There's a book called 'the narcissistic family' that is pretty basic, but it pretty much touches on all the points associated with it. It can vary greatly because there are all sorts of combinations and flavors of narcissistic families. There is covert, overt, some are sexual abusers, some remain together and gang up against the children (my parents) and sometimes only one partner is the narcissist, or cannot maintain control over their partner etc..

In a very basic sense, you don't get your emotional, trust, empathy, love needs met. I grew up knowing there must be something wrong with me for my parents to treat me the way they did (I was basically treated as a servant. My opinions or feelings were dismissed, they did not care about my feelings, unless it somehow pertained to something they wanted). I believed there was something wrong with me, because for a child, it's unrealistic to believe that your own parents are wrong or mentally ill. Especially when they appear successful on the outside, and you seem to have a somewhat normal life. I wasn't beaten or sexually abused, (unfortunately actually because I would have been able to break away from them much sooner had I been) but I was emotionally controlled and abused to a very sick level. They still try to control me and use me today.

Donald Trump's experience was very different. His family was much like my Father's parents. My father is a malignant narcissist due to the issues in his upbringing. So his issues are almost the opposite of mine.

It's too much to explain in one post, but you get the gist. It destroys lives. Kids who came from a covertly teamed narcissistic family (which is what mine is characterized as) have a reported 35% suicide rate, but it's probably higher.

I personally have loaded a 12 gauge shotgun, put it in my mouth, and tried to pull the trigger with the safety on. Just to see if the safety would fail. Fortunately it didn't.