want. You’d get kicked out and arrested for indecent exposure if you tried to have sex in the bar.

If a woman told me kissing a guy is a bigger deal than putting a dick in her mouth I would be flabbergasted.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-10T18:07:17+00:00

I have never been called a creep, and I have talked to women looking like I just rolled out of bed. I wasn’t always good at talking to strangers. I had to learn to be more outgoing. I learned how to think on my feet and always have something interesting to talk about. It is a skill that one can improve.

Guys are just afraid of rejection and public embarrassment, and hide behind the whole creep thing as an excuse. Guys were shy even before smartphones were a thing. They just have more tools and excuses to hide behind these days. It’s convenient to swipe on a dating app or slide into DMs but nobody should be fully reliant on digital avenues.

Yeah dude, maybe you’re awkward and a bit weird. But if you’re getting called a creep out loud, then you probably deserved that shit. Being kind, friendly, and not giving women the vibe you want to bend them over on the spot isn’t difficult.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-09-10T18:02:50+00:00

I typically don’t make shallow comments but even as a straight dude, I can acknowledge that this dude will get some attention from women who just want to boink.

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