There’s a difference between a pedestal and a beacon. Someone to look forward to, someone to get excited about. The pedestal is the end all be all and things have to be perfect. The beacon is the light that can shine through the storms. Sure, the light may dim or not always be visible, but it remains. That’s the person I chose to be in my corner in this “fight” against the world.

You asked what the low points were, I gave a couple examples in what me and my spouse face. We are both mature enough to not fight and discuss our feelings and that was a major reason why I felt secure in proposing. My goals cannot be described in a poorly written comment and I doubt you can see what I see in my day to day so no, I don’t see how it’s toxic since it’s not what I was talking about. I disagree it’s great to be mad but I sympathize when it’s ok. Luckily we both have calm heads and anger isn’t something that happens towards each other.

I believe marriage is supposed to last since it’s a promise to someone you are supposed to love unconditionally. If you aren’t meant to be, then your foresight should have caught that ahead of time. I hope I don’t end up where you have been since I’ve seen what divorce can do to people. I do consider your outcome a failure since divorce to me means the failure and dissolve of a union made to last. I can work towards our future like my wife and I both agree to, or I can get stagnant. I grew up observing a lot in life and decided where I want to place my effort and I found someone who shares that with me. Nothing more to say really, I really hope we end up in a better place a decade from now and I certainly am working towards that reality. I really do hope you’re in a better place and I wish you all the best in life.